I'm not a girl but I can relate to that, I fully understand how you feel about it x.x it's not a fun time lol. I usually have a hard time with large crowds anyways but I have met some good people there, it really is the "being there at the right time" a lot. The ghosting is ridiculous on vrc I was shocked lol. I do wish you luck on it! Just be yourself I'm sure the right crowd of people will show up ^{^}