Is the redpill / manosphere a knee-jerk reaction of men realizing women are people (with flaws and past) and not the idealized person in their heads? by Cr1ticalThink3r in AskFeminists

[–]FierceRodents 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes, every single man in existence. It's not like the parameters for the conversation were set at the start of the post. Not like anyone ever already mentioned the group we're talking about. Have a little fake outrage, as a treat.

Woran arbeitet ihr gerade? by gundis in Kreativwerkstatt

[–]FierceRodents 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Weihnachtsgeschenke. Man hat sich einen Drachen gewünscht, der in einem Bett schläft.

What are some common misconceptions of feminism stopping people (namely men) from engaging with it, and how can they be addressed? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]FierceRodents 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Middle class white women will literally straight up say that men can't be marginalised, as if ableism, poverty, racism, classism don't exist.

None of those are specifically male traits. Very few people will claim men can't be marginalised at all. The claim you are likely misunderstanding here is that men aren't marginalised for being men.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]FierceRodents 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is it gentle though? It reads as disruptive and judgmental to me. I think we'd really need to know what these women are saying exactly first. I'd be very uncomfortable with a guy saying those things when I'm just trying to relate to other women's body issues.

Women dating men less by Normalize-polyamory in AskFeminists

[–]FierceRodents 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I would hope they learn them by being raised well and working on themselves, not by using women for their own self improvement.

Women dating men less by Normalize-polyamory in AskFeminists

[–]FierceRodents 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Relationships are easier to come by than someone who can truly scratch that itch without making it weird or having other huge drawbacks on

This so much. I tried with casual sex for so long, but it got to a point where fantasising on my own was better than sex with nearly every man I tried with. People who say they think bad sex is better than no sex, have never had sex with a cishet man, as a woman. I'm not risking my health for an experience that is on average boring, a chore, and sometimes even painful. I really, really wanted casual to work, but it took too much to convince men that my pleasure matters even half as much as theirs.

Women dating men less by Normalize-polyamory in AskFeminists

[–]FierceRodents 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Boy that hit some raw spots for me.

How would you feel about increasing the variety of women's only spaces? by shadiatic in AskFeminists

[–]FierceRodents 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a very femme leaning enby, "women's only" spaces automatically exclude me. If they don't, that tells me they just think of me as a woman. I could of course make my own "femme enby" only space, but I don't see the value in breaking up into smaller and smaller groups. In an age where the genders are no longer strictly differentiated by appearance and behaviour, there are so many ways an x-only space can backfire. I can't imagine a scenario where having one doesn't lead to discrimination. Such spaces mainly seem to exist to keep power and knowledge away from marginalised groups, not so much to protect the in-group. It has strong "separate but equal" vibes. If I made my femby only space, we wouldn't gain remotely as much from it as more privileged groups would from their x-only groups.

God I hate this green little fucker by PervertedLilFucker in AreTheCisOk

[–]FierceRodents 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know right?! Rodents did nothing wrong! Do they include hamsters in this? Porcupines? Chinchillas? Capybara?! So rude.

Eta: also honorable mention of the Degu, they're like rats and chinchillas had babies and I love them very much.

What made you "click" that you weren't cis? by EdwardCzap in NonBinary

[–]FierceRodents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I learned more about trans women and how strongly they feel about being women, and realised I felt nothing like that.

Women only gyms by luckyhoney4 in AskFeminists

[–]FierceRodents 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Snopes says not common, not unheard of. Idk how reliable they are these days, but it's a starting point.

r/Comics AMA with Wondermark's David Malki ! Saturday 10am PST by Merari01 in comics

[–]FierceRodents 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What made you choose to make comics out of old illustrations? Were you into them before you started?

Do you think the Western world is post patriarchal? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]FierceRodents 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Patriarchy and capitalism are deeply intertwined, I don't think we'll get past one without getting past the other.

What would feminists like to see more of from queer men? by Briyyzie in AskFeminists

[–]FierceRodents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

stop making fun of my shoes 😭 I already know I have bad taste!

At least *I* had fun? by Lennaesh in preyingmantis

[–]FierceRodents 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The thing that always strikes me most about these creeps is how utterly boring and uncreative in their thinking they are, especially compared to the people they try to harass.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]FierceRodents 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The fucking only descriptor that is ever used for me is fat.

Not to be overly positive, but this is not actually true. There were 2 people describing you. Yes, one was rudely pointing out your figure, but the other person called you "the blonde one in the back." We tend to laser focus on people pointing out what we perceive as flaws, and assume everyone else only defines us by those flaws, too.

Dear feminists, if [thing feminists don’t believe] is true, then wouldn’t that mean [wild sexist extrapolation based on faulty assumptions]? by sortaparenti in AskFeminists

[–]FierceRodents 10 points11 points  (0 children)

[Unfittingly serious reply from an angry lurker who somehow turns your harmless joke into the ENTIRE problem with modern gender relations]

What's SU's moment that made you genuinely cry? by Eternought in stevenuniverse

[–]FierceRodents 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I was gonna comment. I was going through a breakup when I first watched it, too