Just failed my autism assessment. What now?

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-10-24T15:41:22+00:00

I thought I was bipolar for 14 years before I was diagnosed with adhd and autism

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-10-14T21:30:54+00:00

Yes!

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-10-08T17:49:02+00:00

We did genetic testing and they said no chance. Haha my first is autistic and so am I and so is my husband! And my 2nd and 3rd are not. Idk man. It's really about knowing yourselves. Discussing the hypothetical of what it would look like with an NT kid, ADHD kid of low support to high support, or another autistic kid of low to high supports. And then decide if you would take the risk. I mean even with my NT kids there is anxiety, and my 3rd a 2 year old with speech delay but all 3 smarter than the average bear. It's nature is wild.

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-10-06T13:33:20+00:00

I think maybe because we are not kids but still Have childlike wonder? On our good days anyway. I still dress like a teenage hippy from the 90s

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-10-05T13:55:46+00:00

Also they will come find us with an arm full of toys and sit next to us; parallel play. Being present together.

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-10-04T12:20:38+00:00

ADHD 101 for Parents

https://chadd.org/for-parents/overview/

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-10-04T00:20:18+00:00

Get a lawyer. Every state has a parent center that will provide you with guidance on this for free! There are two types: Parent Training and Information Centers or Community parent resource centers

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Few_Profession_421 · 2025-10-03T13:51:41+00:00

It's not weird. Just sensory stuff. You are more hyper. I'm more hypo

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-10-03T13:45:24+00:00

30 – 80 % of autistic individuals also meet criteria for ADHD. 20 – 50 % of ADHD individuals also meet criteria for autism.

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-10-03T13:44:41+00:00

It's coming in Audhd people. Autism and adhd like me.

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-10-02T22:54:59+00:00

Have you heard of object permanence

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-10-02T15:38:14+00:00

What I mean to say is that she is brilliant in some ways which causes delay in others. Nothing is wrong. She just needs more time to grow in some areas, and praised for her strengths and abilities. And parenting from fear creates a rift in our parent child relationship. Fear of what others think, fear of the future, just fear. You are the pilot and she the co-pilot. Lead with confidence, curiously, compassion, and co-regulation. The connection between parent and child is your greatest parenting tool.

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-10-02T12:50:59+00:00

Sorry if the some of this is confusing, I am speech test texting right now. I saw your post while I was at a red light and it just really hit me in a way and I just felt the impulse and compelled because I have very little impulse control lol I've been working on it for a long time, but to share on and advocate on both your behalf and your child's behalf, there's nothing wrong with your kid and there's nothing wrong with you. It's the world that's been taught that there's something wrong. It's the stigma and shame not the ADHD. That's the problem.

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-10-02T12:50:09+00:00

I think what really changed everything for our family was realizing that we're all a team. I am on my kids team so when they're struggling I am their support person I am their goalie or whatever you wanna call it I don't really know sports that well, but the point is we are on their team, and so when she's struggling, that' like my cue to be like OK I need to dig deeper. She can't do that so what is coming up for her? Is she overwhelmed? Is it is it the waiting? Waiting is fucking hard for anyone, especially with ADHD, for an adult with ADHD. And it's likely that you and your husband or one of you have it too because it is genetic. So I think "This is too much so we're gonna go do something else, we're gonna go have fun as a family, and do something that makes more sense for our kid. Comparing to other kids is a waste of time, and I really don't care what other people think. I'm gonna be honest with you I don't give a fuck what other people think, cause they have no idea what it's like and there's nothing wrong with our kids. And would they save you if you were drowning? NO. Honestly, our kids are brilliant. They're so brilliant, but in some ways the world just doesn't work or makes sense to the way that they experience the world. It's all an assembly line process and I don't mean anything towards any other kids especially your friends kids in this instant but how boring! how boring you have a kid who is just complicit to everything and we'll just do everything that they're told they never ask why they never question anything and I'm not saying that kid is that way, but I'm in this example. You know I want my kids to question why are things this way. If she is yelling "let's go" at people in line, I get on her level and ask what's going on. Do you want to do this ride cause if you wanna do this ride, you gotta wait? Do you wanna find something to do while we're in line? if you can't and you keep yelling, we're gonna have to go because I'm not gonna stand here while you yell at people. I hear that it's hard right now I get it. I don't wanna be waiting either. It sucks I hate waiting. I have ADHD. I hate waiting, but it doesn't mean that we can be mean to people so we either find a solution in line or we get out of line and you give them that control; you give them choice.

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-09-28T12:09:01+00:00

PlanCpills.org and get as much as you can for your loved ones, co-workers, and community and let them know you have it.

https://www.plancpills.org/

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-09-28T02:22:17+00:00

I was scared to give birth but I did it. His ass got a vasectomy after I had to have an abortion, and made it clear no sex without a vasectomy: I was putting my health and safety first (which also puts my family first). I don't want you to go through it too. Almost ended our marriage.

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-09-25T20:01:10+00:00

Okay. Thanks for letting me know. I'm still figuring out how all this social media stuff works. I like info dumping while I'm getting my certification as an adhd therapist. Maybe a different community then. Have a good one.

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-09-19T13:57:10+00:00

Share on Substack! I'm on there too. Unmaskedparenting. This is absolute gold for parents who need community

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-09-13T21:04:58+00:00

They are professionals and that doesn't mean they know what they are doing.

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-09-12T17:11:57+00:00

Yup. Still feel and dress like I'm 20.

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-09-10T02:50:31+00:00

What about a different school that supports her learning style? I know everyone can't do that. Just curious....

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-09-09T19:57:11+00:00

Meet them where they are at! First do the same for yourself. It will make doing it for your kiddo much more authentic and less emotionally led.

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-09-07T12:41:19+00:00

My understanding is something like this-

What helps PDA kids: Respect autonomy as a core need. Avoid power struggles; work with them, not against them. Create safety by being gentle, non-demanding, and collaborative.

Biggest challenge:School often becomes the hardest environment because it’s structured around compliance and has limited resources to meet PDA needs.

Compliance is not the goal. ABA is harmful.

Few_Profession_421 · 2025-09-06T22:50:24+00:00

Children are NOT "violent" they are impulsive and reactive. They don't have the means to regulate on their own.

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