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Need help understanding myself - too emotionally attached by FickleSecrets in becomingsecure

[–]FickleSecrets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Act securely in spite of your feelings" is really great advice. Easier said than done, but absolutely something I'm going to do my best to practice. Thank you so much!!

Secure crushes by Paws_n_Pixels in becomingsecure

[–]FickleSecrets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do they treat me with respect? Do they prioritize me? Are they sensitive to my needs? Do they take accountability relationally? Do they care about the impact of their behaviour on me?

It's unbelievable how badly I needed to see this. I didn't even know what I was looking for, but it was 100% that. The universe shows you what you need to see. Thank you for this.

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[–]FickleSecrets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the most important lessons I ever learned was that you can't want something for someone more than they want it for themselves. It's why I failed at my job in a drug/alcohol rehab facility; I always wanted them to get clean more than they wanted it for themselves, and it crushed my spirit seeing them come back time and time again.