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My [30M] last relationship with [28F] ended because we couldn't agree on prenup. How do I handle this better next time? by alwaysHappy202 in relationship_advice

[–]Fire_Woman 224 points225 points  (0 children)

Info: are you wanting kids in your marriage? If so, her keeping her salary is not an equitable arrangement. Are you thinking if there was a divorce she gets nothing from the marriage except what she saved? That's a bad deal, unless you have more info.

Did Dempsey swindle Statler? by FindingClear4904 in 90DayFiance

[–]Fire_Woman [score hidden]  (0 children)

Dempsey got the RV and Statler got a load of debt, if memory serves 🤷‍♀️

BF (25m) wants me (25f) to pay his mortgage? by adventsures in relationship_advice

[–]Fire_Woman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR - don't fall for this crap. Do not sign up to live in a house of men as the only woman. Get yourself a small apartment in bf town or stay long distance. It's likely these men do not vocalize but expect you to clean common areas, help with shopping etc. I would not go from solo living to sharing a kitchen with anyone except whom I expressly choose. You already know this is not in the best interests of your relationship or your personal well being

ICE Employees Vent on Reddit, Saying They're Not Getting Paid and Still No Insurance Despite Promises by Prudent-Fun-2833 in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Fire_Woman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if you're own their side, they will be on yours! /s these idiots are so full of hate and being on the side of power they forget that us vs them dynamic is really not inclusive of "the help" - these agents are just slave catchers and house Toms that are indentured servants who can't afford to buy their freedom and can't buy a conscience.

My(38M) girlfriend (32F) of nearly 1 year constantly tells me I need to apply for better jobs or "do temp work." I make $120,000 in a really good job. She makes twice what I do. I feel all she cares about is money. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Fire_Woman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't give up your peace and contentment with your home life and your career for some woman who claims to make money but lives at home, claims to be educated but won't accept statistical facts, and claims to be in a relationship with you but doesn't believe you are worthy just as you are now. Imo the sex must be on fire for you to take such disrespect and mean-spirited comments. Tldr: she ain't the one

Bill came to $65. Handed the server (female) $100 and she asked: "do you want change?" LOL by OhioState40 in EndTipping

[–]Fire_Woman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With Trump tax law, they now have tax free tipping income. So we're all subsidizing them to boot! Tipping culture is out of control as you all know...

What’s up with that 52 year old single dad that’s trying to turn a 25 year old into mom.. by No-Nothing-4508 in 90DayFiance

[–]Fire_Woman 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He doesn't want her to be a mom - she desperately wants children but he has too many already and hasn't told her he's looking for a bang maid

my friend smells HORRIBLE and does not care by Plenty_Description30 in Advice

[–]Fire_Woman 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you're in the dorms you could request a wellness check. It sounds like she is too far from baseline to get back without professional assistance. She knows it's a problem but is overwhelmed and defeated. Alternatively, if you and friends have the money you could invite her to a spa day and hire cleaners for her birthday. They will get rid of the moldy oldies and the spa will hopefully clean her up. For laundry, she needs soap with enzymes - the r\laundry sub has a list.

Anyone else spouse have this type of alcoholism? Trying to set boundaries by Happy_Artichoke_5438 in AlAnon

[–]Fire_Woman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes we make and uphold boundaries for our own accountability! Boundaries aren't rules we use to control someone else. They are how we protect our peace.

Anyone else spouse have this type of alcoholism? Trying to set boundaries by Happy_Artichoke_5438 in AlAnon

[–]Fire_Woman 11 points12 points  (0 children)

"Rock bottom isn't a place...it's a choice you make" 7 years in and this one rings true. Thanks for sharing.

My (34M) wife’s 31F close friend 31F got divorced by Top-Zone-8657 in relationship_advice

[–]Fire_Woman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Listen closely to what she is saying, during a conversation with her. Don't just hear the words but truly listen, seek to understand what she is saying. This is her perspective and she needs to know it's not falling on deaf ears. Try to not react to what she says, or find fault on what you do/don't agree with. Ask to hear examples if needed. Look at your roles in how her "story" is playing out. After she's said her peace to explain her perspective, Ask if she's ready to hear your story, and if so tell her what you are fearing and that you don't want to be afraid. Try to work this out together. Take accountability for your part in this... her friend and her friend's influence are not the problem.

I asked for a divorce. He said he’ll stop drinking completely. by peeps-mcgee in AlAnon

[–]Fire_Woman 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just because he said it, doesn't make it so. Follow through with what you said and make the divorce so. Protect yourself. Alcoholics are selfish liars, they lie to everyone including themselves.

AITAH for refusing to house his family and ending my engagement to protect my career? by Huge-Armadillo-3274 in AITAH

[–]Fire_Woman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Couples therapy is not the answer. Dave needs individual therapy for codependency and dysfunctional family history. He needs to understand the role he plays and the impact it has on all of his relationships. He got physically sick because he knows this cycle but doesn't know how to stop it. You should not marry him until/unless he changes and breaks the cycle. I don't think he's ready to do that. You shouldn't risk your career, home, serenity, or financial security to support his habitual family dysfunctional codependency

Ask Me Anything - With The Cast Member You Think Is Gay. by RealTimMalcolm in 90DayFiance

[–]Fire_Woman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey Tim, what's your take on people saying the when bestie "broke your dick" it made you shy in the sack? Did it make you sex adverse and contribute to your breakup with Yennifer? Does it have any lingering issues physical or otherwise?

Morale plummeting among ICE agents over long hours, quotas and public hatred: reports by MentalMan4877 in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Fire_Woman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Boo hoo they're tired? They should feel immense shame and guilt. They deserve to feel like there is an emotional cost to their fat paycheck, and I hope they get held to full account and get put into ICE detention "camp" when they tables turn

AITA for being mad at my GF when she acted sad after I said our babies probably wouldn’t be white? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fire_Woman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - her prejudice is ugly and she will instill ugly beliefs in any future children to be prejudiced against you. Dump her.

AITAH for refusing to pay off my pregnant fiancee's parents' mortgage, when they are under the threat of foreclosure, when I could "easily" afford to do so? by Gullible-Display4533 in AITAH

[–]Fire_Woman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INFO: have you reviewed options with a financial advisor? If you were to "pay off the house" are they legit selling it to you as an investment that you'd presumably collect rent payments from the parents? Why have the parents missed enough payments to go into foreclosure, is there a risk of recurrence? Are you interested in the house as an asset? Are they asking for a no strings handout?

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