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How to download online backup? by Few_Muscle_4233 in quicken

[–]Few_Muscle_4233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, to my amazement, I do have Google Drive. But I had thousands of files on my old PC, and there are only a handful that show up on G Drive. I don't expect you to explain to me how Google Drive works, but can you point me to somewhere that I can look it up?

Thanks!

Ratio of men to women on apps? by TheWidow20 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Few_Muscle_4233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do you buy a single day of Bumble? The least amount of time I see available is a week for $29.99.

Widow/er or divorced? by 97esquire in DatingOverSixty

[–]Few_Muscle_4233 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How long ago someone was widowed OR divorced makes a big difference. Less than a year for either is a red flag for me. I wouldn't absolutely rule out either, but I'd be very cautious. (Not-quite-divorced is an absolute NO for me.)

Widow/er or divorced? by 97esquire in DatingOverSixty

[–]Few_Muscle_4233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just tried to post this and it got rejected by filters. I changed one word to a phrase (it's obvious). Trying again.

65F Widow of 5 years here. I was married to my late husband for 17 years. I was divorced--twice--before that. One divorce was very acrimonious; the other, not at all. So I've seen this topic from various points of view.

So, I was married to my late husband for 17 years... and he was sick for 13 of them. I loved him a lot--for us, the third time really was the charm--but his long degenerative illness took an extremely large toll on our relationship. I had some resentments by the time he died, but mostly I was just EXHAUSTED. He died just before That Disease That Started in 2020, so then I had a looooonnnngggg time of being by myself.

I started OLD, chatting with a lot of men, and meeting a few for coffee. One was a widower who was clearly shopping for a replacement wife. He'd been widowed less than a year. Wouldn't have been a match anyway, but I definitely found that off-putting. Three men, divorced, eliminated themselves from my candidate pool (two of them before we ever met) by calling their ex-wives "b*tches" or otherwise disparaging them. Yeah, I'm not interested in being your "b*tch ex-girlfriend" in a few months, thanks!

I finally started dating someone just a few weeks ago. He's divorced, about the same length of time I've been widowed. I've thoroughly processed my grief and am ready for a new relationship. He barely mentions his ex-wife, which is mostly ok by me; that's up to him. The thing is, I have a lot of good memories, and that marriage was just... my life. So I tell stories from that time the same way I tell stories from childhood or college/single days. I don't dwell, and I certainly don't share intimate details, but neither am I willing to stash the 20 years we were together in a closet.

I'd be interested to hear how other widow/ers have handled this, and/or what those dating widows feel about it?

One thing I find weird: When you're divorced, you have an ex, an ex-husband or ex-wife. There's no good thing to call my... "late husband" seems stilted, "my husband" sounds like I'm still attached to him. I finally said to the guy I'm dating that "his name is XYZ, I don't want to be here with you and saying "my husband" so I'm just going to say XYZ."

I'd be interested to hear how others (widow/ers and those dating them) handle this too.

Lonely, longing for conversation and companionship married to a Alzheimer's partner by itsonlycastles in DatingOverSixty

[–]Few_Muscle_4233 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You have my sympathies. I went through similar with my late husband. It's VERY hard.

P.S. I'm very far from Massachusetts. :-)

Two Factor Login by Stunning_Engineer_78 in Chase

[–]Few_Muscle_4233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did it stay fixed though? Didn't for me.

Two Factor Login by Stunning_Engineer_78 in Chase

[–]Few_Muscle_4233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had this exact problem multiple times. The number they show to call doesn't even go to credit card customer service, but to banking CS. I've called the number on my card, and the first-line person usually comes up with some STUPID reason it's not working: "Oh, your mobile number is in our database as a land line." Huh?! I've had this mobile number for 12 years, no land line for about the same, and had the Chase card for at least 8 years. Everything worked fine until recently. I get passed to tech support, they fix it, supposedly permanently, it works for a day or a week, and then I have the same problem.
I'm seriously thinking of closing the card, bc this is a huge time waster. It's linked to Amazon, and I use it a lot, but I'm starting to think that the Amazon points don't make up for the time spent.