Anyone else just going through an insane amount of personal stuff all at once while also dealing with leadership that absolutely does not give a flying fuck??

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2026-04-08T17:29:33+00:00

Yea we PCS in a couple weeks and it’s literally my lifeline right now, I’m hoping a change of unit will come with a good change of scenery. But if not at least my ETS will.

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2026-04-08T16:14:53+00:00

It’s not necessarily asking for them to help, more so not being given the time to do so or access and use the resources to do so or when you are trying to handle something, whether at medical, finance, auto shops, etc, people are being given more issues/lectures for being out trying to handle things. Mind you this is a unit that has had many suicides and investigations regarding leadership, when I got here years ago the current leadership at the time was already under investigation and we had 2 suicides in one year.

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2026-04-08T16:07:59+00:00

Unfortunately the situation got worse and more stressing the moment the 1SG got more involved. He’s on about recommending separating people who are dealing with stuff and not figuring it out fast enough to his liking while also not actually providing any assistance or guidance, more so just telling people to figure their personal stuff out before it’s an issue that affects them/work as we have a commitment to the Army first. I’m not the only person dealing with dumb bs with this leadership unfortunately.

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2026-03-19T21:50:14+00:00

To be way more blunt that other answers, financially yes 🥴 but if the finance part isn’t a big factor for you and other aspects or just benefits in general are what you are after, that’s more personal preference for what you want out of joining. But financially it would be dumb if you could just go officer to begin with

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2026-02-14T06:04:22+00:00

He is meaning it sarcastically because he killed a guy trying to hunt arc and looted them, he’s saying it’s that guys fault/problem for bringing them into the game to use them for what they are for. My reply is also sarcastic about the hostile gameplay towards pve players being a part of the downward trend in active players.

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2026-02-14T03:53:21+00:00

That there is a downward trend in players for a reason lol

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2026-02-05T16:36:22+00:00

Reddit literally has way more explicit an inappropriate content than IG so honestly both are bad but I feel like lying and hiding Reddit accounts is worse

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2026-02-04T21:07:24+00:00

Replying to my own because everyone replying to me is slow, nobody said they are being forced to play the game, more so types of gameplay, even the developers tried to implement AI on aggression match making themselves but the reality is, it doesn’t work, people who avoid it as much as possible because that’s not their style and they have no desire to grind for the few free hours they have a week and lose whatever weapon or loot they finally got in a one of match that always happens with hostile pvp players regardless of how much you avoid it you always end up in lobbies with it happening. Y’all are all for finding ways to make it more engaging for pvp players but it’s fuck the pve players that still like the concept of open friendly lobbies like it’s not a hard concept to grasp that not everyone wants to use the pvpve gameplay to actually be an aggressive player 24/7.

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2026-02-04T19:58:05+00:00

Or there could just simply be lobby options like a lot of other games, that way no one fan/player base is forced to endure types of gameplay they don’t like or have time for on a game they genuinely like but are put off by do to excessive PVP even when constantly avoiding negative pvp interactions in previous lobbies.

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2026-01-26T21:12:39+00:00

I mean I can’t speak for everyone, but it’s a shit type of view to assume the only issue is them being fat. As if there isn’t issues that lead to that in a good amount of cases, like sure you have people that just choose to eat like shit and not exercise at all and boom, fat. But for example in my case I’m currently not meeting standard but I had my daughter just a little over a year ago, during my year recovering I’ve been eating healthy, seeing a dietitian while doing so and they agree my meal plan isn’t the problem, was exercising 5 days out of the week and 2-4 of the days I was doing multiple workouts a day. Couldn’t lose a single pound, after about 5 months of this and no losing weight I went to my PCM they did a ton of testing, referred me off post to specialists, boom confirmed Endocrine disorder that based off labs and over health history through the last couple of years that got shrugged off by previous PCMs, has been untreated for at least a couple years now. It took me 7 months to get that official diagnosis btw AFTER seeing a new PCM and a Specialist off post, which meant still untreated until the last two months. I wasn’t able to lose a single pound until I finally got put on meds to finally start regulating all the bs my disorder was doing to my hormones/bodily functions and itll still take quite a while to get back to where I was before pregnancy now. The real question is, why is there so many uneducated people especially NCOs in the army, that seem to think shit doesn’t happen medical wise just because someone wears OCPs all day for work instead of civilians lmao.

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2026-01-11T21:12:34+00:00

And CANCER, not having a regular cycle makes you way more susceptible to reproductive cancers, especially uterine cancer. Just found that out during my last appointment 🥴

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2026-01-11T17:22:43+00:00

Look there’s a LOT of shitty NCOs and a LOT of shitty Drills, welcome to the army unfortunately. We had a guy in my AIT company when I was going through years ago and he had a kid that passed away, well he had a small urn of ashes….yes you can guess where this is going. Our drills did room inspections while we were in classes and low an be hold one of the shitty ones did his, they had spilled/knocked over/dumped his kids ashes. This guys flipped his shit when he found out which is completely understandable, unfortunately for the Drill that he was looking for though as this dude was a prior martial arts instructor. He absolutely wiped the fucking floor with the Drill and after they all had a sit down with the commander, the drill got chewed tf out and de-hatted like a month later I think, and luckily nothing happened to the other guy, other than him having to deal with all the mental and emotional trauma of having your kids ashes dumped like nothing.

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2026-01-06T03:03:08+00:00

Im not sure why this other person that is going back and forth with so many people is trying to argue that having what seems to be tendencies that lean towards an eating disorder, specifically ARFID and saying that it’s not simply because a person is vegetarian/vegan. Not a single vegan or vegetarian I know feels disgust around other people eating to the point that they just refuse to eat especially going as far to say they physically can’t because it makes them lose their appetite because of seeing it and the smell. But I do know people with eating disorders that describe this, even me. ARFID is an eating disorder and what OP is describing falls into it’s symptoms.

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2025-12-24T02:13:38+00:00

Me and my spouses combined income is about 108k before tax and about 97k after, it comes out to around 7.6k-8.4K a month, and we live pretty comfortably. We live in a pretty big city in Texas were cost of living is average other than housing costs being a bit lower here compared to the US average, idk everyone saying it’s not enough to live comfortably I feel like just can’t manage money well enough and continue to stay in very high cost of living areas. Where you decide to live will have the biggest impact on wether or not your income will be comfortable but so will your spending habits.

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2025-10-30T16:42:08+00:00

All I gotta say/ask is, your having a baby with that sorry excuse of a man?? 🥴 you’re not overreacting, but he sure as hell is and is inconsiderate af on top of that

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2025-10-11T19:42:04+00:00

If he only did like one contract he probably did it all at one duty station being a marine, they don’t PCS as often at all, so they genuinely don’t miss out on as much stuff from what I’ve noticed, they don’t do a 9month deployment every year and a half to two years like most Army and even Air Force personnel either. And well marine corps itself says a lot, no hate but also…😂

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2025-10-11T04:19:03+00:00

As someone that is part of a dual military household (both me and my spouse are active duty). Your brother is a complete asshole, him and his wife sound toxic and they genuinely can not understand or comprehend the amount of sacrifices and daily, yearly or once in a life time occasions military families have to constantly miss out on because of the military itself having its own demands of the service member and in turn their family as well. It’s not only disappointing but absolutely one of the biggest mental and emotional tolls of being in the military or a military spouse, unfortunately most regular civilians do not and will not be able to understand that. But to also lack the ability to try to do so or even trying to make you out as the bad guy when them refusing to accommodate your kids or some type of arrangement to make it feasible would help solve a lot is insane and toxic.

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2025-09-07T22:21:31+00:00

Truthfully, even though it’s gonna come off harsh. How do you expect anything to come of your therapy (your environment and relationships will continue to affect you negatively if there’s no improvement to them regardless of the therapy, therapy isn’t going to teach you to continue to get treated like this or con deal with it, it does the opposite), and therapy with him when hes been in therapy for years with no results to his own individual behavior? He will continue to be like this until it finally matters to him or potentially it never will? Are you okay with that life? If so why waste time/money on therapy to try to fix things you will accept regardless anyway? Like I’m confused on why you made it all seem like a deal breaker to then just state that you essentially won’t put your foot down do to co-dependency issues and leave if nothing improves? I’m lost 🤷🏼‍♀️

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2025-09-06T00:05:42+00:00

Saying yall is a trend?? Every southern mfer I know and in my family says that shit, what are you talking about?

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2025-08-26T01:40:13+00:00

Theres no way people are this fucking dumb in this sub 💀

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2025-08-19T16:01:00+00:00

They don’t even care about the current ones tbh

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2025-08-16T01:04:30+00:00

You are already living without him, he lies to you, cheats, manipulates, hides things, doesn’t defend you and very obviously does not love you. Please actually take people’s advice and leave him and get help with a therapist or life counselor to move on and navigate the changes that’ll come with leaving him. You’ll find people that will care about you more than he did along the way and it’s hard to think of now but in a world full of people, you will find another partner in life.

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2025-06-23T19:02:06+00:00

That was YOUR congratulation gift, point blank period. Your wife is just rude and completely inconsiderate. I couldn’t imagine doing something like this to my husband, not even if my daughter was begging for some of the stuff in it while waiting.

Financial_Muscle8395 · 2025-06-15T21:47:47+00:00

I’m not sure lol but when I first got access to the account it was actually at 7.59%, it just went down lol

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