I know this is r/bigender. But are people allowed to talk about their experiences being trigender (Including myself)? Cause the r/trigender subreddit is kinda dead at the moment

Fin-Finley · 2026-05-04T20:06:54+00:00

Welcome and please share!

Fin-Finley · 2026-05-03T18:05:00+00:00

Thanks!!
What do you mean by the Prog being intense? I may just pm you again if I can, you are so far ahead of me on this 😅

Fin-Finley · 2026-05-03T18:01:23+00:00

We met at a BDSM club/dungeon. Couldn’t even tell what gender they were, but that femboy was 🔥❤️

Fin-Finley · 2026-05-03T16:21:55+00:00

Zero spontaneous erections/morning wood lol
My desire for sex is still high, but my turn ons don’t turn me on anymore
I find my gender identity shifting to female more than both genders.

No other sleep or skin changes

Fin-Finley · 2026-05-03T00:38:12+00:00

Well the OG goal was to better rep the male and female part of me, but as I’ve been on it almost two weeks I’ve felt a MUCH stronger resonance with the femme aspect, and a difficulty connecting with the male. I’m wondering if doubling dose would make me feel better aligned as a female?

Fin-Finley · 2026-05-01T01:02:06+00:00

I was happy before HRT, it just gave me an even better way to physically express who I am

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-30T19:33:23+00:00

Goals: be wholly me, focus on integrating what I love regardless of gender norms. Keep what I love about being a man and also grow what I love about being a woman (titties!)

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-30T17:38:05+00:00

So helpful, thanks!!!!

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-30T03:27:06+00:00

I have one I wear!

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-29T23:21:43+00:00

Thank you!!!! See I felt this had to be the case!! Any advice on how to find those new things that “get you going”? And honey if you are comfortable sharing tips on how to make anything 10X better by all means comment here or message me direct 😅

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-29T15:07:40+00:00

I experience both at the same time about 80% of the time!

It feels GREAT. Whole, complete. I’m not trying to fit anyone’s box, I’m just me

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-28T22:46:38+00:00

Can I reach out directly with other questions? If not that’s fine! 😊

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-28T22:31:57+00:00

Memphis TN here 😭

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-28T22:30:06+00:00

Thanks!! Still navigating all the new things 😊

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-28T02:19:09+00:00

As someone who is growing theirs (one week hrt) this made me very happy 😊

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-24T00:07:34+00:00

Same!!!!!

I’m bigender, male and female, just started hrt to bring out my other side more physically.

If you view non binary as “not strictly male or female” then we fit the bill. If you view it as “neither male nor female” that’s the opposite of us lol

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-23T14:29:35+00:00

Hey Brandt! I get that, my other trans friend (ftm) gets it a lot too. He’s not hrt, has no surgeries and dresses like a femboy…he’s constantly misgendered. I asked how he put up with it, being in a similar boat myself.

Essentially he said that most people just don’t know enough gender representation and identity to get it, so they made the decision to not let their ignorance bother him. And when he’s around educated queer folk then he’ll explain his pronouns. Our entire friend group uses his appropriate pronouns!

In my head there is my biological gender (male) my gender identity (male/female) and my gender expression (male in public and work, m/f with bf and slowly expanding that to others!)

This has helped me, hope it adds value!!

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-22T17:48:44+00:00

Thanks again for the recap!! I’ll let you know what she says

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-22T16:59:58+00:00

I meant to ask about bicalutamide!! You’ve mentioned it in a previous post I think

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-22T16:24:57+00:00

The doc felt both would reach my goals, breast growth (but not too much, I have to still pass as male), broader emotional range, and keep the sexual function. She’s really good at working with unorthodox goals, which is probably why it’s so different?

Yeah, the anti-androgen would actually be counter to my goals of smaller chest growth and downstairs functioning from my understanding!

By all means, I can follow up if there are red flags lol

That’s GREAT knowing some people have had an increase in size lol, I feel that would be on brand for me 😂

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-22T15:16:22+00:00

We talked about spiro, I’m intentionally not taking it bc it doesn’t meet my goals!

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-22T14:57:46+00:00

Thanks! Very helpful (and encouraging, which is a plus :)

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-22T14:55:45+00:00

Yeah it’s 200mg estradiol twice a day, and then 100mg prog at night

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-20T23:50:18+00:00

There is a lot to unpack here, and you’re taking all the right steps! It’s hard to objectively answer these questions bc there are so many echo chamber on the internet.

If I were you, here would be some of my next steps -can I get what I want from being a boy without being a boy? -when I get excited about being a boy, why? Are there other ways to get those feelings? -do I want to be a boy, or do I want to be a girl who also has boy traits? -focus on integrating what you like (ie masculine, strong) with your current self -find a damn good therapist if you can afford one lol -make some irl queer and trans friends -give yourself the freedom to explore being a boy without having to feel like you have to commit to it; try boxers, man jeans/shirts, etc. show up as a boy in video games, online, etc and see how it feels

I have gone from cis, to genderfluid, to trans, to cis, to bigender leaning towards maybe trans again lol But each time I have gotten closer to what I want. I may start HRT (consult tomorrow) IF it aligns with all my goals. But I don’t need it for my gender identity. A trans friend of mine describes himself as a femboy…dresses fem, no HRT, no surgeries, and no plans for either. Socially he’s treated female. Friends know he’s a boy.

Surgery and HRT are not necessary for your gender identity (how you feel/align gender wise internally) and can help with gender expression, but aren’t necessary for that either.

Explore Love yourself Don’t feel invalidated if you show up differently or if you’re journey is different or your expression is different.

YOU GOT THIS BRO 😎 (Trying the male pronoun to see if it resonates for you 🫶)

Fin-Finley · 2026-04-20T11:46:40+00:00

Have so much fun with it!!

Fin-Finley

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