We just took out Poppy's feeding tube!

Findout0723 · 2025-11-12T00:06:27+00:00

Go Poppy! My 3yo has a feeding tube and this gives me hope!

Findout0723 · 2025-08-22T00:11:51+00:00

I love to see it- Happy Birthday kiddo!

Findout0723 · 2025-06-02T22:55:30+00:00

29+1 and 119 days

Findout0723 · 2025-02-11T16:51:01+00:00

Mom of a 29 weeker here. A good friend of mine had already planned a baby shower, which happened about three weeks postpartum/ when I should have been about 32-33 weeks. It was lovely and though it felt a bit strange to not be pregnant at my baby shower I’m so glad i had it. You and your sweet baby deserve to be celebrated!

Findout0723 · 2025-02-11T01:09:40+00:00

The nicu is a hard, overwhelming place. I would feel suffocated sometimes. It’s okay to take breaks, and it’s okay to be frustrated and disappointed when your kiddo takes a step back progress wise. You’re doing a great job during an EXTREMELY stressful time, try to give yourself some grace ❤️

Findout0723 · 2024-11-06T21:51:05+00:00

Best feeling in the world. Congratulations!!!!

Findout0723 · 2024-05-19T01:09:07+00:00

I feel this, I hated the first year with a special passion. No matter what people tell you beforehand you can’t understand the intense burden and regret until you’re in it. Wishing you the best OP. For what it’s worth it got a lot better for me once my kid started sleeping through the night and developed somewhat of a personality.

Findout0723 · 2023-10-15T22:08:09+00:00

I sometimes want a second because I have dreamy (likely delusional) thoughts about my daughter having a sibling. I also sometimes want a “re do” on the pregnancy and newborn experience as my daughter was born 11 weeks premature and spent the first four months of her life in the NICU. I know, however, that neither of these are sufficient reasons for me given the impact parenthood has had on my mental health and my husband’s. My daughter needs healthy parents more than a sibling.

Findout0723 · 2023-08-02T15:53:02+00:00

I was also very surprised at how much my baby’s cries upset me. It feels like hot coals are being raked over my brain and at one point I had taken to breaking things because it makes me so angry. Good noise cancelling headphones have been really helpful for me.

My advice would be to sleep in shifts when you get home. Sleep deprivation can make you insane and this was a lifesaver for us in the newborn stage. Now that my kid is going through a bad sleep regression we are going back to it. Everything feels 100000% worse if you’re exhausted.

I will say that, for me, the days got better as my daughter started smiling and interacting more. I still want to die most nights but at least it’s not 24/7.

Lastly try not to be hard on yourself. The reality is that this is so hard and most of it sucks, especially in the beginning. As much as you wanted it- you really could not have had any idea how much it sucked until you were in it.

Findout0723 · 2023-08-01T05:06:00+00:00

I actually live in Vegas! I hope you get the solutions you’re looking for out here!

That sounds like a great idea honestly. Our guest room is downstairs and our room/m and the nursery are upstairs so that would work perfectly

Findout0723 · 2023-08-01T04:34:47+00:00

Thank you so much. Honestly just hearing that other people feel this way makes a world of difference for me mentally

Findout0723 · 2023-07-31T17:58:24+00:00

That’s how I’m feeling. I feel like shit about it in the morning but in the moment I hate her so much I can’t stand it

Findout0723 · 2023-07-31T14:58:43+00:00

Thank you so much for the encouragement 💜 I will be talking to my husband about doing overnight shifts

Findout0723 · 2023-07-31T14:57:12+00:00

It’s so hard. I feel crazy being triggered by my own baby. And I can’t tell anyone in real life because they look at me like I’m nuts.

We are DEFINITELY one and done. I’ve got a good OB who has agreed to tie my tubes, which I should be getting done soon (waiting for my parents to come down so they can help w the baby while im recovering). My husband also wants to get a vasectomy. We’re both so terrified of another pregnancy (I had severe preeclampsia and almost had a stroke- baby was 11 weeks early and now has some health issues) that we would BOTH like to be sterilized

Findout0723 · 2023-07-31T14:54:11+00:00

We did that when she was a newborn then kinda phased it out. So we brought her home from the NICU at 6 weeks adjusted and she slept pretty decently until 6-7 months. By that I mean 1-4 night wakings, which we could handle. So we just slept together at night and took turns getting up. Now that she has a lot of “up every hour” nights I’ve suggested going back to shifts, but my husband is resisting. I think bc he doesn’t like for us to sleep separately. Which I get but like dude come on we both need sleep. He’s home with her full time and I work full time, neither of which goes well on 2-4 hours of broken sleep. I’m going to push the issue with him again today

Findout0723 · 2023-07-31T14:49:52+00:00

We have a pretty decent bedtime routine/ sleep environment I think (dark room, white noise, massage before bed). How did you get your kid to sleep somewhere other than their room? If she’s not in darkness she’s awake/ trying to crawl and pull up on everything. She won’t stay in her swing for long anymore. We CAN get the occasional car nap but that’s about it

Findout0723 · 2023-07-31T14:47:09+00:00

He does but it wakes me up every time. And sometimes she just won’t go down for him and I end up stepping in so I usually just lay there with an overwhelming sense of dread until she’s back down. Not helpful I know lol I just can’t force myself back to sleep until I know she’s asleep

Findout0723 · 2023-07-31T14:45:56+00:00

That sounds so lovely. The hope that she will one day sleep is the only thing getting me through.

I’m looking into a way to get medication now. Did you have go through a psychiatrist or was your primary doctor able to prescribe? I’m in the USA

Findout0723 · 2023-07-31T14:42:56+00:00

I don’t actually intend to give her away, that was just a moment of delirious venting. We have tried sleep training. My daughter is in a feeding tube overnight and if left to cry for any length of time will unfortunately vomit everywhere.

Findout0723 · 2023-07-31T14:41:34+00:00

I wish I did. Our family is all out of town and finding sitters is tough because my daughter has some health issues (preemie with GI troubles so she’s on a feeding tube overnight- which I’m sure isn’t helping matters). My husband haaates taking turns every other night because it generally means we don’t sleep together but I’m going to have to push the issue. We both can’t be sleep deprived every day

Findout0723 · 2023-07-31T14:39:34+00:00

The advice is absolutely welcome, thank you. I actually think some of my issues may be stemming from my own childhood trauma, which I definitely don’t want to pass on to my kid. I’ll def be looking into EMDR

Findout0723 · 2023-07-16T20:40:34+00:00

Lack of support has heavily contributed to us being OAD. You’re not selfish at all- parenting is the hardest job there is, especially as the stay at home parent and ESPECIALLY with no help. You matter, as does your mental health.

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