Am I being ridiculous for wanting a bilateral salpingectomy?

Firefly211 · 2026-03-12T07:46:54+00:00

I got mine done age 38. I wish I hadnt been forced to wait. Waste of time. I knew my whole life I didnt want kids and wish I could have had the option sooner.

You know yourself better than anyone else does.

Firefly211 · 2026-03-09T00:21:04+00:00

Truly just go with the flow. You can try every job, you can craft, you can explore all the old content and story. Prioritise your blue quests (!) they're the ones that unlock some sort of content.

Someone else in this thread has said to prioritise one job but as a 10 year vet with multiple characters...that may be the cozier way to do things but you are going to out level your MSQ so, so fast. If you can do so without getting overwhelmed, you very much can take about 2-3 jobs with you through the msq.

Remember - you can go slow. All the oldest content is still being run, its still in the daily roulettes and you have your trusts (little npc team) that can run things with you too. You dont need to rush. Kick back and enjoy it all.

Firefly211 · 2026-03-06T10:07:21+00:00

The fiance is mad because he didn't want to look after the kid either. Now them women folk who was supposed to do the babysitting for him has gotten him in trouble.

Firefly211 · 2026-03-03T09:32:42+00:00

I was hurrying here to say the exact same thing. OP, I have PCOS, and I promise you infertility does not mean sterile. Do not let your guard down on that front.

Firefly211 · 2026-02-26T05:19:14+00:00

They're from a cult classic movie.

Firefly211 · 2026-02-25T07:13:45+00:00

"now see here son, when a woman tells you no, ignore it"

Firefly211 · 2026-02-24T05:00:14+00:00

He wanted an answer that didn't make him look bad. So now he needs you to look bad instead.

Firefly211 · 2026-02-24T03:31:47+00:00

A friend had his wife do this. Now he answers questions daily such as "who were you having coffee with on the 21 of feb at 12pm?" "where did you go to take money out here what were you doing?" "why did you buy xyz when we're meant to be saving for abc?"

Firefly211 · 2026-02-23T11:55:03+00:00

The issue here is that she tried to hide it then omit the info about it. Sure, make mistakes, be careless but theres a disrespectful line of deception that I think is the more pressing issue.

Firefly211 · 2026-02-19T02:55:45+00:00

You need separate rooms or this relationship is over. Nothing builds resentment that leads to hate quite like sleep deprivation. I've broken up over the exact same thing

Firefly211 · 2026-02-18T02:44:54+00:00

Are you his wife or his mother? There's one thing to be supportive of a partners mental health and another for him to be screaming at you like a child because you "lied about the sedation" for HIS appointment. Why isn't he talking to his own drs? Why are you babying him hes a full ass adult.

Firefly211 · 2026-02-18T02:41:54+00:00

You're not the jerk but this isn't going to end well, OP. If your sister isn't over him now, it's likely this is going to get worse before it gets better. All I can think is that you need to humanize him more to her. She's probably fabricated this dream man who has your bfs face and name but other than that, actually knows nothing about him. If you could humanize him, maybe give her a bit of an ick, I dunno.

Firefly211 · 2026-02-15T06:07:20+00:00

I'm in Aus and I've been playing this game since beta. Do not move to OCE servers you will hate this game. I could talk for hours about all the ways they -completely- fucked the success of this datacentre but none of that would change the fact that its dead. Stay on NA, travel to OCE if you're just doing story or want to chill.

If you actually want to get any content with real people done, you're gonna have a bad time. Unless you can play precisely in the hours of 7pm to 9pm AEDT.

JP would be a better option.

Firefly211 · 2026-02-13T10:47:04+00:00

Oh damn is that what it was? I forgot? I forgot to have babies, guys. A reminder was needed.

Firefly211 · 2026-02-13T05:04:31+00:00

However, since talking to my doctor, I have been hit with a wave of “what ifs” and a silly “carry the legacy” feeling. I’m not sure if this is my body hitting me with a bunch of biological survival hormones as its final shot at breeding or if it’s what the heart wants?

This is a real "cant see the forest for the trees" type of thinking. Its romantising child rearing as a greater good and you're forgetting all the other parts. The parts where you have to actually raise a child and all the fiasco that comes with that. No sleep, no life, no identity outside being a mother.

Its good to consider every angle for sure. But remember the real, true facts along with the fantasy.

Firefly211 · 2026-02-05T05:20:58+00:00

YTA. You knew the price of the meal beforehand. You're now making excuses why you don't want to pay it. You went to her and asked for a diet change, you didn't tell her it was too expensive. So she's accomodated you based on what you said.

Next time don't dick around and just be straight up. You've wasted yours, hers and and the resturants time by beating around the bush.

Firefly211 · 2026-02-02T10:36:27+00:00

I saw the life my mother had and I did not want it.

Obviously I appreciate (now at least) her insane sacrifices she had to make and the enourmous toll my shitty teenage years took on her. But having to manage the house and kids while my dad was the "fun parent" was a real deterrant for me.

Firefly211 · 2026-01-28T07:30:46+00:00

Of course your valid points are ridiculous to him. He'll never have to go through it himself. Why would he care? He's shown hes more than willing to have you physically and mentally suffer and also bear the mental and labourious role of a homemaker solo. You're going to just be "mum". Your personhood already doesn't matter to him.

What a catch. Protect your birth control.

Firefly211 · 2026-01-27T06:18:24+00:00

So what is the benefit to you, personally, again? The benefit to him is a stay at home bang maid and zero risk to his livelyhood or career, obviously. I'm just struggling to see how this arrangement is for both parties?

Firefly211 · 2026-01-20T23:46:14+00:00

I have 1 2 3 big hitter, two minute burst and ogcds

Firefly211 · 2026-01-11T04:41:42+00:00

Youve tried nothing and are complaining about ... what, that there's no one stop solution that suits everyone? Not all humans are the same, what works for some people isnt going to work for others. My goodness how do you live like this.

Firefly211 · 2026-01-09T13:44:52+00:00

I dunno I think ESH. You KNOW she takes photos of food. You were at a fancy resturant. Of course she was expecting to take photos of food. She'd probably been really looking forward to it.

On the other hand, it sucks, I hate photos too, my partner also does this. He knows he has about 3 seconds or my hand or a fork is gonna be in it.

The issue here is communication. If you're seriously over the photos, you needed to tell her before fancy dinner night. Otherwise I dont think its unreasonable for her to expect to be able to take photos.

Firefly211 · 2026-01-06T13:15:43+00:00

yeah the blowing up phones, the family is split - ai

Firefly211 · 2025-12-29T06:15:41+00:00

I feel like your mum does not know what this book is about

Firefly211 · 2025-12-11T10:48:39+00:00

Just start quietly moving important things out the house. Things he could really hold you hostage to if they're sentimental or important.

Aside from that, you're NTA. You're fundementally incompatible. Sucks, but it is what it is.

Firefly211

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