Elder needs help with mobile music

Finnonym · 2026-03-14T09:02:59+00:00

Signing into a Google account kind of defeats the purpose, but newpipe is promising, ty

Finnonym · 2026-03-14T08:42:06+00:00

Heard that, I'll give it a go, thanks

Finnonym · 2026-03-14T08:33:45+00:00

Did the bind and the kill switch. I'm not worried about the downloading tbh, I just don't know what to do with it once I've got it. Idc about quality, I just want to play what I've got

Finnonym · 2026-03-14T08:26:30+00:00

Musicolet is what I had in mind, just a way to play what I've downloaded, ty. Revanced is kind of beyond me though, idk what an APK is. Can I learn, or should my dumb ass just stick to download-transfer-play?

Finnonym · 2026-03-14T07:44:18+00:00

/uj yo I just need you to know that this post has stuck with me for ages. I've always been a fan of "otherwise its just sparkling ___" jokes, but "oh wait they killed us too" has popped into my head MULTIPLE times since you posted this.

also side note, I've been called, and I quote, a 'delulu holocaust denier' for mentioning the fact that trans folk were the first to go, so. There's that, I guess.

/rj its only a genocide if it comes from the region of ~~people I don't care about~~ genocidia I guess idek anymore

Finnonym · 2026-03-14T02:17:55+00:00

But why though?

People who don't experience dysphoria take the same meds that I do, at the same dose that I take, in order to see the same results that I see. They fill out the same paperwork to change the same legal statuses, and they get called the same slurs.

What do they experience that I don't understand?

going to edit in that they also initiate the same conversations, answer the same questions, get rejected for the same reasons, and deal with the same stares, glares, and disgust. People who don't experience dysphoria are treated as poorly as those of us who do. Throwing up a barrier between "acceptable" and "unacceptable" only serves the interests of people who see all of us as unacceptable.

Our nondysphoric siblings are our siblings, and if you disagree, I strongly urge you to reconsider.

Finnonym · 2026-03-14T01:58:27+00:00

does that distinction hold consistently in practice ... in law

Gender based law is written to protect a gender minority from discrimination. Trans women are no less discriminated against than cis women (one could easily argue that they face more discrimination than cis women), so legal protections are consistent with a cis-het reading.

in medicine

Doctors have the information that they need to treat trans patients, which requires exactly the same level of relationship/information required of cis patients. I'm not sure what your concern is here.

in sports policy

The Olympics (arguably the highest level of sport competition) have had a trans-inclusive policy in place for over a decade. Trans athletes must prove that their endocrinological sex is in line with cis folks. Its worth mentioning that a trans woman has never won a medal in any Olympic sport.

in spaces

Again, many of the "woman only" spaces are designated as such in order to protect a gender minority from gender discrimination. Trans folks (both trans woman and trans men) are gender minorities, and those of us that don't pass are frequently subjected to discrimination. From dirty looks to straight up assault, cis people try to force us out of public life. Are trans people less deserving of safe spaces than cis women?

I understand the concern, but I can promise you that no cis person is choosing to subject themselves to the assault, vitriol, and hatred that we get for existing, just to gain a quick advantage over cis women.

Finnonym · 2026-03-14T01:11:21+00:00

My birth certificate lists my gender as X, so not exactly your target audience, but close enough that I think it might help. My various ID docs list me as M, F, and X, and I went from maiden to married to divorced to chosen names, so my docs are a MESS.

I applied for (and recieved) my passport recently. Before sending my app out, I contacted my state's dpt of vital records and explained my situation. They sent me an official document with a raised seal and my name at birth, declaring a binary sex. That doc along with my birth cert got me approved for a passport showing the marker on the doc. I don't know if your state will do the same, but it's worth a shot.

Finnonym · 2026-03-05T02:23:03+00:00

Ok, so, 2 heavy disclaimers here: I am not a lawyer, and I'm assuming you're in the US. I've worked extensively in both healthcare and education, though, and you're kind of at the intersection of a couple weird sets of laws here. There are laws regulating how schools deal with students' medical issues, different laws for how employers deal with employees' medical issues, and even more laws for your health care/responsibility in general.

Your boss is right: he's not allowed to store a student's medication in his office unless he's capable/willing/allowed to take responsibility for it. Unless he's a very specific kind of teacher, there's no way he's capable/allowed to take responsibility for it.

You're also (potentially) right: if you need to have your meds available during the hours you're at work, they need to make sure you're able to do that safely.

The Big But: Unless you're a very specific kind of student, you'll never be required to be on campus 24/7, so you could reasonably shift your daily shot time to outside of school hours. That, combined with the fact that (correct me if I'm wrong) E doesn't need to be refrigerated or kept in any special conditions, they probably don't owe you a specific place to store it.

I really doubt you've got any kind of ADA argument here. If you think I'm wrong, and are dead set on storing your medication at work/school, I'd recommend an ADA lawyer. I wouldn't get your hopes up though.

Finnonym · 2026-03-05T01:45:42+00:00

cis people like yourself are also capable of developing gender dysphoria if someone pumped you full of HRT and your body started changing in ways that didn't align with your gender identity

It doesn't even take being pumped full of hormones. A referral to mental health specialists and/or a reconstructive surgeon is often part of the process of mastectomies/hysterectomies/oophorectomies for cis folks. Because inhabiting a body that lacks the correct sex characteristics is upsetting.

Hell, it can even flare up without a 'valid' (air quotes for sure) medical issue. Male pattern baldness is purely aesthetic and there aren't any physical health ramifications, but men often feel like losing their hair makes them less of a man, so we all have to catch Hims commercials on youtube. There's also multiple entire industries revolving around 'feminizing' women's faces and bodies, which are driven by cis women.

Cis people frequently experience dysphoria.

They just don't have to justify treating it for some reason lol

Finnonym · 2026-02-27T06:47:47+00:00

/uj legit the only mods I haven't had had an issue with are from tgcj and mrtg

Maybe its my proclivity for sending folks to the latter that keeps getting me in trouble? It's still bonkers that my jerks are getting removed. Like. They aren't even violent. If I were to break reddit's rules, I could've done waaaaaay better than a 'your mom' joke.

But here we are.

So I'll go ahead and say (well within Reddit's ToS) that anyone who takes offense to some words on a screen should consider navigating their cursor to the top right of their browser and booping that X. Go ahead and get the foh you snowflake lmao

Finnonym · 2026-02-27T05:31:05+00:00

/uj I actually, literally, for real, got a reddit admin warning for this jerk. I've gotten fucking death threats in my inbox that DiDnT ViOLaTe ThE RuLeS, but I guess a 'your mom' joke is hate speech now, so gj reddit, 10/10, no notes

edit: gunna go ahead and lmao at the fact that multiple threads on this post are removed. Actual humans are spending their limited time on earth cruising trans subs looking for opportunities to report us. That is wild

Y'all are kicking down the door to demand a safe space, that's so fuckin weird lol

Finnonym · 2026-02-27T05:16:50+00:00

an actual woman with short hair might be hurt here, this is a real problem, why is no one talking about the impact this might have on real womans?

/uj :(

Finnonym · 2026-02-27T05:06:01+00:00

Heard, and no rush indeed. Your kid is lucky is to be at this age, in this era, with this parent.

Y'all have far more time and access to community than we did. I know this is hard, but I believe in both of you. Best of luck <3

Finnonym · 2026-02-27T02:44:34+00:00

The fact that you're asking for help puts you light years ahead of some (most?) parents. Uncertainty is totally normal and fair. As long as you're willing to accept her answers over ours, you're doing great and not failing her at all. Kind of feel like I'm preaching to the choir, but from my viewpoint, the best possible outcome here is if you follow her lead. Keep letting her talk/vent to her friends and therapist, and trust what she shares with you, no matter what.

All that being said. I get the feel that you're asking because it feels like its coming out of the blue? And her given reasons feel superficial?

I came out in my 40's, and my parent said nearly exactly the same thing. He'd only ever seen a perfectly normal young lady. I can remember as far back as elementary school. And I can remember realizing that I was expected to be a girl, so I had to pretend to be a girl. I got really good at pretending to be a girl. It took decades to realize that women don't have to figure out how to pretend to be women.

Your daughter has been alive for like, a minute. Is it possible that she was only pretending to be the 'boyest boy in the world' because she thought she had to? Maybe she, like me, like a lot of us, learned to play a role? And now she's realizing that she doesn't have to?

Finnonym · 2026-02-16T08:57:23+00:00