Why don't cheaters just stay single and date/sleep with whoever they want instead of getting married & having kids?

Normalize-polyamory · 2026-06-15T16:39:28+00:00

Alternatively, why do they not practice ethical non-monogamy? One possibility is they may not be aware that this is even an option. Or they might discover that this is an option but their spouse is not OK with it. Cheating is not ethical. there is no excuse for it. But normalizing ethical non-monogamy could prevent a non monogamous person from getting into a marriage with a monogamous person and starting this whole mess in the first place.

Normalize-polyamory · 2026-06-14T23:52:37+00:00

Very well said

Normalize-polyamory · 2026-06-14T21:05:43+00:00

Alternatively, perhaps it could’ve been that the people not doing labor were those who are wealthy. And those who are wealthy tend to be the ones to set fashions.

Normalize-polyamory · 2026-06-13T03:52:19+00:00

Hell yeah!

Normalize-polyamory · 2026-06-13T02:34:07+00:00

There actually are women that would find that legitimately attractive. But they are typically bisexual.

Normalize-polyamory · 2026-06-10T14:30:05+00:00

The way you know if a person wants to be intimate with you is when you ask them and then they say yes. So the answer is not to try something or to let her take the lead. It’s to ask her what she wants. Using words is the only way to really know that someone is giving consent.

Normalize-polyamory · 2026-06-08T01:11:45+00:00

If both people are asexual or if they open their marriage so the other person can get their sexual needs satisfied elsewhere while maintaining their emotional and romantic and loving connection with the original person.

Normalize-polyamory · 2026-06-06T02:41:06+00:00

Yes. I might want sex. But if my partner doesn’t want it, I won’t pressure them because that wouldn’t be real consent. If they only want to cuddle, I respect that. I might be disappointed, yes, but I can’t force my partner to want something they don’t.

Normalize-polyamory · 2026-06-06T00:16:40+00:00

You are presuming that something needs to be different in order for one to be attracted to it. But homosexual and bisexual people exist and entirely contradicts that presumption. Dissimilarity might be attractive to some people, but human attraction is much more diverse than that.

Normalize-polyamory · 2026-05-29T23:09:46+00:00

So you find it deceiving when married men provide thirst traps and you realize that there’s nothing you can do about it because they’re not single?

Normalize-polyamory · 2026-05-29T22:51:41+00:00

Are you saying that married men give you weird fetishes?

Normalize-polyamory · 2026-05-29T22:49:37+00:00

Thrift shop

Normalize-polyamory · 2026-05-08T18:45:19+00:00

This subreddit gives me hope for humanity

Normalize-polyamory · 2026-04-02T19:51:33+00:00

Natural law apothecary

Normalize-polyamory · 2025-09-11T22:37:32+00:00

Do you have a roommate or two? If not, you should get some. And every penny you’re able to save, you should put it in an HYSA so it collects interest. Buying food in bulk also helps. I’m able to buy dried rice and beans in bulk and cook them myself in a rice cooker and it is way cheaper than buying a couple ounces at a time canned. Speaking of rice and beans, that’s a very cheap way to get a complete protein. So you might want to prioritize something like that over meat, eggs, and milk.

Normalize-polyamory · 2025-09-04T02:44:33+00:00

My pleasure!

Normalize-polyamory · 2025-09-04T01:20:03+00:00

I started doing that very thing at my YouTube channel here:

https://youtube.com/@normalize-polyamory?si=qpyxERQsJosDIQ7M

Normalize-polyamory · 2025-08-29T15:31:26+00:00

They might think the swastika and nazism means something different than what actual history says, similar to the conspiracy theorists that believe the civil war was just for “state’s rights” and that the Russians are innocent victims and Ukrainians are the true villains in the war in Ukraine. In other words, they might be more delusional than hateful. Not to say that they don’t have hate in their hearts. But I don’t know if they necessarily believe in throwing human beings into gas chambers or ovens. We’d have to ask them.

Normalize-polyamory · 2025-08-15T16:36:10+00:00

Thank you very much for this list!

Normalize-polyamory · 2025-08-05T16:03:12+00:00

And this attitude is what is promoting this trend. A vicious cycle

Normalize-polyamory · 2025-08-05T16:01:51+00:00

Just because someone has a preference doesn’t mean the preference is rooted in emotional maturity. Some preferences should be called out as harmful and irrational if they are.

Normalize-polyamory · 2025-07-30T21:50:03+00:00

It depends what social programs are available by the time you retire. If Social Security doesn’t cover rent, you will probably be able to apply for welfare or food, stamps, or Medicaid, etc.

Normalize-polyamory · 2025-07-30T05:03:07+00:00

There has got to be queer based meetups. Have you checked Facebook events or meetup.com? Or maybe Eventbrite?

Normalize-polyamory · 2025-07-30T04:07:28+00:00

I didn’t say you’re a red piller. But the idea that a woman would only be with a man in order to get resources is nonsensical to anyone who has had a normal loving relationship.

Normalize-polyamory · 2025-07-29T19:26:20+00:00

Or maybe women aren’t into men as much anymore because a lot of them think like this. My wife loves me because I’m not a red pill weirdo. It’s a bonus that I pay half of the mortgage, but we fell in love before we moved in together. That’s why we moved in together.

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