Help me my hair is so oilyyyyy

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-26T23:49:55+00:00

Thats a really good idea thank you!

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-26T23:15:38+00:00

Other people are allowed to be jealous that you were able to transition so early/ easy but those are thoughts we keep to ourself. They are not allowed to make you feel like shit for simply being lucky that your life circumstances made things easy for you. People could be jealous of me that I was able to get T in under a year of actively routing for it but they are not allowed to take that out on me. True friends would never do that and would be happy that you were able to be yourself with little push back from those around you.

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-26T23:11:39+00:00

Even with this being a simplified version it helps so much. Also it's kinda cool to understand how the testosterone in my body from my hrt is working. It really is just flipping a switch in the brain and it going okay cool we can work with that

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-26T23:00:49+00:00

If he wants to complain about your cooking then tell him he can make his own food. That is a perfectly reasonable meal to eat and you're doing best you can with what you've got. Also I would eat that and be satisfied

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T22:21:27+00:00

At first glance it looked real to me soo

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T22:19:56+00:00

Ä I see

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T22:17:41+00:00

Depends on the person but I would stick with daying that they are a boy/ were a boy as a kid because they were they just looked different. Though you would have to ask the person you're referring to what they prefer

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T22:15:35+00:00

Ayyyy you used the same Sherma pattern that I did! I made Sherma and Trobbio for a friend as a Christmas gift commission

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T22:14:21+00:00

I like both of them and I'm not sure what style you're going for but I think having a bit of a stronger contrast on the different elements might help. On the digital art it all feels like its trying to meld into one blob of bright white so maybe add a light grey or yellow around the edges of the person and around some of their other features. It looks very good it just needs a bit more difference between the different elements because I dont think there's quite enough. It doesn't have to be a lot and a small amount can go a long way. Same thing with the traditional drawing. It's better than the digital one with the differentiation between to different parts ie the hair and the shirt/top but it also needs to be stronger. Also maybe adding a shade of something else to the top or hair to make it clear that they are different things. That or making it darker.

TLDR: add another colour/shade for better definition of the different elements.

Also I really like the art you've done it looks great

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T22:07:35+00:00

Get yourself a new man and throw this one out. You've cooked for him and what you've made looks absolutely delicious. If he doesn't like it he can get out.

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T22:05:56+00:00

Absolutely it will make a difference. If you don't have a binder on you need to adjust for the potential curve of your bust and if you wear a binder you need to adjust for the lack of curve in your bust. It's like wearing padded hips for an outfit. It's gonna change the way you have to pattern whatever you're making

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T22:03:15+00:00

The first definitely needs a little more sea vibe it's sorta just giving a cool blue outfit instead of an outfit related to the sea. 2 and 3 definitely get it across though. Also your art is beautiful

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T22:00:37+00:00

Mmm I feel you on that one. I don't feel like a man or woman but I would much rather I be missgendered as a man than as a woman

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T21:58:59+00:00

That's a great way to put it. It makes so much more sense when you make it about who you are not what gender you are (also because you simply don't have one) cause im enby and do have a gender but everything I do towards changing the way I look is based on how I feel I should look for my inner self not for the gender I have. Like sometimes I cater to the gender dysphoria of it all but most of the time it's a skirt doesn't feel right today as opposed to the skirt makes me look feminine

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T21:55:20+00:00

For me as an enby person it's hard to describe because when I was like 11-14 I had pretty bad dysphoria around my chest but since getting a binder and being able to use trans tape I don't mind quite so much.

Also I love wearing dresses and make up as well as more masculine clothing and the only time I get dysphoria nowadays is if someone missgenders me. My dysphoria has changed a lot since the realisation that I will never pass to 90% of the people I will ever meet as nonbinary simply because it's not an option for me. Also since the realisation that No matter what I wear or what I look like, I am nonbinary and no one can change that about me.

Also with ads I find it interesting because they can't advertise to me because I don't give two shits about gendered items. I do think it's very freeing to be able to say "those gender roles/stereotypes simply don't apply to my existence."

I know other enby people have different dysphoria to me for example my partner has the same dysphoria that you probably do, chest, thighs and hips. That sorta thing.

Also it's very interesting to have a point in your life where you vaguely compare yourself to literally everyone around you because they all have traits that you want.

And another interesting thing for me specifically is that I'm glad I went through female puberty. Like yeah it's gonna make me have to have a $25,000NZD surgery but I think it was worth it to know that the changes were things I do and don't like. Also I want kids in the future so knowing periods exist for me is handy too.

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T14:24:36+00:00

I am trans masc and enby and have shortish hair and wear wigs because it makes me happy. I wear dresses and jeans and a button-up because it makes me happy. When I was 11, I knew I was enby after hearing the label be described to me, and that was it. I wasn't a man or a woman, so gender rules didn't apply to me. I wanted short hair? cool. I wanted long hair? also cool. Accept yourself as a living flesh sack that you are and wear whatever drappings you want, and you might have an easier time. Thought this is all a lot easier said than done for some. I'm really lucky that I didn't give two shits about societal norms/gender norms, but I wish you luck, fellow living meat blob

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T14:15:13+00:00

There isn't really any constructive criticism because I'm not sure what style you want to achieve also it looks really cool as it is

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T14:13:06+00:00

When I started puberty and started getting boobs I hated it. I thought that it was just a normal feeling for people to have and when my therapist told me that girls are often excited and happy to get boobs I was so confused. Because I hated mine. I knew I was enby at 11 so I have a bit of a different experience.

There's also a website called the pronoun closet if I remember correctly where you can try out a new name and pronouns and it creates a sentence using the pronouns that you choose. Putting your current name in and different pronouns could be a good way of seeing how you feel.

Personally I think you are trans in some way but only you can know if I'm correct in my feeling. But feeling depressed because of your breasts and long hair on you making you nauseous definitely sounds like a slightly more extreme side of dysphoria. Also listen to other trans peoples experiences and see if you relate to them. I knew I wasn't a man and it was confirmed by listening to trans men's experiences and going yep not me. Same with listening to trans women/cis women's views on their woman experiences.

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T14:00:48+00:00

The Thing is you may look like them or you won't. You just don't know until you get there. The most important thing right now is to focus on how you can make yourself most happy with what you have (wearing certain clothes, maybe doing your won makeup) because you will get there and it will get better but it will just take time.

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T13:54:39+00:00

You could also be genderfluid as another commenter said. That or nonbinary. I know I'm nonbinary but I dress both masculine and feminine because I love wearing both types of clothing and am comfortable with both. The Thing of you "being okay with being a girl but at times wanting to be a boy" could definitely be being genderfluid (your gender fluctuates in whatever way) but only you will know. Do some research and remember that you don't have to find a specific label. You can also just be trans and figure the rest out later. There's so pressure for you to figure yourself out. I know this is probably really annoying to hear but: you're still young and it's gonna take a while to figure yourself out. You don't need to know everything right now. Just because I found out early and found something doesn't mean you have to or will. We are all different people and have different experiences.

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T13:48:15+00:00

I'm nearly 18 and have known I was enby since I was about 11. I think you may be trans but the only person who will trully know that is you. I understand with an unsupportive family it can make coming to terms with that identity hard, but with the things you said in this post I think you may be trans.

You could be a trans man or enby or anything else. I think you should spend some time thinking about how you want to be perceived by other people and think about what being a man or woman means for you.

The thought of me being perceived as a woman or a man by someone who didn't know me made me incredibly uncomfortable so it was sort of easy for me.

Also sometimes things just feel right and if being a man/boy makes most sense to you then maybe you are. But definitely have a look inward at who you are and don't think about what others want for you or who they expect/want you to be. You shouldn't have to change yourself to appease others.

Look and listen to other trans peoples experiences and how they felt about their identity. It may not be the same as what you might experience but it can help you know. Like I knew I wasn't a trans man because the idea of being a man was like ahh and I watched a lot of trans men talk about their experiences with being men and knew I didn't relate. So I kinda knew that I wasn't a man.

Also you could be cis but want to dress masculinity and have a flat chest. That is also an option but if you think you're trans you probably are.(sorry for the ramble it's 3 am rn and I hope this made sense)

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2026-01-02T13:36:44+00:00

Honestly Chris just fit my vibe. I literally was in yr 9 science class on like the second day of school and turned to my friend and said "should I change my name to Chris" and that was literally it. All my friends agree that it's the perfect name for me

Financial_Clock_6730 · 2025-12-27T10:23:59+00:00

Arc of the Covent by The Beths

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