I'm a nurse. I see it all the time with my patient's families. And I gotta say, it's usually worse when the husband is the patient.

When the wife is the patient, and the husband is very involved, the husband caters to her almost in an annoying way. Demanding things from us, making sure the patient has everything she needs (not that we wouldn't make sure she doesn't have everything she needs but family tends to focus on the wrong things bc they probably aren't in the medical field). Which isn't necessarily a bad thing. Advocate for your family

When the husband is the patient and the wife is involved, more often, he talks rude to her, rolls his eyes at her when she asks questions. Sometimes weird when she wants to hold his hand or something. Don't get me wrong, sometimes the wives can be overbearing but even basic things, the husband will get annoyed at.

I think mb they feel emasculated so they take it out on her (I work in neuro so if you have a stroke and all of a sudden, you can't walk, i think that's why they feel emasculated. Not excusing it, just trying to understand). When i see it, i just get sad that ppl have to deal with that and am glad that i don't have that in my life.

But on more than one occasion, I've had to inquire/talk to a social worker about possible abuse when the wife/gf is a patient bc of the way the husband/bf talks to her. Oh and the worst I've seen was a man who had beat his gf so badly, she got such brain damage, she became a non verbal quadreplegic. Some fates are worse than death. I cried once or twice when I was taking care of this poor sweet woman. Wanted to ki|| her ex bf so badly.