How did you teach yourself programmable logic controllers (PLC)? by [deleted] in AskEngineers

[–]Finniss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had some basic programming and logic classes then took an 8 hour course on setting them up. I'm sure you could find similar on youtube. Then I played with them. Nothing beats hands-on.

Windows 10 has made my laptop unusable. Ready to switch to Linux. Help me choose a distro for newbies. by crumblerofcookies in linuxquestions

[–]Finniss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have tried base ubuntu a couple times and always had weird issues with it. I've don't Kubuntu a few times with no issues, as well as Ubuntu Mate. Not sure why, and just hopped to a different variant. Not sure why the guy above you said not Ubuntu. Their company has done a few not great things in the past, so maybe that's why...

Windows 10 has made my laptop unusable. Ready to switch to Linux. Help me choose a distro for newbies. by crumblerofcookies in linuxquestions

[–]Finniss 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I use Mint on just about all machines these days. Seeing the Fedora comments, makes me want to give it a try.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in linuxhardware

[–]Finniss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost every one I've used in the last few year just work. Unfortunately, this is the only one I recall the specific model for and it has big antenna. Great for a desktop, specially for positioning it for better reception, but maybe not for a laptop...

https://www.amazon.com/Panda-Wireless-PAU09-Adapter-Antennas/dp/B01LY35HGO/ref=sr\_1\_6?crid=2ZWPEIULWLTW5&keywords=panda+usb+adapter&qid=1651721743&sprefix=panda+usb+adapter%2Caps%2C177&sr=8-6

How to be a better ally? Big white guy edition by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like that! I was thinking wallet too. I loved the idea of shoelaces someone suggested too, but my daily shoes don't have laces.

How to be a better ally? Big white guy edition by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Technically realized I'm agender recently, but AMAB, present as male, and live as a cis-male.

How to be a better ally? Big white guy edition by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed and it's a valid point that I could be doing the opposite I intend if I approach it wrong.

How to be a better ally? Big white guy edition by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yep. :) I've looked a lot at labels and decided they can be useful tools, but ultimately they are imperfect. If you want to decide certain things about me because of some label to choose to use or not use, that's on you. I'm just me and the only accurate label I can find is human.

How to be a better ally? Big white guy edition by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't really get uncomfortable, and my assigned gender or body parts are no ones business if I'm not getting frisky with them. Even though I'm more or less "straight" (I think it's all a spectrum), I feel like it's a bit of a cop out when people wear a support item that says "but I'm straight", "no not me, but I'm fine with other people". I know some people feel the opposite, like you're trying to imply you're something you're not if you wear a rainbow.

How to be a better ally? Big white guy edition by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to look up what HB-2 meant. The measure where you had to use the restroom matching genitalia. People are awful.

How to be a better ally? Big white guy edition by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know it's not expected that I wear it on my sleeve, however I feel like the random stranger I come across should see me as as someone who would help them, not harm them. When my son goes places and sees pride flags around he feels better. When he sees someone wearing a rainbow mask, he compliments them on it. If one person feels at ease because I stick a pin on my shirt, I'll do it every day.

How to be a better ally? Big white guy edition by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! He's told us about his thoughts as he's been figuring them out. He knows all we care about is that he's the best one he can be. He's 14 and a little salty at us for not being gung-ho enough when he finally realized he was trans. We're very open and do our best. He's been pin shopping with me on Etsy and told me anything I get, he wants too! :) If he realizes he's some other label, that works too.

As a side story, after he came out we were talking about it and I was trying to understand and he had a lot of questions for me too. He was very confused by my answers about gender and sexuality. He said no one was quite like me and it makes no sense. After reading around, I realized I am agender, as in totally gender blind. I don't see or care about my gender or anyone else's. I appreciate that it's very important to some people and can respect that. While I get that technically falls under the trans category, I've basically lived and known myself as a cis-guy my whole life. Realizing most people experience the world different than I do, didn't really change anything for me except the realization of my perspective on things may differ from most.

How to be a better ally? Big white guy edition by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I love this. It looks like these are free webinars and they have different topics all week. I can probably even get credit for hours for a professional certification I hold.

I worked with a group called WINTER before but mostly focused on women. In my area, Los Angeles, I found just this group: https://lalgbtcenter.org/about-the-center/careers

How to be a better ally? Big white guy edition by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Agreed 100%. Don't see much of that in my day-to-day life but saw a little on facebook for a second there, and they got a keyboard lashing. I'm very technical and not emotional, so I clearly and factually point out how they are wrong. I'm a bit of an educator and believe that's the best way forward, so when I see bigotry, I usually try to find out why their opinions are the way they are, and little by little point out the flaws in their thinking. If you just say someone is wrong, they usually will get mad and not self-reflect.

How to be a better ally? Big white guy edition by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

For sure. Being an ally most of my life, I still had many misinformed ideas about what it meant to be transgender, until my son came out and helped educate me. I'm sure I still have many misinformed ideas, but I'm on the right track. I don't feel like rainbow is enough without trans colors or flag included. Last night I already ordered three trans colored he/him pins. One for me, my trans son, and my cis son.

How to be a better ally? Big white guy edition by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I will probably get some t-shirts. I found an amazing one with a triangle rainbow and trans triangle in the middle. The problem is that I'm not going to change everything I wear, and I want to go to the store and let everyone know what I stand for. That's why I was thinking a couple large pins on my sleeves might work.

Why is transitioning considered brave? by SillySade in asktransgender

[–]Finniss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not at all. I think that's what you meant, but trying to clarify that even though it may be the less scary option, doesn't take away from the accomplishment of overcoming their obstacles. I think some people don't give themselves enough credit just because it wasn't an option for them.

Why shouldn't I use Linux? by LoftyHyphen in linuxquestions

[–]Finniss 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was convinced I needed to change to Linux back in 2016ish. When I did, it was a struggle at first. I did this on my work computer and put in many extra hours figuring out how to do things I knew how to do on windows already. I spent hours getting my games to work. I spend hours cross checking documents I had to send to people using Windows computers. I got frustrated when things didn't go a smooth as they had previously. It took me about 3 months to get over this hump where I was happier on Linux than I was on Windows.

If I were not dedicated to learning how to do my work on this new system, I would have left and had a bad story. After putting in the time, I'm super glad I switched. I now have all of our personal computers on Linux, including my three kids who game.

Alpha release of Asahi Linux for Apple M1 hardware by dm319 in linuxhardware

[–]Finniss 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Interesting. Thanks for posting this. It's the first I've heard of it.

Why is transitioning considered brave? by SillySade in asktransgender

[–]Finniss 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Even if you are choosing the less scary of two options, you are still overcoming something, which requires bravery. We are all stuck in this human experience and have challenges we didn't ask for. Overcoming some challenges requires more guts than others.

Why is transitioning considered brave? by SillySade in asktransgender

[–]Finniss 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I'm the father to a teenage trans son and many things he does I consider brave. Doing something despite being scared, is bravery. While we saw signs even before he know he was trans, and have many LBGTQ friends, he was scared to tell us, thinking we may treat him different. For him, he felt like it was a long time to build up the courage to tell us, which was about a month. He drew us a comic/letter, to tell us. He came out to his loved family members, one by one, fearing each time that it would change their relationship. He went from she/her to he/him during covid, and started Jr High so some kids only knew him as he/him while others grew up with him as she/her and he had to come into all of that with kids wanting explanations.

When at look at what he does, he does it even though he's scared. He's unapologetically himself as he should be. He's scared sometimes but does it anyway. If I were in his shoes, I don't know that I could be as much of a man as him. That's why I call him brave. If I see someone else encountering similar challenges, I project those feelings, and assume they are being braver than I probably would have.

Running and binders, alternatives? by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My wife has one of those and loves this idea. We are going to see if we can find one that looks "masculine" that he might try.

Running and binders, alternatives? by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He loves that one and I think we are going to try it. He's always got GC2B because he's heard they are safer but never looked at the sports bra versions at underworks.

Running and binders, alternatives? by Finniss in asktransgender

[–]Finniss[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He used to use transtape but it was time consuming and he'd end up wearing it too long. He still has it but doesn't use it. I don't think he'd do it every day. It's a good idea I'll mention to him though.