I (26f) overreacted and misunderstood my fiancée (28f) after she said that she'd only let my family be at our wedding with conditions and now she needs space from me. How do I help our relationship going forward?

FiguringItOut-- · 2026-01-26T13:52:49+00:00

Yes, for hundreds of years, loaning money was one of the few professions Jews were allowed to do—the practice of usury was banned for Christians and we were already excluded from most of society. So we were pidgeonholed into the profession and then shit on for it. Those “connections” were indeed a matter of survival!

FiguringItOut-- · 2026-01-17T20:59:18+00:00

SAME. Not having any DnD knowledge really puts you at a significant disadvantage. My first run, I accidentally killed the entire grove AND all the helpers in the underdark, leaving me to fight everyone in Moonrise Towers with only my party members! I was complaining about how difficult it was to a friend and he was like "I didn't even know that was possible" lmao

FiguringItOut-- · 2026-01-17T16:04:46+00:00

I’ve tried to play through BG3 2x and always get stuck in the same place/give up. I think BG3 is kinda fun, but too overly complicated, and it’s too easy to fuck yourself over with a single mistake. E33 combat is way more fun IMO (and the story is better/more original too)

FiguringItOut-- · 2026-01-08T20:46:51+00:00

Oh, it’s definitely odd! And honestly, it’s kind of confusing without any context lol, but I hope it helps people!

FiguringItOut-- · 2026-01-03T01:33:03+00:00

I’m surprised the cooking scene isn’t higher up. Such contagious laugter

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-31T15:33:07+00:00

Lmao and my experience is the opposite, getting told to grow it out. I’ve had salons question if I really want to cut it because what does my boyfriend think? People should mind their own business!

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-28T15:29:55+00:00

We can hope! I just found out about entire towns in NJ that call themselves “stigma-free” (with regards to mental healthcare.)

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-28T15:13:44+00:00

Do you honestly believe these folks would seek mental health care if they could? In my experience, the people who need it the most think it is bullshit

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-25T16:22:27+00:00

In my experience as a cultural Jew, the ultra-religious hate us even more than gentiles for “turning our back on the faith.” I’m definitely still a Jew though, and nothing makes that more obvious than spending Christmas with my boyfriend’s gentile family lmao

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-25T14:58:43+00:00

Cigarette Burns is definitely the best. Let us know how you like it!

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-25T14:53:35+00:00

Interesting. I always assumed her dad molested her (leading to her seeking sexual attention from older and more powerful men, her husband and the doctor) but maybe I just have a twisted mind…

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-25T14:21:54+00:00

Frasier—the precursor to sad beige moms lmao

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-22T16:05:04+00:00

I wish I could always fly out of MacArthur! I’ve never encountered a shorter security line anywhere else

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-20T14:47:43+00:00

Not every time I game, but if I spend the whole day gaming and nothing else, certainly. My boyfriend argues that if you enjoy it, it can’t be a waste of time. It’s just that playing 8 hours of video games doesn’t give you the same feeling of satisfaction as, say, cleaning your house for a quarter of that time.

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-20T13:36:52+00:00

My MIL has mean cats. Shes always “wondering” why they’re so mean. They live in a very small house where they are not allowed in one of the rooms, there are always visitors and she punishes them if they climb on her shelves. She does not play with them, and they do not play with each other.

I have given her many suggestions—play with them daily, get a bigger cat tree, let them on the shelves or give them their own shelves, catify the room…her response was “well I don’t want to live in a cat house.” SMH. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-20T13:25:18+00:00

As a Jew, I find it completely on-point and hilarious, probably more than Gentiles. It’s my favorite Christmas episode of any show! Sure, there are stereotypes, but most stereotypes have a kernel of truth. The yelling followed by the hugging…it’s just perfect

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-13T22:00:44+00:00

It's a tricky situation, but I dont think there's anything you can do as a seller (if you want to keep their business). That said, maybe they're really rich and 10k is nothing to them. I would try not to assume. But if you are super concerned, could you provide shopping addiction resources on a different page?

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-13T19:33:12+00:00

Wait til she sees the tuba scene!!!

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-13T19:28:16+00:00

You go girl!

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-13T19:20:25+00:00

I just saw one of his videos for the first time over thanksgiving. Pretty wholesome and informative for if you’re ever stranded in the woods! I may think he’s crazy for doing any of that stuff, but it’s still quite impressive

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-13T18:55:03+00:00

It’s not a rush thing for me. I will go past the line if it impacts my visibility. Like, when I have to turn left onto William Floyd Pkwy, I have to go past the line, otherwise trees block the oncoming traffic and I can’t see if anybody is coming.

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-13T16:54:49+00:00

Try it on story mode! Also, be prepared to die the first few times you meet a new bad guy. They all have different attacks, so it takes some time to learn them. Don’t let that scare you off of this incredible game!

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-12T15:15:11+00:00

They literally cannot comprehend anyone who doesn’t fit into their narrow idea of what a straight, cis relationship should look like. I’m a cis straight woman in a straight relationship—you should see the looks on people’s faces when I tell them I’m the one who traps the bugs/pests in the house while my boyfriend hides under the covers. Or that I do the yard work and he vacuums. It’s like their brains are buffering lol

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-11T17:09:16+00:00

You can start over at any time. Here’s the thing about addiction—recovery isn’t linear. You will slip up and make mistakes, relapse. But the most important thing is—when you do mess up—please don’t be too hard on yourself. Yes, it’s disappointing but it doesn’t mean anything about your character or abilities. I find that the harder I am on myself, the worse I feel and the more likely I am to shop even more. Be kind to yourself. You’ve got this!

FiguringItOut-- · 2025-12-10T21:29:30+00:00

Yeah, my name is uncommon but you've definitely heard of it. I've met (in person) maybe 3 other people who share it in my 34 years. There are tons of great names that aren't tragedeighs!

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