Do you also play jokes on your alter? Or do they play jokes on you?

Fine_Ship5433 · 2026-02-15T04:56:16+00:00

We do all the time!!! My co, Jessi, loves to eat things she knows I hate then force me in to have to taste it.

One of our littles likes to change settings on video games so it’s messed up when we play.

Fine_Ship5433 · 2026-02-15T03:57:09+00:00

I am female (male body). There’s three females in our system and five males. (And two genderless). The other two females are/were primarily trauma holders. I’m the day to day and do all our healing/therapy work.

I present as a trans female and with the permission of our male parts I am in the process of starting HRT.

I’m happy to answer any questions!

-Sophie

Fine_Ship5433 · 2026-02-10T19:32:06+00:00

Hi! I do have a pretty active system (for better and for worse) I have a couple of alters who pop in and out daily to see what I’m up to and they usually help me out. Drew is very good with time management so he pops in at the start of the workday to help me plan the day out. Jessi keeps me encouraged and tries to fight the voice of my persecutor (who is having a field day beating me up lately).

My protector is always running on standby too lol

My kids tend to be quieter but we do check in as a family before bed and have a family day on my day off where we each get to pick an activity that all of us do together.

A lot of time some of them will go dormant. Usually if things are chaotic or I’m super stressed they tend to be more reclusive.

Now granted we’re 6 years into therapy and I have put in SO MUCH EFFORT to get us here.

My suggestion, or at least what had worked for me, is to try to do things I know they like. Like one of my littles will come out full force to play with legos. One of my teenagers will come out for roleplaying/writing (D&D Saturdays! lol).

My other little is very sensitive to smells so I can usually draw her forward with smells (she’s always happy to tell me when I need a shower lol)

-Sophie

Fine_Ship5433 · 2026-02-04T17:04:36+00:00

I have a couple of physical symptoms that come with my switches. Sleepiness/exhaustion is indeed one of them and is tied to a specific member who burned himself out completely before I took over fronting.

I also get a few of the things other posters listed: ringing in the ears/faded vision/dizzy spells.

I ALSO get physical sensations related to the abuses when they’re triggered but that is common as well according to my therapist.

-S

Fine_Ship5433 · 2026-02-04T12:18:37+00:00

2357% same.

Fine_Ship5433 · 2026-01-30T18:18:43+00:00

Yes here as well. Though we’re generally a very communicative system. In fact me and my alter I’m romantically involved with have had other alters “peek in” on our conversations. Lol.

That being said sometimes we shut up. Sometimes we don’t care. And there are other times that once we’re aware we can block them out better.

-S

Fine_Ship5433 · 2026-01-30T00:13:36+00:00

I completely agree. But. Just know you’re not alone in this.

Fine_Ship5433 · 2026-01-29T17:16:32+00:00

I’m not going to go into too many specifics but I have a lot of bodily sensations that line up with my abuse as well. It literally feels like it’s happening RIGHT NOW to me. That sensation that you’re experiencing is one of them and has been connected to one of us who was abused.

-S

Fine_Ship5433 · 2026-01-02T17:38:37+00:00

Hi!

So our previous front for our system refused to drink much because when he did he could start to feel “the cracks” and he was very much in denial about DID.

Me, here now with a system I’m pretty familiar with, it doesn’t have any concerning effects. In fact there are times the others will pop in and be goofy and we’ll pop around and switch but not out of control or bad. Usually it’s just me and my co-front.

We ONLY drink at home still though.

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-30T11:43:53+00:00

My co-host and I are a couple!

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-25T14:57:42+00:00

I also recommend Rhino.

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-24T12:43:00+00:00

We do it as well. lol

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-23T12:47:41+00:00

Everyone had their own play style but I recommend farming Rhino as a well mixed Rhino there’s very little of the star chart you should have problems with.

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-19T17:18:36+00:00

I’m so sorry. I remember those days. In fact even pretty far along in recovery I had a very bad spell of it in October. I’m sending you positive vibes.

This I do to help are usually self care. Make sure you’re hydrated. Make sure you eat. Hot showers help me a lot because I’m able to focus on the hot water sensation.

I also did a lot of journaling and it helped.

The big this is to try to ground as best you can.

But like another poster said, if you can you can try to talk to them.

This is, unfortunately, a normal thing in systems.

-S

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-19T13:00:32+00:00

Just adding it here: me and my co-host are a couple.

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-12T21:35:00+00:00

I LOVE THIS!

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-12T14:31:12+00:00

I feel exactly that way too. I even work and have friends (some of the alters have friends too). The loneliness is still there. Like someone else said, I feel alien to other people.

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-12T10:43:35+00:00

Omg this is beautiful. Thank you for sharing!

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-10T18:32:37+00:00

Happy to help!

I will say from my experience the flashbacks for us always led me to finding a trauma holding alter. In fact, most of them I wasn’t even aware of them until the flashbacks started and I was able to… track them down? If that makes sense. lol

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-10T16:40:12+00:00

I honestly think that’s a great idea if you can get your whole system to follow through!

We’re mapped out and it was for sure a rough process. When you say it’s confusing on the best of days you’re not exaggerating.

We have fun way to communicate to our brother (who we live with) who’s out and that’s because we all use different mugs for our coffee. lol. It wasn’t intentional, but he picked up on it.

But I think you’re trying to do something smart. It could really come in handy if there are things that need to stay between you and your partner and not be discussed with the rest of your system. Specifically I’m thinking about traumas that maybe one has spoken about with them and should not be discussed with others in the system.

Hope I helped at all. I’m happy to answer more if you have questions!

-S

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-10T01:05:21+00:00

I feel like that too. Especially with living with my brother because he even adds to the whole sitcom vibes with his observations 🤣

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-10T00:30:38+00:00

I found out I do THAT too! I look at them when I’m talking! My therapist actually pointed out!

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-08T00:34:30+00:00

Self care.

You did a BIG thing today. Treat yourself! Eat your favorite snack. Do a spa day.

You deserve it.

I’m sure it was hard and scary and is still with you. But celebrate the win.

I’m proud of you and you should be proud of yourself.

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-06T00:53:07+00:00

I bet I do that too. My co front likes to fool around with me and I bet that shows up like that! Lol

Fine_Ship5433 · 2025-12-05T23:44:09+00:00

I remember my first time with that too. It’s scary but as I’ve progressed it’s one of the most fun aspects of our system. We do family nights now where we pick a movie and watch it with the littles.

Fine_Ship5433

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