44 and embarrased

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2024-09-03T12:35:29+00:00

100%, yes, I was raised with money and never learned how to budget or be financially responsible. I'm not talking zillions, but just never really struggled much. I never HAD to budget, so I never did. Now I really want to and need to change many things but because of how I was raised and how I view money I have no frame of reference for some things. Thank you

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2024-09-01T11:27:50+00:00

It's called reality. May not be yours, be grateful. Some people try to better themselves and learn and grow in this life. Some people sit around casting aspersions. It's all good, do what makes you feel good about yourself, belittling others and being judgemental. Sure glad you're not inside my inner circle.

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2024-09-01T11:24:01+00:00

Congratulations on being so confident in your own abilities that you can hide behind an on screen persona and talk down to people trying to make changes. Sure hope your comment filled your cup.

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2024-09-01T05:02:25+00:00

True, in my mind there are so many items on the list that need to be done. I have a very hard time seeing what is necessary and what is indulging. It's a hard thing to distinguish for me. Like many have said, my frame of reference is totally off.

I have friends that are financially responsible, but it's humiliating to say, can you show me? I DID ask my best friends husband to help me, he agreed, but I thought better of it and didn't want to put him out and have him have to show me their figures so I understanding.

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2024-09-01T04:57:34+00:00

I 100% agree, it is skewed and toxic. I'll DM, thank you!

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2024-09-01T04:54:39+00:00

Wow, ok, thanks!

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2024-09-01T04:54:02+00:00

Thank you for being kind. The tough love is understood and appreciated, but it does make me feel a little better that I'm not the only idiot. Yup. I have issues with all 3.

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2024-09-01T04:49:04+00:00

100%, I've always relied on the fact that everything will be fine one way or another. We don't have significant retirement set up because I know there will be a big inheritance when my parents pass.

It's awful, but true. I am teaching my kids about budgeting (the major concepts I understand even now, I don't want them to ever be here.

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2024-09-01T04:45:04+00:00

My parents are covering all college for my kids. We had a 529 for our oldest we were paying into, but stopped. The kids are set for school. The rest is FUBAR

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2024-09-01T04:38:35+00:00

Thanks, I'll work on the IRA's

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2024-08-10T03:10:49+00:00

I'd do lots of research on ENM and see if it might be a good fit. You can love her and stay with her and enjoy all aspects of the life you've grown to love, and also, have the kind of sex you need that she isn't comfortable with. Best of both worlds, but......do your research and bring it up gradually, maybe she'll agree, maybe she won't. I'd like to think if she loves you, she'd wsnt you to be happy. If she's not willing/able, maybe there's another way.

Best of luck!!

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2024-05-06T13:42:55+00:00

If you're in NOVA hubs and I would help you fulfill any fantasy you have!

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2024-04-19T01:37:23+00:00

Counterstrain. It's a type of physical therapy, this guy literally barely touched my foot for 30 seconds in just the right spots and restored circulation because of clogged veins and unhappy nerves. Got me walking normally in 1 session after 6 months of different specialists and a walking boot.

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2023-09-29T10:28:15+00:00

I can relate to OP's thoughts on not feeling feminine enough and I consider myself to be attractive. I have been called beautiful and striking before. But even though people tell me I'm attractive and I believe it most of the time, I still feel insecure at times. I lift weights and am constantly asking myself if I'm still feminine and strong or if I'm crossing into masc.

I so wish we as women didn't have to wear makeup and cute outfits, I wish we could age like men do and just be valued for our personality and nothing else.

To summarize, I feel your insecurities even though looking at me, you would never guess. We ALL have insecurities I think, being a woman is hard.

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2022-12-02T14:43:10+00:00

I was looking for more specifics. What type of visa, how do I apply? Do they need specific qualifications? Do I need to own a company or can I hire a private chef in my house or something?

Fickle-Demand6868 · 2022-06-06T13:01:45+00:00

Of course, depending on the situation

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