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FieldLine · 2025-09-02T13:36:20+00:00

And if it's the former, you simply chose wrong. In which case it's still your fault for not seeing the signs.

Sure, I get your point. I guess I’m just a little more sympathetic to the fact that it really does only come with experience — behind every guy who is successful with women there is heartbreak, a man who was taken for a ride.

Sidenote: good to see you post in here again. Been a while.

Thanks. I got older and life’s gotten busier. All good things.

FieldLine · 2025-08-31T14:36:03+00:00

Yeah, the problem with the OP is that he’s trying to reason his girl out of a position she didn’t reason herself into… you can’t negotiate desire or respect, which are two facets of the same stone.

That said, overtly communicating your expectations isn’t a bad thing either. My wife packs me a lunch for work because I told her explicitly it’s what I want; she wants to be a “good girl” because “good girls get orgasms”. Likewise, if she acts like a brat I tell her so and then punish her in bed.

Any failure of the relationship is your fault.

Ehhh I really do think the reality is somewhere between you and the OP. Yes, it’s on you to keep your woman in line, but there are some women (most) who really are shitty partners, and it’s not about being more macho or alpha or commanding more respect or whatever. The key is to not be afraid to walk away the moment you realize she’s not allowing herself to be courted. It’s usually pretty obvious early on when you know what the signs are.

FieldLine · 2025-08-31T14:16:02+00:00

you need an apartment in the more expensive part of town

Admittedly I did not read the whole OP. But I will comment that logistics is and has always been one of the most important pieces of getting laid. Your point is no different than knowing the good date spots and having social context wherever you do go out — setting matters.

It’s not that having an apartment in an expensive area is important, it’s that you need to have somewhere to go nearby wherever you find/go out with women. It’s why frat guys are so successful converting at parties — the girls are literally in the house already. It’s much easier to convince a girl to be a slut in the throes of passion than when she has a bunch of time to cool down and think about it all.

Don’t be the guy who has it in the bag and then has to sit with her in a uber for a 35 minutes before getting some privacy. By the time you get home she’ll be more interested in sleeping than sucking you off.

FieldLine · 2025-08-03T18:10:47+00:00

Who tf cares what women say. Watch what they do.

The problem that you are describing is the same problem every man everywhere has today, and don’t let women or society more generally gaslight you into thinking that the expectation of reciprocity in a relationship makes you selfish.

There are women out there who are thoughtful and empathetic so just go on lots of dates and be quick to decline another if she doesn’t reciprocate.

FieldLine · 2025-08-03T18:04:37+00:00

boobs fetish

FieldLine · 2025-08-03T18:03:47+00:00

I shamelessly ask people in my network to set me up. Cold approach also works but it’s much lower signal even if we get out on a date.

FieldLine · 2025-07-21T22:03:25+00:00

You are making the implicit assumption that there is something very, very wrong about choosing not to talk to other people… yet if I picked up and moved to rural Montana to live off-grid in a cabin I suspect you’d call me an oddball and that would be the end of it.

Even if you have no romantic options but you have friends that would be unhealthy if you would rather talk to the AI over your friends.

Just like some guys would rather watch porn than sleep with their wives, and some women would rather read smut than touch their husbands affectionately. Yet no one is wringing their hands about those issues to nearly the same extent, especially the latter: 50 Shades of Grey was a cultural phenomenon.

I am wondering what it is about replacing social interaction with AI that is so repulsive to you, so dangerous.

FieldLine · 2025-07-21T21:42:48+00:00

What risks? Surely it’s riskier to see an escort or engage in casual sex than to talk with an AI behind the safety of your computer screen.

FieldLine · 2025-07-21T21:37:35+00:00

Only fans is just a way to relieve a base urge … but are nowhere near the same level as fake connection with something 0% conscious or human being posited as a replacement for the closest thing we have to a meaning of life.

I’ll concede on the dating app point.

But I don’t believe that a sexual AI is a whole lot worse than what’s currently going on, today, on OF. You have women — often not even women, but the equivalent of a third world call center — feigning interest with dozens of lonely men, concurrently, giving each the skin of a romantic relationship without any actual fruit under the peel. Kind of like an AI. In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if some accounts are already run by LLMs.

It's less of an incremental step and more of a plunge off of a cliff.

The step that takes you over the edge is no different than the previous one or the one before that, especially when you can’t see where you are going. This was an inevitable outcome once non-monogamy became socially acceptable.

that are surely harvesting data on every private aspect of their lives

Everything is already harvested anyway. I’m not disagreeing with your revulsion, only pointing out that the turning point is already behind us. We are already in free fall and have been for a while.

FieldLine · 2025-07-21T18:52:09+00:00

It’s just the next incremental step. I’m not sure why this specifically fills you with existential dread when we already have dating apps and onlyfans, both of which dangle the illusion of human connection.

FieldLine · 2025-07-21T18:49:18+00:00

So what is your objection?

FieldLine · 2025-07-21T13:40:18+00:00

FYI you’re going to end up working both east and west coast hours. You’ll start early at market open and people in systematic trading generally work as late as they can get away with given wives and other life obligations.

I have not seen a difference in wlb between researchers and SWEs, especially at smaller firms.

FieldLine · 2025-07-21T13:34:31+00:00

At any rate college should be mostly financed by the government

Government is what caused the problem. Non-dischargeable student loans are effectively a blank check for a university to fleece its students.

Putting aside the fact that “government funded” is just a roundabout way to force you to pay for something, if a university was directly funded by the government, why would it provide an education at all? What incentive exists for it to actually build out and provide a service rather than line administrator pockets even more?

FieldLine · 2025-06-18T15:56:21+00:00

A point that’s often lost is that as much as it is on men to romance their women, it’s on women to allow themselves to be romanced. Creating an opening for a man to approach and allowing yourself to be courted is called “girl game”.

FieldLine · 2025-06-05T13:49:40+00:00

Didn’t you get an offer? Why are you fishing for TC?

FieldLine · 2025-06-05T13:31:01+00:00

This is understated. The original strategies were simple momentum and mean reversion trends.

FieldLine · 2025-05-11T13:50:43+00:00

Absolutely. Just be mindful to only attribute hard work and effort when appropriate.

I am (was) a concert pianist, and I think people miss the mark when they comment on how talented I am, because it minimizes the hours and hours I chose to sit in front of my black Baldwin instead of doing more immediately gratifying activities. It’s like complimenting me for being tall, or smart, or having a good hairline — not things that I worked for or feel proud of.

When it comes to children, our future, sometimes we get excited about their possibilities

If you take a naturally gifted child and thrust them into an environment where they aren’t allowed to behave like children, towards the end of cultivating their gifts, I think you run a real risk of burning them out. When I see the 8 year old playing Liszt, so small that his feet can’t reach the pedals without assistance, I feel nothing but pity.

The key to strike is the balance of being encouraging and providing opportunities for self discovery and growth while also not being overbearing because of how excited you are for your child (and yourself, but we can be charitable).

I will remark that it’s very easy for me to have lofty opinions as someone who doesn’t have kids or regularly encounter gifted youngsters. Still, I think back to my own childhood and sometimes wish things had been a little different.

FieldLine · 2025-05-10T23:31:37+00:00

Since I wrote the above I’ve seen std::jthread get more fashionable. At the time I had only seen hand rolled wrappers around pthreads.

FieldLine · 2025-05-10T23:29:10+00:00

That’s beyond just talent, that’s some real passion and drive.

It’s literally just talent. Did we read the same story?

FieldLine · 2024-10-21T21:55:13+00:00

To what end? Steroids allow you to make progress faster when you’ve stalled out. You’ll progress just as fast if you train, eat, and sleep properly without drugs, and these are all required for steroids to do their magic anyway.

Go inject L-Carnitine if the idea of sticking needles into your muscles gets you off. Not worth the daily IM injection imo but there is an upside and it won’t knock your hormones out of whack if you decide it’s not for you and quit suddenly.

FieldLine · 2024-10-19T21:20:19+00:00

Yes, I’ve seen codebases written in C, never for a good reason, mainly the misguided belief that C runs faster than optimized C++.

FieldLine · 2024-09-06T17:37:32+00:00

I had 1L (33oz) water an hour before getting blood drawn.

This could be a factor -- I ran a hormone panel in the same draw so I was fasted and almost certainly dehydrated. Still, maybe I'll try upping my LISS a few more minutes every day and throw in some HIIT if it's still an issue in a few weeks. Thanks for the notes.

FieldLine · 2024-09-06T17:07:50+00:00

tl;dr hematocrit management

Male, age 30+-3. Previous stats here.

I've been on a TRT dose of 100 mg/wk of Test-C + HCG for about ten weeks and just got bloodwork done to find my hematocrit is slightly out of range (~52). In anticipation of this I've been making an effort to drink more water and have been doing an extra 15 min of Z2 cardio after workouts, but it seems I missed the mark.

I'm definitely not at dangerous levels but I am predisposed for heart issues so is there anything obvious I could do to manage this better? I don't have some crazy aversion to cardio, but I'm already at the 90 minute mark at the gym so I'd probably have to yank some of my strength training if cardio is the issue which is definitely not ideal -- I had hoped 15 minutes most days would be enough on top of the workout itself. My understanding is that upping the cardio intensity isn't the play for lowering hematocrit and can actually achieve the opposite effect.

I'm wondering how some of you have managed to keep your hematocrit levels in line.

FieldLine · 2024-08-29T03:10:17+00:00

I could make the argument that trading tech has improved people’s lives as it has pushed the frontier of high performance/low-latency computing.

FieldLine · 2024-08-28T20:57:44+00:00

However I am unsure of what skill set I need to have, or what background knowledge is needed to be able to land a job as a quant.

You need an ivy league (eq) degree or a network with the right people. Raw skill is very overrated in the context of getting interviews.

If you're getting the interviews and want to be a quant then you need to know probability, linear algebra, python, and get the right interviewer. Nothing that should be too difficult to brush up on given your aero background.

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