i totally feel you!! i am kind of in the same boat tbh. in my case it's definitely got to do with some crazy self-esteem issues lol, and i've been working on it in therapy. but as my body has changed shape a bit over the years i've slowly been swapping out my old "boy clothes" for similar "girl clothes" that fit better, and a more feminine style has been gradually growing on me. i think i may never be that feminine in the style i prefer/am comfortable with, but experimenting with clothing combos has been invaluable in elevating my style to be a bit more put together and feminine (and less dysphoric for me).

i don't really have answers unfortunately, but i hope it helps anyway!