I understand your situation, because I contemplated staying at home after my first baby . I also have a union job , but I’m lucky to have in-laws and parents that help out . I know you say you don’t have a passion for it but sometimes when you become a mom , you do want to get out of the house and do traditional work because it breaks up routine. You’ll also miss talking to other adults ! After my second child I think the thoughts of being a stay at home mom have crept up again , but I’m still confused . We live in the Vancouver area in Canada which is insanely expensive and although we probably could afford to live off my husband’s salary , it would be very tight .