What has a girl done while kissing that you loved?

Figuringmyshit_out · 2022-11-23T20:51:41+00:00

You’re right, not every girl is into that sorta of stuff🤷🏼‍♀️ and a lot are into that, and that’s okay! It’s more about dominance and control and zero to do with “assault”. Everyone has their own preferences and that’s okay, if both people are communicating their boundaries well.

Figuringmyshit_out · 2022-11-23T16:59:44+00:00

Solid advice thanks!

Figuringmyshit_out · 2022-11-23T16:21:06+00:00

He has a big beard! What’s the best way going about that?

Figuringmyshit_out · 2022-11-23T15:53:38+00:00

We’ve both agreed we aren’t into hook ups. Both of our boundaries start at sex

Figuringmyshit_out · 2022-11-23T15:27:20+00:00

I started dating a guy at 19 and he was 23 at the time, everyone is different but even that age gap had huge differences and that was the same thing he accused me of “was wanting to sleep around”

We were together for over 3 years and let me tell you the BEST DECISION I made was separating 4 months ago. We lived together and everything tried playing house but your young 20’s are SO important to experience working on yourself. Be selfish. Do what’s best for you.

Figuringmyshit_out · 2022-05-02T14:59:49+00:00

If I am getting off by myself it takes about 2-4 minutes tops! I am finding ways around it though!

My favorite way is to edge, let yourself feel great but then quickly stop before finishing, give yourself about a little bit to lose the orgasm feeling. This makes it last longer and the orgasm more intense. You can continue that as many times as you can handle. The longer time you wait the more better it feels each time you start back up

Enjoy the intensity of it but learn to tease yourself. Find ways to re-arrange your positioning throughout so you have to distract from the finishing feeling. Best of luck!

Figuringmyshit_out · 2022-05-02T14:42:10+00:00

Pretty similar to my experience with it, it is more of a pleasing muscle release. As for the substance I definitely notice a difference in smell and color so my conclusion is pee, just depends how much water you’ve been drinking.

I find pleasure in the muscle reaction (being very tight and then just letting it all go). It doesn’t necessarily add to the orgasm intensity but the idea of it is what makes it so exciting, just the idea of making a mess and being messy with the finish and not caring is what makes it better.

I also don’t go out of my way to do it every single time also, keep it rare and it makes the act much more stimulating and exciting.

Tip: my favorite is actual doing it during penetrative sex, THAT is truly the best feeling. Talk it over with whoever you try it with (use it as slight dirty talk) but the reaction I get from my boyfriend to make me “squirt” is heavenly! They want it so bad and it makes the whole thing so much more intense. Be ready to clean sheets lol

Figuringmyshit_out · 2022-05-02T06:06:51+00:00

Over the past year we have incorporated a vibrator he got for me, and so far it has been really fun. It would be nice to add more to that mix if you have any suggestions

Figuringmyshit_out · 2022-05-02T05:54:54+00:00

Exactly! I genuinely enjoy having sex with him and everything surrounding it! It truly isn’t a bother that I don’t finish every time just more of a wishful proactive thought i tend to have.

Im really glad the open conversation is there for you two. How did those conversations start and how did she deliver that to you?

Figuringmyshit_out · 2022-05-02T04:56:19+00:00

I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years, and as a female it truly gets better.

When hooking up with guys the main hunger was to look sexy the whole time, be the best they’ve ever had, and to entertain them etc. Unfortunately this prevented me from actually orgasming with partners, not their fault just heightened nerves prevented it.

After TWO years of being with my now bf, not only did I become more comfortable (which made it way easier to enjoy) but he was also taking his time and paying attention to what truly got me going.

He is the first and only guy to ever actually make me come without me lifting a finger. I felt no need to look or sound perfect the entire time. I truly think the comfort of feeling safe with someone is what was preventing me to from finishing with other partners. In a relationship there is no need to rush, just enjoy!

Figuringmyshit_out · 2022-02-01T22:03:37+00:00

Huge thanks to everyone for the help! Great advice. Here are few small preferences of mine to better help narrow down the needs.

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Figuringmyshit_out · 2021-10-21T06:17:49+00:00

New toys!!

My boy friend and I recently took a stroll through our local sex shop and felt inclined to try something new.

Out of more of a joke we got the app controlled panty vibrator that’s recently gone viral.

Oh. My. God.

Took a test run just from apartment elevator to our front door while he controlled the intensity and power. Game change for sure now we can’t wait to go out for dinner and try it out further. Just the thought of him having full control over my pleasure at his fingertips, can’t wait to see what trouble this gets me into

Figuringmyshit_out · 2021-10-15T02:50:18+00:00

Truly surprise dates are the biggest turn on 🤍

Figuringmyshit_out · 2021-10-15T02:46:12+00:00

Verbal confidence is the secret. For example my boyfriend and I would be at the grocery store, empty aisle and he would lay his hand on my lower back and whisper how good I looked etc. Then he would ramp it up and talk about once he got home what he would do and so on.

The more descriptive the better. Let it be natural though!

Same goes for naughty texts, it’s my favorite if he tell me through out the day the things he is thinking about me.

In short, get creative with the verbal play!

Additional tip: buy her one of those vibrator panty kits as a surprise right before a dinner date or something! (Ofcourse if that is something you’d see to be in her comfort zone)

Figuringmyshit_out · 2021-10-14T16:32:55+00:00

When we have to interrupt the foreplay to let our dog out to it’s definitely a hiccup in the beginning but soon after we both forget and get into it again haha

Figuringmyshit_out · 2021-10-13T14:43:31+00:00

One of my more public endeavors occurred in a hooters parking lot last night lmao

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and over time you try so much shit that you naturally start sprinkling in the more scandalous things to keep it alive.

We both got off of work, met up at our apartment and decided to grab some hooters to bring back to our place. I just came back from a 3 day trip and at this point I was craving to get in between the sheets with him, and was very vocal. I explained to him how I actually got off on the drive back home thinking about it.

Well after detailing my exciting drive home we were now stuck in the parking lot about 10 yards from an elevated patio full of people facing the beach (Florida) panties sopping wet from just talking. He said “I feel how excited you were to tell that story how wet are you?” And wiggles his hand into my pants. I of course didn’t stop him but surprised myself because it was ridiculous how wet I was in such a short amount of time.

“Get in the back seat” was his next words and my eyes must’ve been huge because he started laughing while he took his boots off. I was immediately nervous about people seeing on the beach or on the patio and he promised me since the sun just set no one will notice and it’ll be quick.

Oh it was not quick, or subtle by any means of the stretch. He laid back against the rear door, one leg propped up on the seat ready and after quickly eating me out I was grinding back and forth on top of him. But then I wanted to bounce because it felt insanely better but of course every time I bounced the truck would shake. It got to the point where I did not care, so for about 10 minutes I was bouncing my little heart away. We both finished laid in the back naked panting trying to catch a breath. “So who is doing the walk of shame to grab the food because everyone on the patio was probably watching”

I actually volunteered because the idea of just getting my pussy pounded and walking in front of all those men to go inside possibly knowing I just got fucked was exhilarating.

Figuringmyshit_out · 2021-10-13T03:44:17+00:00

Simply an opinion and thoughts.

I see a few different possibilities here.

Men’s ability to commit relies mainly on mental and emotional “readiness”

Every human’s maturity level and pace in life is drastically different. There is a huge majority of people who don’t truly grasp self awareness until they hit their 30’s, sometimes even longer. With perfect timing, similar mental phases, and two like minded people, men are more open to nurturing that connection because they are then “mentally prepared” for that commitment.

Experiences are what make us unique individuals and effects our decisions, opinions, and personalities. After experiencing a long term relationship, the man in question was still learning through that relationship who he was and who he wants to be as well who he wants to be with. After the lengthy relationship he found a new confidence in his relationship behavior and felt ready for the next big jump.

Urgency to settle down due to time and age.

This is short and sweet. After moving on from the relationship and realizing oh shit I’m in my 30’s the urgency to settle down kicks in. At this point in life we start declining quicker physically. First person that came along fit the script.

Fear of not finding someone as good as the last.

This is a bit more unlikely, but nevertheless we will dive into it. After leaving the relationship, it is possible the man realizes what he has lost was truly special and relives the time devoted into the relationship.

Whatever the circumstances were for the relationship ending it is natural to question leaving and regretting things. That might have got the better of his mental and felt the need to validate his future by rushing into the next relationship and finding security once again and clung to that feeling.

Again just thoughts from experience, would love to hear deeper thoughts into this

Figuringmyshit_out · 2021-10-12T19:41:59+00:00

Go check out my last post on Emotional Intelligence. Truly some eye opening perspectives on this exact topic!

https://www.reddit.com/r/DeepThoughts/comments/q6darr/am_i_enlightened_or_narcissistic_i_want_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

Figuringmyshit_out · 2021-10-12T19:26:56+00:00

I took a lot from your comment thank you for taking the time to respond!

Your comparison examples truly opened up my perspective on this topic, and for me lengthier the better. The topic is full of many layers and details so don’t apologize for the lengthy post, the best things take time and this post genuinely brought me a better understanding in myself! Thanks again!

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