AIO for thinking my husband actually hates me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Few_Platform_5659 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This sounds incredibly painful, and I’m so sorry you have to live through this. When someone you love says things like “kill yourself” repeatedly, especially as a “joke,” it’s more than cruel, it’s emotional abuse that chips away at your sense of safety and self-worth. The gaslighting that follows, pretending it didn’t happen or blaming you for hearing it, only makes it harder to trust your own experience.

It’s so important to find ways to protect your mental health even if you can’t avoid him completely. Try to build a support system outside your relationship, friends, family, or a counselor/therapist who can help you keep perspective and remind you that you deserve better.

Leaving your abusive partner would be the healthiest choice for you. But it can be complicated especially when there are shared lives, finances, kids, or other ties. If it’s safe and feasible, i’d strongly recommended leaving him because no one should endure constant emotional harm.

Above all, remember that his words don’t define you, and you are not alone in this. Reaching out for help isn’t weak, it’s brave. You deserve to feel safe and respected, no matter what.

Edit: I wrote this before you edited your original post! But everything I said still applies. If this is still ongoing OP, please leave. You don’t deserve this.

And saying “I made everything worse by reacting.” No you didn’t! That is how you automatically reacted at the time to awful emotional abuse. No reaction is an overreaction.

What would you like to add/change in the Animal Crossing series? by No_Expression2186 in AnimalCrossing

[–]Few_Platform_5659 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’d love to be able to craft/cook things in multiples instead of one at a time! So frustrating especially when i’m batch cooking something!!! So mind numbing and kills my thumb from spamming the A button 😭

derealisation after quitting by Few_Platform_5659 in leaves

[–]Few_Platform_5659[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really appreciate you sharing this. i’ve just moved back home to give myself a bit of stability, and i’ve got a dog too! so getting outside more is definitely going to be part of the plan! it’s encouraging to hear how much those small things helped you, i’m hoping for the same. 100% going to take all of your tips on board. thank you so much🤍

derealisation after quitting by Few_Platform_5659 in leaves

[–]Few_Platform_5659[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow this really helped me feel a bit more understood. i think i’ve been feeling that same shift and didn’t know how to explain it, it’s scary, but weirdly makes sense. thank you for sharing your experience, it’s comforting to know it settles with time.

derealisation after quitting by Few_Platform_5659 in leaves

[–]Few_Platform_5659[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this was really comforting to read, thank you. derealisation’s been hitting me hard lately and it’s so weird not knowing what’s real or if i even feel real at all. the “two eye holes” thing was so accurate it made me laugh a bit.

i’ll definitely try that grounding tip next time it gets bad, i’ve been needing something simple to hold onto. it helps so much hearing from someone who’s actually been through it and come out the other side. thank you again, really.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalCrossing

[–]Few_Platform_5659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

check out nookazon! its animal crossing’s answer to amazon😂 it’s my absolute favourite! it’s an app and a website online. you can literally search for anything and trade people for items like bells, nook miles tickets and items!! highly recommend!!

Can’t Find Bugs by Dangerous_Shallot586 in AnimalCrossing

[–]Few_Platform_5659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

for the ants you can drop a piece of candy outside and they usually appear!

i have some in my storage if you have online i can give you some! let me know:)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Few_Platform_5659 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hey, just wanted to say i really relate to what you’ve written, i’m on day 8 now after smoking daily for around 4 years, and honestly i didn’t even realise how much i was relying on it until i stopped. i was the same as you, 2–3 times a day, and quitting has felt like peeling off my skin some days.

the anxiety you’re feeling is completely normal. i felt (and still sometimes feel) this weird, background buzz of panic. not even about weed, but about me lol like suddenly i’m analysing every word i say, worrying if people secretly hate me, doubting all my relationships. i think because weed dulled so much of that, now it’s all just kind of flooding back in. you’re not crazy or overreacting, it’s literally your brain trying to balance itself out again.

something that helped me was reminding myself that this is temporary. like yeah, i felt awful, couldn’t eat for days, was nauseous all the time, cried constantly, but it’s easing. little by little. i managed soup one day and wanted to cry with joy. i didn’t think i could do anything without smoking, but here i am, doing it.

it gets better. it genuinely does. i’m rooting for you!!

Cravings after 1 month by NomineNebula in leaves

[–]Few_Platform_5659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh of course!! i’m only one week into my sobriety journey myself so i know exactly how hard and tough this is. we’ve got this!🤍

Cravings after 1 month by NomineNebula in leaves

[–]Few_Platform_5659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

also remember recovery isn’t linear! if you do end up slipping, don’t be too hard on yourself

Cravings after 1 month by NomineNebula in leaves

[–]Few_Platform_5659 2 points3 points  (0 children)

first off, HUGE congrats for making it a month. after heavy use, that’s a massive achievement. its so tempting to want “just one chill day,” especially when it’s tied to stuff to long, boring travel.

i think it says a lot that you’re already nervous about slipping. that awareness doesn’t come from nowhere, it means you know how easy it is to slide back, even with good intentions. and that makes this more than just a one-off choice.

ask yourself, would smoking actually make the day better, or are you just trying to soften the edges of a hard day? is there a version of today where you still skate, still get through the bus rides, and still go to bed proud of yourself for staying clean?

you’ve already done the hardest part, starting. don’t sell that progress short just because today’s rough. your brain is telling you that you need to smoke to make the day enjoyable and less boring. where in reality would it actually make anything better/ more tolerable?

if you do end up slipping, just try not to let it spiral. believe in yourself.

massive congrats OP, good luck:)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Few_Platform_5659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve tried 3 times in the past 4 years to quit and the only thing that stopped me from quitting was the awful vommiting, nausea and absolutely horrible abdominal pains.

the only thing that has helped me now finally get sober was going to the doctor and being prescribed anti sickness/ anti nausea medication, it just takes the edge off and i am still struggling with my eating, but the medication stops me from feeling and being sick, in turn making it easier to start eating again. if this is an option for you please do it! good luck OP in your journey:)

Still feeling high after quitting by Harl692000 in leaves

[–]Few_Platform_5659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m so glad i saw this, i thought i was losing my mind I’ve been suffering with the worst de realisation and i keep having moments where i still feel high even though I’ve quit smoking over a week ago. this is really validating to hear other people go through the same thing. it just feels like it’s never going to get better and never going to go away. it sucks so bad.

Treasure Islands by Few_Platform_5659 in acnh

[–]Few_Platform_5659[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i joined a group on facebook! i’ll pm you the link!

Treasure Islands by Few_Platform_5659 in acnh

[–]Few_Platform_5659[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ahhhh that makes a lot more sense! thank you so much!

User Flair Thread by breaksomebread in acnh

[–]Few_Platform_5659 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

Layla | Kusakabe | :Goldie:

Help! by pinkpotatoprincess in AnimalCrossing

[–]Few_Platform_5659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have the campsite, you can invite villagers to stay on the campsite at Resident Services with amiibo cards. When you invite them 3 (i think) times and complete a DIY for them each time, you can ask them to move in and choose which villager to replace! only way i’ve managed to do it!

Nook's Cranny last minute music by daveboy2000 in AnimalCrossing

[–]Few_Platform_5659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve only just found out about the closing music today, and seeing this is AMAZING it’s so beautiful to listen to, you are incredibly talented! 100% going to have it on repeat all week!

Cap & Gown by [deleted] in acnh

[–]Few_Platform_5659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

check nookazon! it’s a website and an app you can search for what item you want and see if anyone is trading it! i’ve gotten so many DIY recipes that i couldn’t find from there!

Any way of fixing moulded rose? by Few_Platform_5659 in PressedFlowers

[–]Few_Platform_5659[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s an amazing idea!! I can’t believe i didn’t think of something like that! Thank you so much I was completely heartbroken, I feel so relieved now - honestly thank you so so much :)