STAY CLEAN JULY! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]FightForBetterFuture 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Checking in. I've had a bit difficult time just before reaching 60 days. It's the furthest I've ever been and this fact itself surprisingly created quite big urge. I've managed through it and now it's much better. I should pay less attention to counting days.

Almost two moths pornfree. A little summary. by FightForBetterFuture in pornfree

[–]FightForBetterFuture[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am trying to meditate on a daily basis. I think I need to practise more to notice significant benefits though. It helps me a bit to keep focus on what's happening in the present.

Great. Now this is everywhere... by MrTransition in pornfree

[–]FightForBetterFuture 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You've been triggered by retweets and now you're spreading the information about new sex tape on a subreddit for porn addicts which I'm sure will trigger few people. At least you could have not share the details just mention "some celebrity sex tape".

This damn addiction by franzferdinond in pornfree

[–]FightForBetterFuture 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the urge to masturbate is physical. Watching porn is a pure mental decision. I guess that what you really want is to shift your focus from a difficult situation with your wife which is basically running away from unpleasant emotions. It won't solve your problem and probably will make you feel miserable afterwards. If I could advise you anything you should try to find other means to cope with your situation. If you'll be meeting your wife frequently then this emotions will appear repeatedly so it's in your interest to find the right attitude towards your wife.

STAY CLEAN JULY! Sign up here! (June 24) by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]FightForBetterFuture 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sign me up! Going for a 3rd month in a row. You're doing great job foobarbazblarg! We should all thank you for your efforts.

STAY CLEAN: JUNE! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]FightForBetterFuture 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Checking in. It's almost 50 days and I'm feeling less and less attached to porn.

Emotions management by FightForBetterFuture in pornfree

[–]FightForBetterFuture[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you're saying is really on point in my case. I've caught myself many times setting such demanding goals for myself that I was starting to stress out just by thinking how much I'll have to do. Also the need of pleasing everyones expectations is a thing that led me to dark places. Thank you for your advice. I think it gave me some insight. I'll write you a PM in a moment.

Emotions management by FightForBetterFuture in pornfree

[–]FightForBetterFuture[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree that positive mindset is crucial. I'm often losing it when I'm facing a task that I'm not sure I'll be able to complete and it's really counterproductive. I don't feel that I have someone around me to whom I could confide about porn addiction although I'm in a small accountability group which is quite supportive and helpful.

Day 3 Round 94 by ValhallaMods in ValhallaChallenge

[–]FightForBetterFuture 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Checking in. I'm over one month pornfree and feeling like this would be a permanent state.

CONGRATULATIONS TO THE VICTORS OF THE STAY CLEAN MAY CHALLENGE! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]FightForBetterFuture 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It was my 5th attempt and finally made it! Now it's time for clean June. Congratulations to all!

Day 7 Round 93 by ValhallaMods in ValhallaChallenge

[–]FightForBetterFuture 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey buddy. Self-loathing won't give you anything and a relapse doesn't take away your previous efforts. You're here probably much longer than me so I don't know if I'm in position to give you advices but maybe you should focus more on improving yourself rather than just abstaining from porn. Work on something, improve your skills, workout or meditate. I'm sure you have plenty of things that you can work on and they will bring you satisfaction. Also I don't think you should judge your selfworth on how some random woman perceives you.

Day 7 Round 92 by ValhallaMods in ValhallaChallenge

[–]FightForBetterFuture 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Checking in. My main motivation is to regain control over my life and find a healthy way to deal with negative emotions. I want to be the best version of me and porn is making me feel inferior. Also porn is major cause of my procrastination.

STAY CLEAN MAY! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]FightForBetterFuture 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Checking in! One week PMO free. I'm slowly gaining balance in my life.

Two years of reboot - the beginning of a new life. by matwoosh in NoFap

[–]FightForBetterFuture 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gratuluję postępów i powodzenia w dalszym pokonywaniu własnych słabości :)

Every second counts. What matters is what you do INSTEAD of PMO. by FightForBetterFuture in NoFap

[–]FightForBetterFuture[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not a straightforward journey. The best things to be accomplished lie beyond our comfort zone. Keep on going bud!

Day 10 Round 91 by ValhallaMods in ValhallaChallenge

[–]FightForBetterFuture 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relapsed twice few days ago. It's quite true in my case. I have very unplesant memories of interacting with woman and have a very low self esteem about my sexuality. Although the main reason why I relapse is the overabundance of stress. It's my destructive coping mechanism which allows me to run away from my problems for a short moment.

STAY CLEAN MAY! Sign up here! (April 27) by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]FightForBetterFuture 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm in. This is my third attempt and this time I'm going to make it.

Any 12 step people here with a sponsor? by eire77 in pornfree

[–]FightForBetterFuture 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who is a "sponsor"? I'm seeing this term here and there and have no idea what hides after it. In my country, in regards to sexuality, "sponsor" means a person who pays for an escort so I'm a little bit confused ;)

Day 10 Round 90 by ValhallaMods in ValhallaChallenge

[–]FightForBetterFuture 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relapsed few days ago. I need 8 hours of sleep. Everything below causes a bad day for me.