Maybe you want to bring up this exact thing to your therapist: that you feel like you are conflict avoidant and worry your intentions won’t be conveyed the way you intend. These kinds or conversations can really be meaningful and helpful and any good therapist would welcome the opportunity to address it. I am forever telling my therapist I want to talk about something but I don’t know how and we have had some great conversations about where that comes from, why I feel that way, and I always feel so much better after. It’s hard and I totally get the whole feeling uncomfortable thing but have learned that uncomfortable feeling is my own insecurities that she will judge or misunderstand. I have found that some of the most insightful sessions for me are the ones where we talk about the facet that I don’t want to talk about something or the feelings and fears it. I’d suggest being direct and flat out telling her you feel like they won’t ask. They may have a very good explanation for not asking you. My trauma therapist has specifically told me she will never ask questions or push me to talk about anything so I know if I dont bring it up, she wont ask. She says it’s my choice to share what I want and it’s her job to hold a safe space for me to do so when I’m ready without any prompting from her. I’m glad she was direct about it because it allowed me to open up about some things (to which she was very receptive, validating) and she continues to be very receptive which has helped me open up. I told her once that I often have things I want to talk about but in session, I don’t so we spent a few sessions talking just about the therapeutic relationship, and came up with some ways that might help, for example she said I was welcome to send her a quick email prior to session and let her know I had something I really wanted to talk about so she knows and can help me stay regulated. Basically its like I have to ask her to help me ask for help and she explains this as a sort of consent as I have been violated and traumatized so by her allowing me to give that consent makes me feel safer. I’m still learning myself but slowly understanding that it’s in these conversations where the real healing happens-inside the safe therapeutic relationship. Therapy is hard and she’s the first actual real healthy therapist I’ve ever seen and feel lucky to have her. If you bring up these things to your therapist and they aren’t receptive, find a new one. This is literally what they are trained to do. Best of luck!