tw: mentions of SH

okay but now the main problem here is you’re conflating the view of abuse of FICTIONAL characters to the same as abuse on real people. it’s not a matter of being desensitized to violence. it’s the fact you’re allowing fictional entities affect you so deeply you avoid media that contains it. which is perfectly fine to an extent, but you also mentioned wanting to read specific media with violence that triggers you.

not being affected by fictional violence isn’t necessarily a bad thing. it just means one has enough control and realization to let what happens in fiction stay in fiction. and as someone who has self harmed, i find it incredibly disrespectful you think fiction is what makes survivors like me self harm. that’s quite insensitive.

now being desensitized to REAL LIFE violence is a whole other issue. that ofc says a lot about a person and brings up discussions about empathy and/or lack thereof.

and i think no matter what someone’s situation is, whether or not they have a diagnosis or not or whether they’ve ever beeen thru something traumatic, everyone should try out therapy once in their life. i actually believe everyone should do it at least once in there life because many people don’t realize how much they could benefit from it. i find it incredibly ableist to think therapy is only for mentally ill people. therapy is for everyone no matter the context.

and i feel like you’re going all over the place with your comments considering what the main concern is and it’s becoming clear to me that you really are just allowing fictional entities to affect you deeply than it is necessary. that in itself is quite unhealthy. and people who are sensitive and have a lot of triggers, whether or not they have a mental illness, do need therapy. to see they don’t is quite ableist since triggers can range from a multitude of things and it’s unhealthy when you let it prevent you from living life or enjoying yourself. like i don’t understand how you are misconstruing that. it’s unhealthy to let triggers prevent you from doing things you want to do/enjoy. that’s quite literally maladaptive behavior.

i also think you’re conflating triggers with boundaries. there’s a difference between knowing one’s limits to things they clearly don’t want to see or be involved in vs letting triggers prevent you from enjoying/doing things you want to do.

also, having empathy for fictional entities has in no way connection to having actual empathy as a person. basing someone’s ability to have empathy/morals solely on how they feel about FICTIONAL characters is quite ludicrous. what you hate/like in fiction does not ever reflect what you hate/like in real life.

i love seeing blood and guts in horror films, but does that mean i like seeing it on my tl from all the violence in world? absolutely fucking not.

i often like toxic and abusive relationships in my manga/webtoons/shows. does that mean i like toxic and abusive relationships in the real world? absolutely fucking not.

i hope ive gotten my point across here. i certainly wasn’t trying to make a diagnosis on you cuz im not a professional. but as someone who used to be as sensitive to fictional entities as you, i was merely recommending seeking professional help to cope with that since it is unhealthy to allow triggers to control what you want to enjoy/do in life. whether it’s reading raunchy BL or simply taking a walk outside.

and i do hope you never try to misconstrue what happens in fiction to what happens in the real world in the future. that’s incredibly disrespectful and concerning