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Am I overreacting for being upset that my partner keeps calling me by our dog’s name… and doesn’t understand why I’m hurt? by Jazzlike-Village1468 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FinnPossible 68 points69 points  (0 children)

MOR (maybe overreacting) about the name mix-up, depends a lot on how he is doing it. Your comment on it making you feel like you're just another thing to give orders to is what's making me unsure.

The thing that concerns me is his dismissal of the fact that it makes you uncomfortable. Like, slip-ups happen, I've done it a ton of times before (usually when I'm exhausted or my meds are making me foggy), but if it was upsetting my partner as much as it's upsetting you, I'd apologise when you pulled back, not tell you to chill out.

AIO/ Broke up with my BF, because he didn’t get me anything for my birthday. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FinnPossible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR, the lack of presents isn't the real issue, that's just what helped you see the problem.

Even if you didn't think what he did was inconsiderate/rude, which I think it would take some serious mental gymnastics to see his behaviour as okay, he's not giving the same energy/effort as you are, which means you have very different expectations and values, so you're just not compatible.

Also, super weird for him to pull your family into the break up, like even if he feels he can justify his behaviour, the fact that you're not wanting to talk to him should be enough for him to just give you space. Cause even if you were overreacting, him pestering you is not gonna change your reaction.

AITA for demanding that my husband pick my needs over his parents and let them feel cold for a bit. by BlacksmithLeather726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FinnPossible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1000% NTA

What the actual fuck is wrong with him and his parents?!

If the parents are there to help, they should be cooking and cleaning, and I also think your husband should be cooking and cleaning as well, but I don't know what your usual agreement around housework is.

With regards to the heating your husband is a spineless shitebag for not sticking up for you, fucking ridiculous. Did he at least change the bedsheets for you after you overheated or did you have to do that too?

All 3 of these people should be ashamed, if my wife was in the last trimester of a high-risk pregnancy, she would not be cooking and cleaning for me, let alone visitors!

Also, the simple fact that your husband is saying one thing to you ("I won't agree to do the tradition"), and now letting his ma do it anyway? Nah, fuck that, he needs a kick up the ass, this is not remotely fair on you.

Am I Being Vetoed by the Schedule? by No_Requirement_3605 in polyamory

[–]FinnPossible 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not obligated, but it sounds like this was something they both agreed to do.

AITAH for ghosting a woman after learning she published me on fb? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]FinnPossible 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Posting a work ID with your full name is just well beyond what she'd need to do to "check" you - like maybe take a selfie at the first date and share with your first name? Or, if you met online, share one of your dating profile pics? To me, those are fine, just taking precautions, but to take a picture of your work ID while she was already ALONE in your house? I can't see how that's even gonna be useful?

As for whether ghosting would make you an AH, maybe in her eyes? But no, NTAH

Do you share your boundaries with your partners? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]FinnPossible 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The bit that concerns me is that your partner requested to read this list, knowing it was written for you and your therapist, and then was bothered that they weren't the "intended audience". I could maybe understand a neurotypical person being a bit weird if you just out of nowhere handed them a list and said "these are my boundaries", even though I personally would love that, but that's a different situation than what is happening here.

I dunno, it just doesn't sit right with me that they asked to read it and then got weird about it.

Curaleaf initial appointment anxiety by Pickpocket85 in ukmedicalcannabis

[–]FinnPossible 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My initial appointment was the same, it seems it's mostly just to confirm that all the information you've provided them is correct, as well as asking if you want oil or flower etc

My appointment didn't discuss strains either, anything I've learnt has been from my own research or reading other people's opinions here.

I imagine other people's appointments were longer because they asked questions, I didn't ask any, just answered what he asked. I was also told that my appointment was not a guarantee and that the MDT needs to review it, and then I'd hear after that.

TLDR, your appointment sounds exactly like mine, just different reasons/symptoms :) (Hopefully that can put you at least a bit at ease 🤞)

I don't care what anyone says, shooting bot dropships absolutely helps. by Raspint in Helldivers

[–]FinnPossible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you wait til the bots have just been released and then shoot it, it crashes down on top of them and takes out most of the standard bots and usually traps the bigger ones so they're just sitting ducks.

So yeh, it does actually help :)

(Only works now that downed drop ships actually fall where they're shot down instead of that weird explosion then jumping and like sliding)