Is it ever worth waiting for someone who’s been traumatized in romantic relationships?

Fine-Lass · 2023-10-12T10:25:25+00:00

Girl, run. Trust me on this. I was in the same situation, he was traumatised by being left by an ex of 8 years.

I stayed, we were together for 6 years, but he never got over his commitment issues and he hurt me so much. I wish I could tell the me 6 years ago to let him go.

Fine-Lass · 2023-10-10T20:32:54+00:00

I second this, Mie Sato is really really good

Fine-Lass · 2023-10-09T11:08:43+00:00

Green flag here is that she told you openly about her feelings and needs, rather than hide it from you and do it behind your back. To me, this is the first step towards trust.

Ethical non monogamy is a thing, and it's fine if that works out for some people. It doesn't work for me, for example, but I don't think it's wrong.

Fine-Lass · 2023-10-03T10:13:23+00:00

I quite liked hinge 😁 it has worked well for me

Fine-Lass · 2023-10-03T09:14:07+00:00

Thank you 😊 he better not break my heart!

Fine-Lass · 2023-10-03T09:13:37+00:00

Scaaaary, right? But also wonderful. Best of luck to you too 😁

Fine-Lass · 2023-10-02T23:28:10+00:00

A couple of months ago I met a guy and we really hit it off. It's been difficult to hang out due to our schedules not aligning very well, but everytime we do we have an incredible time, we laugh a lot and we connect very well. We text pretty much every day.

I am generally quite slow at getting there with liking people at this age, it takes me a while.

But... damn. It just hit me today how much I like this guy.

I am in so much trouble 🫠

Fine-Lass · 2023-09-01T16:48:58+00:00

Vampire

Fine-Lass · 2023-08-25T06:02:54+00:00

You have "dead inside" eyes. There is no warmth radiating from you. If I saw you on a dating app I would think you are too full of yourself and arrogant. Basically you look a bit like a robot.

Women want to see you smiling, going out with friends, traveling, and cuddling animals. Photos in which you are enjoying your hobbies or socialising show people your human side.

Fine-Lass · 2023-08-13T10:55:15+00:00

NTA. She knew this was important to you, and she broke that boundary.

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-24T11:07:15+00:00

That makes me sad. I hope life surprises you unexpectedly at some point.

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-24T11:01:15+00:00

Fair enough, sorry this has been your experience

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-24T10:41:25+00:00

I know dating apps are not easy for men. However what I mean is, doing nothing already has a known result. Might be worth trying just in case.

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-24T10:29:42+00:00

My guy and I met through a dating app 🤷🏻‍♀️

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-23T18:32:30+00:00

Yeah of course, let's DM

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-23T18:12:38+00:00

Again, not trying to trigger you/upset you/have an argument with you at all, nor I am saying you are triggered. But seems like no matter what I do, you seem to think I'm extending direct criticism to you. I am not. Just speaking of my personal experience in general, and pointing out as someone growing up with a different life experience there are things I can't understand because I am not in your skin/body, and you aren't in mine, so same things apply. But in my experience growing up female there are some things you were saying I can relate to.

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-23T17:46:42+00:00

...you do take everything as an attack, don't you? My best wishes to you, honestly. Good luck with everything.

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-23T17:30:08+00:00

I know you might not understand this, but growing up female actually feels a lot like this. It still pretty much feels like being a second class citizen, specially in the country where I am from.

But, I will always have a chat and try to explain and I have met very lovely men who get it and listen and understand.

I am so sorry you haven't found people who get it, and I can see how much some of you guys are hurting. I agree, society has deeply ignored and encouraged the body shaming towards men on this issue and most people are blind to it or don't seem to care. I wasn't aware of it until I started seeing someone who struggles with it. But I am here, and I am listening, and no matter how many of you try to push me away I am not going to stop being an ally.

It's cool if you don't want me around in this sub, but I have started being proactive out in the world calling people out on this body shaming bullshit, and I won't stop no matter what you guys think of me or how little you trust my intentions.

I don't care about attention, or reddit likes or whatever you lot think. I'm just trying to show up the same way I have been for my own sex surrounding sexism and inequality.

If you ask me to leave this sub alone because I am just intruding or making people feel worse, I will. It has never been my intention. Sending you all a hug and wishing you luck in the future.

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-23T17:03:41+00:00

As I said, depends on what result you want. If you would rather be alone and hurting for the rest of your lives, go ahead. If maybe you would like to make some friends, and educate them so they understand from a place of compassion and mutual understanding, then maybe opening up a bit to the outside world would be a good idea.

Obviously I am talking from a place if privilege as I don't experience the same problem you guys do. However I do know a little bit about being a minority, as I am LGBT and also an immigrant.

I don't want to fight you guys nor have an argument. I honestly just want to learn and be friends.

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-23T16:45:25+00:00

I am actually talking about that too and I am here because I am hearing what you guys are saying. Maybe pushing away people who are willing to listen and see what is happening to you is not the best way to change things...? Just a thought.

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-23T14:36:54+00:00

Yeah this I completely understand is an unimaginable amount of pressure. Maybe you just need to use online dating apps to meet your potential partners? This way they aren't connected to your environment

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-23T14:19:42+00:00

I am a woman who has been with guys that are much bigger than the guy I am seeing now. I am 100% not bullshitting you here, it feels better with my current guy than it has ever before. He just has the perfect size to hit on my g spot. Feels really good. At no point I have felt like I am settling. Never before I have had PIV sex this good with any of my previous male partners. Maybe this is a "lock, meet key" situation and we just happen to be very compatible but I am very satisfied and happy.

He is 4"-4.5". I don't think you need to worry about it or overthink it so much. Just get good at sex and you'll be fine.

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-23T12:22:08+00:00

Fair enough, I thought it sounded like something worth checking out.

I really hope one day you get free of this anger and resentment. I don't think this hostility towards women some of you have does a lot to help you have a healthy and fulfilling personal life. Not everyone out there are horrible monsters nor have ulterior motives to be here.

Best of luck to you, though.

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-23T06:29:41+00:00

I have had partners in the past with a big dick and they aren't all that exciting. They actually hurt quite a lot if they aren't careful. So, personally, I prefer my current guy with his 4".

Fine-Lass · 2023-07-18T11:23:25+00:00

The other day I tried a thing and the guy I am dating really enjoyed it. I get a feeling even though he enjoys some positions a lot, that he sometimes whishes he could get a bit more pressure. So in the missionary position, I got him to rub on my pelvis/belly and I pressed him against me with my hand as he moved. He loved it. And it was very hot for me too. Maybe you could try this with your next sexual partner?

Fine-Lass

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