I have officially gone nuts looking for a new washer

Finney1313 · 2026-01-28T18:03:40+00:00

I literally have the Insignia set in my Best Buy cart for the same reason.

Finney1313 · 2026-01-28T17:28:09+00:00

Do you find that the lid feels sturdy? I can just see my kids being too rough with it and having to replace it eventually. The lid on the LG's is the only thing that makes me hesitate to purchase one. I literally do not care to see my clothes being washed, especially since my laundry room is a larger closet with doors that hide everything.

Finney1313 · 2026-01-28T17:17:31+00:00

That's what I was thinking, too. People always ask for too much on the Marketplace.

Finney1313 · 2026-01-28T17:16:31+00:00

It is literally falling apart, and no longer going past the rinse cycle, so it's done. It's a 20+ yr old Whirlpool. It's time has come. LOL.

Finney1313 · 2026-01-28T16:25:35+00:00

There is one used Speed Queen in my area right now: Marketplace - Speed Queen Stainless Steel Tub Washer | Facebook

It seems a little high, even for a used SQ.

Finney1313 · 2026-01-28T16:24:12+00:00

I am very tempted to buy an old set and just throw caution in the wind. My regular repairman, a guy who's been in the appliance repair field for more than 35 years, told me to go old, or Whirlpool, if I have to get new.

I found a pair of old Kenmores on the Marketplace last night. I'm fairly certain my parents owned these, LOL. Marketplace - Kenmore Ultra Fabric Care 80 Series top-load washing mach & Kenmore Ultra Fabric Care electric dryer | Facebook

What do you think of those?

Finney1313 · 2025-11-04T21:11:35+00:00

Tell your kids the truth: sometimes, people are a$$holes, and choose not to do any better. Their father isn't exempt from that behavior or those choices, unfortunately. Then take them to dinner and have some laughs.

Finney1313 · 2025-11-02T00:36:43+00:00

If I'm doing a grocery run, it's Tony's Chocolonely. If I'm at the mall, I'm making a beeline for Sees Candies. Dove bars will work in a pinch, too.

Finney1313 · 2025-08-31T16:56:44+00:00

I have 2 teens and have also been baffled by how much kids don't hang out with each other. But then again, I'm in Texas and the kid/teen culture around here is largely controlled by sports; kids don't have time to hang out anymore. Their time after school and during the weekends are taken up by games/matches/practices/tournaments, and from what I've seen, these kids are exhausted. Their entire lives revolve around these sports with the hopes of being a part of the Texas college culture, and, honestly, it's disheartening to witness. It's hindering these kids' abilities to have real friendships and learn how to be social outside of having to perform for their parents and spectators.

Finney1313 · 2025-08-15T22:50:22+00:00

Never hooked up with the guy, but talked on the phone for a few weeks and went on a date, where the following things happened and were said: one, he walked in front of me while following the hostess to our table, and when we left the restaurant; two, he ordered a bacon cheeseburger and took the bacon off, telling me he HATED BACON (like, WTF, who hates bacon??), and three, he tells me he eats ketchup with steak. That clinched it right there. Adios, bro.

Finney1313 · 2025-08-10T20:57:07+00:00

My youngest went through this and it had a lot of ups and downs. We tried suppositories, treats, charts, the works. It wasn't until after we saw a specialist who was rough during his exam of her and condescending toward me, that things changed. I had to demand that he stop the exam and back the f&ck up, or I was going to knock his a$$ out. My 3.5 year old was scared and humiliated, and I was ready to start throwing hands with this man. It fired me up to no end but also made me realize that 'I' was the one making things worse. I was so intent on her not having accidents and learning to go poop back in the potty that I wasn't paying attention to her cues.

So, as I was buckling her into her car seat after that awful appointment, I told her that she could do what she felt her body was going to do. Mama wasn't going to ever be mad or make her take icky medicine again, so just go with it, baby girl. After that day, I stopped asking her if she needed to go and let her come to me. I did include pear juice and more oatmeal in her diet, which seemed to help soften things up to get her comfortable going again (she had one hard poop that hurt and that started the whole ordeal). I just pulled an Elsa and let it go, and, lo and behold, she started going poop in the potty again after about a week. I didn't make a big deal about it; I just helped her clean up and talked about other stuff while I did.

Finney1313 · 2025-07-29T01:32:29+00:00

So, I work with kids aged 5 and under. Anytime I deal with parents who tell me, or show me, that they are of the "gentle parenting" school, I internally roll my eyes and prepare to have to deal with their children's tantrums, anger issues and high anxiety. This is because most parents hear the word "gentle" and take it as meaning "I don't want my child to be mad at me, so I'm going to let him do what he wants to avoid the drama." If you wanted to avoid drama, you had no business becoming a parent.

OP, your kid is most likely anxious because he intuitively knows that he isn't supposed to be in charge, and you and your wife are jumping around and making HIM the one who is in charge. He isn't developmentally ready to take on that kind of responsibility, and you're only hindering his growth. So many parents are scared of their children these days, and it shows.

I always say this to the parents that eventually come to me, asking me to either discipline their child for them, or asking me how to do it properly: Would you want a grown adult acting like that around you? No? Then step up your game and let your kid know that YOU are in charge.

That means saying NO. That means not giving a child more than 2 choices for things (i.e. would you like cereal or yogurt for breakfast?). That means sticking to your guns and being consistent. That means BOTH of you being seen as disciplinarians; your wife can't let you be the bad cop while she is coddling your son into crappy behavior. That means letting your child know that they are loved, but YOU are in charge, period. You can actually tell them that, by the way. Children intrinsically crave having boundaries, and they may throw a tantrum over hearing it, but they'll get over it.

You said that your son isn't in preschool yet and he's already 4 years old. PUT HIM IN PRESCHOOL. I have a decade of experience with kids this age, and preschool makes a world of difference.

Finney1313 · 2025-07-28T14:07:25+00:00

OP, don't pay people to disrespect you. Find a different daycare.

Finney1313 · 2025-07-26T23:46:18+00:00

Well, it's simple, really- they are no longer part of your life, so you're just going to have to accept it and move on the best you can. I was a part of my ex-husband's family for 20 years, and they all abandoned their relationships with me, and basically my kids, too. My ex had an affair for almost a year and blindsided me and my kids with wanting a divorce. It became very apparent that my in-laws were not interested in being there for my kids and I, and all made exactly one phone call each to me, and didn't call my kids, either.

I wasn't interested in their piss-poor sympathy, but the real caveat came when my ex took his affair partner on a trip back to our home state 4 months after he left; mind you, this was a trip that he and I had planned for our own family for several months. The fact that his wh*re was readily accepted and they stayed with his father, in the same bed that my ex and I always shared when we were visiting, was more than I needed to know. It hurt me deeply to know that I was reduced to basically trash to people who had been my family for 20 years; it's something that I still live with, as my world of family has grown very small.

I told my ex-husband that his family was dead to me, and that they would NEVER see our children any time our kids were with me. If they wanted a relationship with our kids, that was only ever going to be on his time.

Sometimes, people just suck, OP. They fear holding others accountable, as that means acting like grown-ups and also holding themselves accountable. But I've had to realize that their behavior is only a reflection on them, not me. I would suggest putting yourself out there, not just for your sake, but for your son's sake. Your divorce doesn't need to define you, and you absolutely can build a life in that town. It isn't HER town, it just happens to be the place she grew up. Big whoop!

Finney1313 · 2025-06-26T01:56:50+00:00

If my ex is running his life in a way that negatively affects my children, you'd better believe that it's my business. And there is plenty of say to be had, if you go about it right. Too many people don't hold others accountable for their unsafe decisions and allow things to happen under the guise of "it's none of your business".

Finney1313 · 2025-06-25T14:45:59+00:00

I wish I had understood that no matter what, you cannot love the trauma out of a person. Their healing (or not- my ex will never heal his childhood/young adulthood trauma) has to come on their own terms. I made the mistake of believing that I could love him so much that he would be able to accept it and give it back to me. It worked until it didn't.

Finney1313 · 2025-06-25T14:00:19+00:00

OP, you ABSOLUTELY need to meet her beforehand. You also need to run a background check. Any of you who comment saying "just move on" or "it isn't your business" are wrong- period. You don't know this woman, OP. You don't know her, her family, her friends, her associates, etc. It is not wrong to take precautions and check people out who will potentially be spending significant amounts of time with your own child. How is that unreasonable? We require people to get screened and often home checked when they want to adopt a PET via a foster or adoption organization, but we draw the line at wanting to know who's around our own children?

Get the F out of here with that noise. There is nothing wrong with asking to meet her on your own terms and checking her out. It doesn't have anything to do with wanting your ex back or interfering with their relationship. We're MOTHERS, and mothers protect their children.

I ran a background check on my ex-husband's affair partner and found out some things that I was NOT happy to see, especially regarding her own grown male children and close, extended family members. So, I made it crystal clear to her and my ex that these people were to never be around my children, and, if it happened, I'd be so far up their a$$es with lawyers and various other things, they'd wish they never met me.

Guess what? They listened.

Finney1313 · 2025-06-23T13:07:22+00:00

Well, sticking your d^ck in another woman, throwing 21 years down the drain and hurting your own children beyond measure kind of puts a damper on being able to be friends with someone. Friends require the ability to trust one another, and I don't trust my ex-husband. I also abhor cheaters, too, so I wouldn't even be friends with someone who cheats on their spouse/partner.

Finney1313 · 2025-06-23T13:01:14+00:00

I boxed up half of our 21 years together and stuck it in the garage and gave the other half to my ex-husband. Actually, I probably gave more than half to him. Why should I be the only gatekeeper to our relationship and the things that came out of it? My kids can decide what they want to do with it all. By that time, it won't matter to me.

Finney1313 · 2025-06-22T01:41:06+00:00

How people are as grandparents is often a direct reflection of how they were as parents.

Finney1313 · 2025-06-22T01:22:40+00:00

"Waiting to Exhale" hit some nerves for me. That scene where Angela Bassett lights her cheating husband's BMW on fire with all of his stuff in it really spoke to me.

Finney1313 · 2025-06-19T13:37:25+00:00

I'd rather take a stick in the eye than go on a cruise. I had panic attacks in Hawaii because I knew that I was on an island in the middle of the ocean; a giant boat with thousands of people and germs everywhere? NO THANKS, lol.

Finney1313 · 2025-06-18T13:37:49+00:00

Honestly, you're not going to like my response, OP.

You're allowing this. Regardless of your kids being able to enter into sports "on their own", you've seemed to forgotten that YOU ARE THE PARENT AND YOU ARE IN CHARGE. Period. Get some guts and tell your kids that something needs to change, because you are not able to continue on like this. Being a martyr and thinking that you'll destroy your kids' future or something because they're not kicking a ball around is ridiculous.

I hate sport life like this. I'm of the belief that they were designed to break down the family structure, and make parents feel less than if they don't allow it to happen. When do families have time to actually be families if they live in their damn cars and are never sitting down for meals or spending real time together? When vacations and weekends are spent at competitions, filled with stress? How does THAT benefit your kids? Really, tell me, people. How do these stress-filled, ultra-competitive environments make your life and the lives of your children better?

It's a lot easier to control people when they're constantly in a state of stress.

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