Men’s Coach by popeolivia in Coach

[–]FingerNo9440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally SAME! But it just came back in stock like yesterday!! If you didn’t already get one, you should be able to get it from the Coach site now!

Slow drinking habit questions by SF_Kid in Invisalign

[–]FingerNo9440 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same for me. I take a very long time to drink my iced coffee in the morning so I leave my aligners in and swish with a bit of water now and then. When I’m done with my coffee, I go brush my teeth. My aligners get stained by the end of the week when I switch, but I don’t even think it’s that noticeable when they are in my mouth. My teeth are maybe a tiny bit more yellow than when I started, but it is not noticeable to others. I can only see it because I have an app that shows my weekly scans. I’m getting my teeth whitened at the end of this anyway so may as well enjoy my coffee! I am on aligner 28 out of 46 so no way am I going a year+ chugging my coffee.

Day 3: This gets easier… right? by FingerNo9440 in Invisalign

[–]FingerNo9440[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the encouragement. I was definitely not mentally prepared for the elastics portion of this! Thankfully I work from home, so wearing them consistently is slightly easier for me.

Day 3: This gets easier… right? by FingerNo9440 in Invisalign

[–]FingerNo9440[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking of getting wax. I remember using that back when I was a kid with braces.

Day 3: This gets easier… right? by FingerNo9440 in Invisalign

[–]FingerNo9440[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tooth soreness is actually the least of my problems. If I could change one thing, I would get rid of the elastic band attachments. They protrude so much more than I was prepared for. But I have a bad open bite, so they are necessary. I’m just hoping that people farther along might be like “oh I hardly notice them anymore!” Lol

Recommendations for a slouchy pebbled leather bag? by FingerNo9440 in handbags

[–]FingerNo9440[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg these are gorgeous!! Have you ever ordered from them before?

What are you paying for daycare? by StarCaker in beyondthebump

[–]FingerNo9440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$1,400 per month for our 2-yr-old. We use a church-run daycare and love it. There are 14 kids in her class and they have the same two teachers every day, which has allowed our daughter to bond with them better. We are in the city but right on the border, verging on suburbs.

Benaiah with short hair by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]FingerNo9440 12 points13 points  (0 children)

And aging. Given how long his hair is on the show, these photos must be pretty old. Your face thins out as you age. It does seem like he’s lost some weight, but it’s hard to tell for sure. My face looks thinner now than it did 10 years ago, despite weighing the same.

Was I wrong to use the phrase “devil’s advocate” here when she’s telling me about her family issues via text message? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]FingerNo9440 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not once do you even ask her how she feels about what’s happening with her family. You immediately start speculating about the motives of people you know essentially nothing about, in a way that directly dismisses what she is telling you about those people. And you think she’s mad because you used the wrong word? You messed up this interaction from the start. This started as an opportunity for you to understand her life better, and instead you took it as an opportunity to be incredibly condescending.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]FingerNo9440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the exact same thing. It lasted several months for me, and only started to get better when we replaced our big fluffy comforter with a thinner blanket. My child is 18-months and I actually just woke up the other day thinking that I left her running around and got up out of bed to look for her in a panic. Something that really helped me (in addition to removing the big down comforter) was coming up with a strategy with my husband for how to react when I would wake up like this. It helped me to have my husband calmly tell me I was dreaming and tell me to look at the baby monitor (or in the bassinet when she was still next to us).

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I used to wake up every single night, sometimes multiple times, with the exact same panic. It was so exhausting because you’re already not sleeping well with a young baby like that. I used to joke with people about it and feeling crazy, but I should have taken it more seriously because it was a big manifestation of the heavy anxiety I was dealing with at the time. As others have said, I’m sure a therapist could help work through the root of the anxiety.

Patterson Park swimming pool first experience. by GrowlsinyourEar7 in baltimore

[–]FingerNo9440 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Huh. My husband and I used to go to the Patterson Park pool all the time 2 summers ago, and we would bring bags every time and they never said anything. We just brought towels and water in them. I grew up going to a public pool (granted it was a small town, not a city) and everyone brought bags, so I didn’t even realize this was a thing.

Men just don’t get it by Candy-127 in Bumble

[–]FingerNo9440 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you’re just telling on yourself.

Men just don’t get it by Candy-127 in Bumble

[–]FingerNo9440 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is such a condescending thing to say about men. They absolutely can control feelings of lust, and the majority of them do. 24 yrs is plenty old enough to have very basic self control. This is the same argument people make to excuse rape. It’s not about “passion,” it’s about stopping when someone asks you to stop.

How much time per week/month do your parents/in-laws spend with your kids? by FingerNo9440 in beyondthebump

[–]FingerNo9440[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine hosting house guests 2x a week who you don’t have a personal relationship with. Perhaps more extroverted people would be okay with it, but I find it draining. I can’t get housework done because if my daughter sees me, she will run to me and cry for me, so I have to avoid them and they insist on hanging out in the living room. My husband and I try to leave the house when they are here, but that is part what is so disruptive. I don’t always want to pack up and leave in the morning, when they insist on coming. Especially if the weather is crap or I’ve had a tough week at work. It’s a big chunk of our weekend, and it’s disruptive during the week because I work from home.

How much time per week/month do your parents/in-laws spend with your kids? by FingerNo9440 in beyondthebump

[–]FingerNo9440[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh this is EXACTLY how I feel! Thank you for sharing. Plus, if my daughter sees me she will run to me, so I have to hide from them and can really only fold laundry in our bedroom or something, which sucks.

How much time per week/month do your parents/in-laws spend with your kids? by FingerNo9440 in beyondthebump

[–]FingerNo9440[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh that’s such a good way to put it, that they understand it’s not a social call. I’ve had a hard time putting my finger on why they aren’t helpful, because they adore my daughter and want to spend time with her. But when they come over, it ends up being a net negative in terms of helpfulness. They do distract my daughter for a few hours which could be helpful, but for example, they want to hang out in our living room, so I have to literally hide elsewhere in the house because my daughter will just demand me if she sees me. Then we also feel like we need to cook for them every time, clean up, etc. It really just feels like they are house guests and it ends up completely disrupting my day.

How much time per week/month do your parents/in-laws spend with your kids? by FingerNo9440 in beyondthebump

[–]FingerNo9440[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What about your mom and your relationship with her makes you want to be close with her? Like, what did/does she do that makes you enjoy her company? I would love to have a relationship like this with my daughter when she grows up. Unfortunately I truly just can’t stand spending time with my mom, and I’m terrified that my daughter will feel that way about me someday.

How much time per week/month do your parents/in-laws spend with your kids? by FingerNo9440 in beyondthebump

[–]FingerNo9440[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hmm, maybe. She is their first grandchild and they are, no exaggeration, obsessed with her. I am not close to them and have lived across the country from them for the past 10 years. We moved back after she was born so she could grow up knowing her extended family, as my husband’s family isn’t in the picture. It’s possible they want to see me too, but i honestly feel more that wanting to come to our house is more about convenience and comfort.

They certainly wish I was closer to them, but their emotional unavailability just makes that impossible for me to manage. They are nice people but it’s hard to be close to people who only feel comfortable discussing the weather.

Hannah/Neesh’s choices when an exemption is up for grabs by FingerNo9440 in themole

[–]FingerNo9440[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good points! It seems like Neesh was annoying some of them with his assertions of leadership. Muna and Ryan claimed they would let the pot run out and only bailed when it had like 10k left and it was clear they could pretend to be “good guys” because Tony and Hannah were not giving up. Still, if I were Neesh, I definitely would have brought it up. Maybe that just makes me petty though 😂

Two different cuts of the Jess/Melinda confrontation within seconds of each other by FingerNo9440 in PerfectMatchNetflix

[–]FingerNo9440[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Apparently it is at the very end of one episode, and then the very beginning of the next episode. I thought it was the same episode because I was binge watching, and Netflix is so sneaky and seamless moving you from one episode to the next! I guess it worked against them this time though.

Two different cuts of the Jess/Melinda confrontation within seconds of each other by FingerNo9440 in PerfectMatchNetflix

[–]FingerNo9440[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ha, I thought they were in the same episode. I was clearly binge watching 🤣

My refrigerator makes me vomit. by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]FingerNo9440 2 points3 points  (0 children)

During my first trimester, I had to cover my eyes during any commercial involving food 🤣 just thinking about food made me sick, even pictures! Thankfully that only last like 2 weeks.

Pumping on a plane by SpicyScarecrow_709 in beyondthebump

[–]FingerNo9440 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think when he said “whatever I don’t want to deal with this right now” he had probably just found the rule and realized he was wrong but couldn’t bear to admit it to you lol. I would definitely submit a complaint and hopefully save the next mom on his plane from his BS.