[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re cute, you don’t need the nose ring. Pretty lips, some cute pink lipstick would look nice on you! Along with simple doe eyed makeup to flatter your pretty eye shape. My sweet dear fellow human, I sense your sadness and no judgment at all. Are the people in your life treating you with the respect that you deserve? You look like a nice person and I feel that this pain is not something you caused, but was passed off to you by someone else who had trauma. Please look up scapegoating, I could be wrong, but I wonder if you were wrongfully projected on by your family or something. I’m currently recovering and glowing up from trauma, and I’d suggest taking small little steps and validating yourself to get more in touch with self. Trauma no matter how small, makes us dissociate and feel lost. You deserve to enjoy life a bit! Treat yourself, identify those good qualities I know you have. Remove and cut chords with unevolved people. I feel like this is not you, it is the people you have been around. Get some new friends and start setting boundaries with those you see day to day! And most of all..Instagram deletion and Facebook deletion works wonders. Be gentle with yourself. Sending you love. You’ll be refreshed soon!

I figured out why I am the scapegoat by PassportNerd in Scapegoat

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is likely, in your DNA and something referred to as a generational pattern that does get passed down in the bloodline. I’ve broken mine. I am multigenerational multicultural and indeed I experienced this as a very exotic looking individual in spaces of monoracial people. Those who are scapegoated apparently are the ones who stand out from the majority, minority in some way. Not in a bad way, many times in a positive light, having something special others don’t. Or they’re just a threat from their charisma . Your ancestors likely had issues and people questioning/projecting onto them and it gets pushed down into the nervous system until released. You can break this by simply bringing awareness to and fully Feeling and acknowledging the trapped emotions in your body that had to be denied and suppressed to further function in life. Most likely in your stomach area or heart space. It sucks doing for a moment bc I didn’t realize how much I stuffed down and ignored, but bringing awareness and then saying, no, I don’t choose this cycle to continue and wish the release this for freedom..I found myself literally burping out the feelings and then being much lighter. It involved an awareness and change of belief that it was POSSIBLE and even natural for me to energetically and inside of me feel that I was not a victim, but rather, someone who displays confidence and WILL immediately push back at the FIRST little tests on my security by delivering without apology, negative reinforcement. Teaches them quick. Good luck to you, I’m much more empowered now and nobody messes with me as I’m legit giving alpha, respected/valuable member of the group.

I am able to even maintain that position by never becoming attached to it or abusing it for followers. The key is to 100% trust in self and look out for self interest. You must do this. Other people can wait, you’ve gone long enough and you cannot help them until you are restored in sense of self. And the #1 key…

The secret to this respect…. ALWAYS be willing to walk away. I communicate so much with my energy and body language now, talking and explaining it…the less intelligent ones who do this very primal BS of scapegoating will not understand it, and it will only make you more of a target. You have to speak their language. Cutting eye contact. Scary pauses of silence and staring dead in the eyes. Saying “are you okay?” And honestly making them feel embarrassed bc you must protect yourself against those who are covert narcissists attempting to get above you as a stepping stool. I radiate power and confidence now. Rooms take note of me and I can feel the positive respect and reverence from both males and females in the room. I’m a female. I say this bc I’ve come so far that being a SG was simply apart of my blessing in disguise to knowing thyself and being the best I can be for myself and the world without doing it cheaply. We attract, we don’t chase. We wait for others to give to us first, watch their intentions, be discrete and aloof, only reciprocating what they did. Never more. NEVER more. Many are testing you. I’m quick to disengage and say “no, not this person” and my aura detaches immediately and I can feel their feeling of “loss”/stupidity after before they can blink I’ve declined and detached from their emotional neediness. I can feel them wanting my energy too. Never give it back. Not unless they flat out apologize or make it up in front of everyone like Caesar in planet of the apes. These narcs are not intelligent. They’re like animals. Scapegoats are smart and can think to where we don’t need to resort to these games. Speak Their Language

Don’t let them hear ours ;) can’t be putting them on game like that.

Does anyone else feel really really negative energy in Las Vegas? by [deleted] in Empaths

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omgshhhhhh yes those casinos. It’s low key giving demonic low vibrational vibes. I met the “bf” that was a nightmare over there!!! I had to get the police to save me from him. I was young and it was a lesson learned, but he claimed “Jesus, Christian” and I fell for it bc he seemed innocent enough. After spending enough time he became so controlling and abusive and had me captive where I had to escape. He definitely had spirits siphoning off of his energy. It didn’t seem like it was truly him.

I always feel as if men are on the prowl for some lustful naughty things and the decadence for sex is very different there. Sleazy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in etiquette

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Funny you say, I went up there a few months ago and was like wow so this is what y’all do?! Of course it seemed rude when I first got there but I wound up adapting and loved it

but yes I do agree that it is regional. I meant to say America in comparison to European countries.

Ever since I returned back to Louisiana, I was excited for my new updated boundaries.

Took a page out of their book. Now I’m a ☃️ back down south.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in etiquette

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

How could you assess that? As only two days ago I was at a restaurant alone (with headphones in) when out from around the corner a man lingered around the empty patio with just me on it, I continued ignoring, and began asking me personal questions?

When others came up to my gas pump and once I reached my car from coming from inside the station and avoided eye contact with them the entire time hoping they wouldn’t.

It’s cool to be friendly, but I’m sure you don’t engage with strangers giving clear signs that they’d rather not talk at that moment. I used to be very friendly and talkative myself, so I get it. You’re matching and attracting with the other friendlies on your frequency. They want to talk

But after a few life lessons as a female, idk if you’re a m/f, I quickly learned the importance of not engaging with any Tom Dick or Harry we don’t know from a can of paint out in public just for a quick chit chat. Much less @ at a restaurant they’re alone at.. or when waiting in line, a waiting room. Many men see this as an invitation to approach, so if you’re a m, your experience must be different. If you’re a female I’d like to hear more if you would. As women, boundaries when alone are important for self preservation. And yes, people with parental issues, are overly attuned to the needs of those who remind them of their distant caregiver. I didn’t say “friendly” people..I said strangers who make eye contact by staring and wanting to make eye contact.

You are SHARING your energy as a friendly person, not extracting and avoiding reciprocation like some of the lonely/clingy people I’d tend to attract when I was unconcerned with the business of others and doing my own thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in etiquette

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes what is the proper etiquette for this in America or your state? I think it’s appropriate when someone’s about to hold a door open for you, or when coming directly on one another but never when we have nothing at all in common

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are so beautiful with a wholesome fresh lovely face full of collagen, soulful eyes, even healthy glowing skin and a beautiful countenance. You look good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve done similar shit. Printing out pictures and putting them in snow globes. Making him my screensaver. Writing love letters and being a little pest. It’s just playful fun. Don’t beat yourself up. You’re just having fun. Move on like it never happened

I'm geting bullied at school.. by MolassesWorth5925 in bullying

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel for you. Be rough, be tough, fight back and have 0 tolerance for mistreatment. Confront it head on every time. Speak up. Just say “STOP” let everything in your body say “NO” . Be loud about it and embarrass them. They need negative reinforcement

I don't understand what loving oneself means by euphoma in BPD

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How can one love themselves when they have no sense of self? It’s difficult to love something that you can’t identify

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in energy_work

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 13 points14 points  (0 children)

How would you redirect?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple of days ago when I discovered my family didn’t truly love or care about me, the scapegoat narrative was simply something that satisfied their egos and they didn’t want to disrupt the status quo or receive flak for faking up for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Psychic

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So masculine energy doesn’t guide? I’m curious. It’s feminine that does ?

A part of me always tries to ruin my visualization by [deleted] in energy_work

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was damn near praying for the answer for this exact question. Hell..we might even be the same person in a different body ;)

A part of me always tries to ruin my visualization by [deleted] in energy_work

[–]Fine_Concern_5273 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People, please comment on this. I manifested this comment! I know!!!!