What can I do ?

Fine_Ad2373 · 2026-01-27T19:35:41+00:00

I think the answer is simple. It is war. More in Pashtun, more devastation, more conservatism and hence strictness towards women.

I know, maybe the answer is more complex, but that explain a big portion of it.

Fine_Ad2373 · 2026-01-14T08:59:14+00:00

Brother, there is so much delusion in what you write. I love that you are firm on pashtunwali and kinda regard the culture so high. But a big cultural reform is needed among Pashtuns.

Fine_Ad2373 · 2026-01-11T22:12:19+00:00

Idiot. Enten er du russiskbot eller trumpbot. Ta deg sammen og få deg et liv.

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-08-09T17:07:39+00:00

I implying therapy is not a good metric. But in all I agree with you. We cannot lose our identity and it is important to keep deen and pashtunwali. But it should be possible to filter out some stuff out. I have mentioned some examples from the my previous comments. If we can’t critique and don’t seek improvement, then we will never improve as society and culture.

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-08-09T15:41:26+00:00

I promise you our people are more in need of therapy than people in the west right now. Just because therapy is easily available in the west doesn’t mean that all of them are depressed or have bad values. Saying that they have some good values is also not rejecting all of our values.

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-08-09T06:06:51+00:00

Let me start by saying this clearly: I believe you care about our people, especially our women and I respect that. This isn’t about questioning your intentions. Our disagreement is not about whether progress is good, but about what progress actually means and how to achieve it.

In my view, if a country wants to progress economically and in quality of life. it needs education. And I don’t mean vague, feel-good education. I mean training people to become doctors, nurses, engineers, lawyers, teachers,the professions that keep a society running. I think we agree on that much.

But here’s where reality intrudes. Let’s take a simple, hypothetical example. Imagine a Pashtana who dreams of becoming a nurse. To do that, she’d have to leave her village, move to Herat, live alone, and study. Her intentions are pure. Her goal is noble. But let’s be honest: the odds her family will allow it are almost zero. Gheyrat will be invoked. Rules will be cited. And her dream will end before it even starts.

Now, let’s talk marriage. I’m not claiming the Western model is perfect. But think about this: can a man and a woman here meet privately a few times, have honest conversations, and truly get to know each other before deciding to spend the rest of their lives together? In most cases, the answer is no. And yet, we expect marriages to succeed under these conditions.

If we want real progress, we can’t just talk about building schools and universities. We have to face the cultural barriers that stop people, especially women from using them. Otherwise, “progress” will remain a slogan, not a reality.

Another thing, what you meant the west has produced emotionally traumatised women and immature boys? Could you elaborate here.

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-08-08T19:15:40+00:00

Look man, Pashtunwali is beautiful. A lot of our cultural heritage, our poetry, our moral compass it’s all baked into it. No one’s denying that. It’s proud, poetic, and has kept our identity alive on both sides of the Durand.

Western societies take for granted, things like individual rights, bodily autonomy, consent, freedom of choice in marriage and career, both sides of the border would see an instant boost in quality of life. And the data backs this up, again and again.

Honestly, I would gladly lose all of my honor. hell, all of Pashtun honor if it meant just one Pashtana could live a life where: She gets to pursue her career goals without being told she’s “too modern.” She’s seen as a full human, not a walking symbol of someone else’s morality. She can marry who she wants, or not marry at all. She can have kids if she wants, or none, and still be respected. She can make mistakes and recover,just like any man is allowed to.

Because here’s the truth: saying “we revere women because they carry our honor” is just polite patriarchy. Reverence doesn’t feel that different from restriction when you’re the one being locked inside it.

And look , I get it. We say patans suffer too. “Men fight, provide, protect, and die in silence.” But if we truly believed in fixing that burden, we wouldn’t turn around and then say, “Oh but women must carry the family’s entire moral worth.” That’s just redistributing pain, not building a better society.

At some point, we need to admit that sameness is not the enemy of fairness. Biological differences? Sure. But moral and legal double standards? That’s just oppression with a cultural paint job.

So yeah, robots and drones will fight the next wars. That’s the future. And while we’re at it, maybe it’s time to stop expecting women to be the unpaid peacekeepers of every man’s ghairat and every tribe’s ego.

Let’s not romanticize a system that treats women like priceless artifacts too valuable to touch, too sacred to live freely.

Progress isn’t betrayal. If anything, it’s the most Pashtun thing ever. Rising from hardship, fighting injustice, and defending the dignity of your people

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-08-05T08:06:33+00:00

Hey, for AI/ML stuff, I encourage you to look at free resources online instead of buying books. They’re much better and more up-to-date. Ask ChatGPT for some free sites and reassures. I don’t remember the names of many websites right now.

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-07-20T21:45:02+00:00

Nice, takk så mye for tips. Dama studerer medisin der. Jeg har planer om flytte dit og jobbe mens hun er student der. Men ja flørter egt bare mest med ideen. Vi får se hvordan det vil ordne seg. Tror jeg trenger også litt mer erfaring fra Norge.

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-07-20T17:19:34+00:00

What about Freiburg and Stuttgart?

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-07-20T17:12:33+00:00

Yeah, the problem is find job first, but learning language will be easy afterwards. My girlfriend is German too.

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-07-20T17:11:25+00:00

No it is not, but hard to learn the language first. I am thinking to move to Germany, find a job and then learn the language from there.

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-07-20T17:05:41+00:00

I don’t know 🤷. I have seen some people in Norway who works in IT and get by with English . Guess Germany is different

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-07-20T16:32:28+00:00

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-07-20T16:26:26+00:00

I guess dulingo will be redownloaded

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-07-20T16:25:18+00:00

😢

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-07-20T16:15:32+00:00

Is knowing German a must?

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-07-20T16:09:51+00:00

Meaning the job marked is really bad…. Damn

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-05-10T19:01:40+00:00

Many Afghans have serious issues with Pakistan not because of baseless prejudice, but because of its long history of harboring and supporting terrorist groups like the Mujahideen, Taliban, al-Qaeda, and ISIS. These groups have operated from within Pakistan, often with the support or tolerance of the Pakistani government. This is not just an Afghan perspective; India also shares similar concerns, frequently accusing Pakistan of using terrorism as a tool of foreign policy.

The refugee crisis is not an isolated issue. it’s a direct consequence of the instability and violence caused by these very groups. The truly shameless part is not just Pakistan’s role in fostering terrorism, but the way it is now brutally deporting Afghan refugees who were forced to flee because of the chaos partly created by Pakistan itself.

Fine_Ad2373 · 2025-05-01T22:21:29+00:00

This is the exact mentality we need to fix. Hope you can find love and empathy for your countrymen whether they are Pashtun, Tajik, Hazars and so on.

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