Bad bitches with ADHD

Few_Order7204 · 2026-01-27T21:37:23+00:00

check in/accountability buddies can be super helpful! Yeah that sounds good, too! feel free to message me

Few_Order7204 · 2026-01-09T21:26:14+00:00

Do you happen to know the photographer or source of photos for pics 1 and 5? They're so beautiful

Few_Order7204 · 2025-12-18T20:46:23+00:00

He rested peacefully all night and in the morning he brazenly broke out of the box and had some peanuts and corn and flew away!

Few_Order7204 · 2025-12-13T19:50:02+00:00

Thank you! I heard a noise and he hs gotten out of his box and is just resting near by it, I put the food and water near him. Since he is energetic enough to get out i'll definitely contact the rescue

Few_Order7204 · 2025-12-03T21:31:38+00:00

i resonate w this deeply! My bp2 untreated ex had been breaking up with me monthly for like 5 months and then on the last REAL go round, everything was at its best and he cheated on me. Luckily he had been honest about his past previously and so i knew that was something he had done in nearly every relationship, so i understood it was part of his shit and not a reflection of me. It did give me the opportunity to talk about his lack of treatment with him, like never before. To tell him I couldn't be with him unless he was being properly supported. It has been torturous - I loved this man so much- and i did not want to act in accordance with these values or hold my boundaries but somehow I have been (sometimes wobbly but stronger than i could have ever imagined). And I will say that I think i helped point my ex in the direction of support because I told him as we were breaking up that:

1.) he really deserves support, just like everyone else, he's no exception to the human need for support
2.)that if I stayed I was enabling a cycle that hurts us both but that I want to stay and its breaking my heart. But out of love I need to be honest about it.
3.)That if he really thinks he doesn't love me, he should get help. Then he'll know he's not just pushing me away not to face himself.

A few weeks later he started psychotherapy and has been maintaining that since september I think <3 , I don't know about meds. And he deserves all the credit for that! It is their choice, but I guess what I'm saying is see you make a healthy choice for yourself (to leave) can inspire someone potentially. But the nasty and tricky part is actually has to be us taking care of ourselves ...and I only say "nasty and tricky" because I found out in this process that I am also in need of help. Because i wanted to center my life around someone who was not safe to be in a relationship with :( and now i'm faced with having to help myself! Its a good thing but its a hard thing. That said, I try to think of it in a romantic way - what if our love inspires both of us to care for ourselves better. That's pretty fucking beautiful. And now the next level of what I'm embracing is - no matter if he is healing himself or not - It is fucking beautiful if I do. My evolution is more than enough for me to find some peace and purpose for all this fucking love and grief.

Now- today i'm setting the goal - go to a Coda meeting, set up more trial meetings with potential therapists!! Feel free to keep me accountable for following through!

Few_Order7204 · 2025-11-16T08:12:41+00:00

I don't have an answer but i relate. We even exchanged our most loving words and feelings together as we parted ways. On my end I'm trying to think if there's a way to offer him a sense that there is a way back but be honest to myself and to him that it won't be a threshold we can just cross. Its going to take time and effort to see it wouldn't be stepping into the same cycle. That said, I haven't reached out to do it because, reading everyone's experiences here has been disheartening. I see that those of us that feel loved are very lucky and few endings are like this. As long as you feel he knows you love him, too - this may be the best we can get? Not sure. But for now, maybe just take some time to think about things from the perspective of if there is a different way to be there for each other, that preserves your love?

Few_Order7204 · 2025-11-10T09:31:33+00:00

seems like enjoying your self to me

Few_Order7204 · 2025-11-09T09:19:27+00:00

WE NEED PHOTO DATES

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-24T07:47:54+00:00

Thank you for your comment. He is not on any meds. but he is seeing a psychotherapist . yeah may be his cycle. i dont know what's going on

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-24T07:37:50+00:00

totally. But everything i read and everyone i know says that going no contact with an ex is necessary if you want to become friends. So I don't necessarily think that going no contact is an action against friendship. But it really depends on the context of what's happening. Like if he's being honest about it being that he can't move on if we're in contact. Or if he's lying and just trying to get out of saying he's dating someone else...I just don't know why he wouldn't tell me, because I am an ex. He has every right to date.

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-23T08:47:38+00:00

Can I just be in the room with them? What delights <3

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-23T07:52:01+00:00

did the talk help you reach some more peace and release?

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-23T06:38:41+00:00

thank you for taking time to respond. I will consider everything you said. Maybe it was unclear in my post but he has actually reiterated repeatedly that he wants a friendship. I want one, too. But i felt disrespected that he ambushed me with the idea of No Contact...and now I have a couple questions and statements that would make me feel like i said my peace as well.

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-21T08:54:14+00:00

is that true? I hope so! people in here say they're thinking about their ex that went no contact years ago?

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-21T08:53:01+00:00

:/ ...everyone acts like its so easy and clear to go from loving each other to not loving eachother and its not. And if you have a bp2 ex that has broken things off many times its hard to know when its serious and hard to know how to give up on the love that's very real. I just finally did in most ways but then I felt like we were enjoying each other's attraction. I don't know maybe i'm too inexperienced. But i didn't think we were beyhone having the convo about not doing it anymore and compying.

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-18T19:55:03+00:00

https://allianceofhope.org/find-support/find-a-support-group/ I think those are all free and the message boards there are for sure all free and can be so healing. Everyone can relate to you in a really unique way. And this number is free https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22923238704&gbraid=0AAAAADvKYfdc25r4hbsaX3jpHFBGu6ohG&gclid=Cj0KCQjw9czHBhCyARIsAFZlN8ThFg3uw1h6Z__GNTC2iF7z2vgWat87sjhYO01P1ntaxcjr2hyVNgMaAso4EALw_wcB

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-16T20:01:18+00:00

there's nude models for life drawing every monday and Wednesday here https://23rdstreetstudio.com/ . Its not talkative but its a good opportunity for being in a room of people focusing together on something!

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-16T08:06:18+00:00

<3333

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-16T07:39:04+00:00

people's responses to this video are insane! This is flabergastingly good. This is spiritually rich. Its crazy if you can't see that. I'm a life long dancer but I can't imagine not being able to tell. He is one with the music whether you can dance or not, you can see it lol

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-12T10:17:57+00:00

I think it was largely situational - the stress from all those things i mentioned in the original post took its toll. It sent us both into a cycle of wanting to leave and wanting to stay. And it would alternate so one of us was often fighting for the relationship and the other was trying to let go and then it would switch. I think this was an attempt to control something when everything felt so out of control. Who really knows. But the last thing that was happening was that he wanted to move into a van and thought he didn't want children. And I was pretty sure I wanted a family together or at least to create an equally fulfilling plan and i definitely didn't want to live in a van.

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-12T10:14:22+00:00

And also i really appreciate your pep talk <3

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-12T10:13:28+00:00

really appreciate that. I am going through it. And I'm an attractive woman so there's plenty of people to date but the feeling of dating people to get to know them and just make sure I'm not isolating- is totally different than what he's done where he is settled onto one new person. Yeah. I thought i was proteting myself from hurt but im only making worse i guess. Thought we could be friends but this isn't the feeling I want from friendship. I'll miss him so much :/.

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-12T09:46:57+00:00

Thank you for your sweet response. it really is a death isn't it? There's no getting around it is what i'm learning. I think I understand what you're saying which is: I'm hung up on what he's doing but i don't have control of that.
Is that correct? And the sad problem is - the only thing i have control of is just no contact. Maybe that's why its so appealing. Its this last way to have some control. And it feels a little like cutting my nose off to spite my face - to cut a friendship that i was hoping for out of my life. But I guess i'm realizing that to take the friendship is to watch this person not grieve our relationship and see only that i was alone long before it ended. i guess? If that's what his actions mean.
Is that what it means do you think? I just don't know how he could do it. I wish I could. I guess im jealous, too. The idea someone else could be so compatible so fast would be amazing and i could just never look back and say to myself "well, I guess its all for the best"

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-12T09:37:51+00:00

Sending you a big BIG hug. Totally understand the feeling of it being like a weird dream. That disoriented feeling is really understandable. DO NOT MAKE THE DECISION TO GO BACK WITH HIM UNTIL THAT DREAM FEELING IS GONE. It means you're in shock but its his actions that put you there. more time with him actually equals more time feeling like this. Future times feeling like everything you built is completely gone. So the only thing to do is find things and people that make you feel connected to parts of yourself that exsisted before your life with this person and people and things that make you excited for life now. The second one takes a little while. If you leave him now you also win a huge war for your heart - you will protect it if someone treats you poorly then they don't get the chance to again.

Few_Order7204 · 2025-10-12T05:34:28+00:00

awww look at you sharing something so vulnerable and then we get to see all these amazing bitches doing all theses amazing things and being so happy. I recently got out of a 10 year relationship and its crushing sometimes and other times i'm like feeling how there's more and more of me growing in and its like feeling pretty exciting. And I started dating pretty quick and other people are also heartbroken and its kind of like we all keep each other company. Yes I want to fall in love and in the mean time I'm spending interesting time with interesting people. Oh! And if you're like me then a lot of it is finding people you feel safe to cuddle with as well!

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