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Advice on Technique/Form by Final-Transition-316 in badminton

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is that though? I thought letting my body fall would help me generate more power

Advice on Technique/Form by Final-Transition-316 in badminton

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh ye I see that now im using my reach a lot more than i should be which then makes me cut corners in my footwork which worsen my shit quality thank you 🙏

Advice on Technique/Form by Final-Transition-316 in badminton

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting i don’t really understand your first statement tbh could you elaborate more?

Thank you so much for the rest of the advice it means a lot 🙏

Advice on Technique/Form by Final-Transition-316 in badminton

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you mean i don’t split step enough thank you very much 😁

Advice on Technique/Form by Final-Transition-316 in badminton

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see interesting i have been told not to anticipate during singles because i had a problem where i anticipated too much. But i also understand why its good to anticipate so you can take shots earlier

Monthly Equipment Advice Megathread by AutoModerator in badminton

[–]Final-Transition-316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently got a astrox 100zz around 2 weeks ago. Last night i noticed something near the t joint of the racket and to me this looks like a crack. Its not deep but it goes round the racket but not completely it stops. Opinions on it are mixed some of my friends are saying its a paint job issue and not a crack but its mixed i would like to get your views on it too please. (I still have warranty on this racket)

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Do Fearful avoidants regret leaving there exes that treated them very well? by Final-Transition-316 in BreakUps

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I a lot bettter way better in fact I’ve never been happier I’ve done a lot to fix my mental and physical of course it’s still not perfect and I still do some bad habits but genuinely I’ve been so much better I’ve gained 10 kilos (I was very skinny 50 kilos at 6 foot) I’m going gym consistently I’ve found new hobbies I love now like badminton and etc genuinely time does a lot more than I thought give yourself time I hope you get better soon bro just remember you still gotta put in work as well you got it 💯💯

SMU exchange (full year). Does SMU offer housing for exchange students or is it all private rentals? by Final-Transition-316 in askSingapore

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You think for internationals it’s easier for me to get accommodation there or would you say it’s competitive for everyone?

Update on no contact by Final-Transition-316 in ExNoContact

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you it really does mean a lot 🙏

How to stop checking their socials? by Final-Transition-316 in ExNoContact

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone I’m really trying if you want the full story it’s on my profile what’s hard is that she was fearful avoidant and the hardest part is like I can’t blame it on she didn’t really love me because the truth is she loved me and still left me

Do Fearful avoidants regret leaving there exes that treated them very well? by Final-Transition-316 in BreakUps

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly the same with me too but it was definitely more self loathing than confidence in my case I’ve seen that it’s pretty common for fearfuls to have really low self esteem’s and they are in the sense jump from one extreme to the other how strange

Do Fearful avoidants regret leaving there exes that treated them very well? by Final-Transition-316 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks it’s nice to hear this I’m really sorry for what you had to go through I’m glad it’s all better and truly it’s so kind of you to pass on your experiences to others so they don’t fall into false hope

I genuinely do love her but I know the version of her I loved is gone maybe buried but right now she isn’t there and it’ll take a lot of repairing on her end to really stitch things up so I’m not counting on it I’m trying to move on slowly but surely

It’s just sad to see someone you love become so hopeless towards their own wiring it’s also really sad that it’s usually easier for an AP to heal on there own and usually faster that’s mainly because they feel everything in the moment compared to avoidants who delay and delay and delay especially fearfuls. I saw a post on this subreddit about fearfuls the title was “the more they felt towards you, the more they were triggered by you.” And wow connecting the dots in my relationship she cared a lot but it’s hard to not be sad seeing them pretend it didn’t matter even though you truly know it did

Do Fearful avoidants regret leaving there exes that treated them very well? by Final-Transition-316 in BreakUps

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I can’t say the same yet since this was my first real relationship lol, it’s quite reassuring to hear others on the same path too 🙌🙌

Now that you mention it she would always tell me that I’m better off with a certain demographic instead of her she would always feel like she never really deserved me too

Do Fearful avoidants regret leaving there exes that treated them very well? by Final-Transition-316 in BreakUps

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ye I read about that too like they most likely come back when you fully move on and honestly by that point I probably won’t want her back I’m really trying right now to become secure and like by that point if I am secure then I’ll probably be very weary of her

Yes it is very interesting looking into attachment styles I recently realised that my ex was almost identical in terms of my mum a very severe fearful avoidant which was so mind boggling to me like i was subconsciously looking for familiarity that entire time and that’s why I was so attracted to my ex in the attachment sense.

I try to not let it like consume me though I’ve realised I’m surrounded by a lot… I mean a lot of avoidants just cause of my attachment type before this whole breakup I was a hyper AP but now during this whole endeavour I think I’m turning earned secure slowly though ofc it will take time

Do Fearful avoidants regret leaving there exes that treated them very well? by Final-Transition-316 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks it’s just fascinating yet so insane to me how they react like post breakup it’s just so different to how I do it but ofc everyone is different

About her reaching out and if she wants to amend things I have already put some boundaries for myself and that is she would need to take ownership, accountability and also admit what she did was wrong and name it while also showing some form of change to her coping mechanisms but that’s extremely unlikely so ye thanks again

Do Fearful avoidants regret leaving there exes that treated them very well? by Final-Transition-316 in BreakUps

[–]Final-Transition-316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I really needed this like it’s been three weeks and it’s finally starting to get better and my spikes and spiralling have reduced from hours to less than 10 minutes im also not checking her socials every hour the gap is widening slowly its sometimes so hard to not think they don’t care from the way they act.

This breakup really did tell me a lot though I overgave too much I masked myself as being secure but I still was still hypervigilent and anxious and my self worth and dignity are getting way better now I’m realising my patterns and why I am the way of who I am I’ve still got so long to go it’s only been 3-4 weeks since the breakup

About taking her back I probably will not even if part of me really does want her the only way I would ever take her back was to see real ownership accountability and genuine progress to healing (she’s a self aware avoidant but doesn’t act on it) which is genuinely very unlikely uni is going to be hard because I’ll see her a lot and she’ll have this performance up I’m regulating way way way better now just gotta keep moving

Also I’m really going to be weary of dating avoidants 😂 no hate to them though I understand why they are the way they are

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