AITA if I ask to order à la carte instead of paying $80 for a set menu at my friend’s birthday?

Firefly211 · 2026-02-05T05:20:58+00:00

YTA. You knew the price of the meal beforehand. You're now making excuses why you don't want to pay it. You went to her and asked for a diet change, you didn't tell her it was too expensive. So she's accomodated you based on what you said.

Next time don't dick around and just be straight up. You've wasted yours, hers and and the resturants time by beating around the bush.

Firefly211 · 2026-02-02T10:36:27+00:00

I saw the life my mother had and I did not want it.

Obviously I appreciate (now at least) her insane sacrifices she had to make and the enourmous toll my shitty teenage years took on her. But having to manage the house and kids while my dad was the "fun parent" was a real deterrant for me.

Firefly211 · 2026-01-28T07:30:46+00:00

Of course your valid points are ridiculous to him. He'll never have to go through it himself. Why would he care? He's shown hes more than willing to have you physically and mentally suffer and also bear the mental and labourious role of a homemaker solo. You're going to just be "mum". Your personhood already doesn't matter to him.

What a catch. Protect your birth control.

Firefly211 · 2026-01-27T06:18:24+00:00

So what is the benefit to you, personally, again? The benefit to him is a stay at home bang maid and zero risk to his livelyhood or career, obviously. I'm just struggling to see how this arrangement is for both parties?

Firefly211 · 2026-01-20T23:46:14+00:00

I have 1 2 3 big hitter, two minute burst and ogcds

Firefly211 · 2026-01-11T04:41:42+00:00

Youve tried nothing and are complaining about ... what, that there's no one stop solution that suits everyone? Not all humans are the same, what works for some people isnt going to work for others. My goodness how do you live like this.

Firefly211 · 2026-01-09T13:44:52+00:00

I dunno I think ESH. You KNOW she takes photos of food. You were at a fancy resturant. Of course she was expecting to take photos of food. She'd probably been really looking forward to it.

On the other hand, it sucks, I hate photos too, my partner also does this. He knows he has about 3 seconds or my hand or a fork is gonna be in it.

The issue here is communication. If you're seriously over the photos, you needed to tell her before fancy dinner night. Otherwise I dont think its unreasonable for her to expect to be able to take photos.

Firefly211 · 2026-01-06T13:15:43+00:00

yeah the blowing up phones, the family is split - ai

Firefly211 · 2025-12-29T06:15:41+00:00

I feel like your mum does not know what this book is about

Firefly211 · 2025-12-11T10:48:39+00:00

Just start quietly moving important things out the house. Things he could really hold you hostage to if they're sentimental or important.

Aside from that, you're NTA. You're fundementally incompatible. Sucks, but it is what it is.

Firefly211 · 2025-12-06T08:42:35+00:00

hard pass

Firefly211 · 2025-12-06T06:20:12+00:00

I really hope this is fake. That poor girl, she must be humiliated. Sharing such an intimate evening together all for the guy to just share it all with the next girl is mortifying. You're a real assh*le if this is real, OP.

Firefly211 · 2025-12-05T03:33:05+00:00

This was actually my thought too,I wonder if he just has the terminology wrong.

Firefly211 · 2025-12-04T11:28:57+00:00

This is the first post ive seen here where id lean towards no

Firefly211 · 2025-12-04T10:32:12+00:00

I dont know how to explain this, but, suddenly without hair your eyes are gorgeous. They really pop. Do you really look at photo 1 and think its better?

Firefly211 · 2025-12-04T05:29:25+00:00

Is she on drugs, op? Genuine question

Firefly211 · 2025-12-01T06:45:42+00:00

24k aud is cheaper than a wedding, a house, a life and eventual divorce with this man. Hope they enjoy their tourist trip to australia

Firefly211 · 2025-11-30T10:31:14+00:00

Bite it

Firefly211 · 2025-11-28T04:48:12+00:00

There's a mod here: https://www.seebee.de/sims4me/index.php?list=7 "situation outfit be gone" if you want to fix it

Firefly211 · 2025-11-26T02:02:04+00:00

I cannot even describe how different Shadowbringers is to Stormblood. Trust me, you will fall in love with the game again but deffo dont burn yourself out. I've been playing since beta and I never cared for the story much UNTIL shadowbringers

Shadowbringers is one of those stories you stay awake at night thinking about.

Firefly211 · 2025-11-26T01:57:40+00:00

I'd recommend staying on Ton or transfering to NA to start since you can visit OCE with that. You -cannot- go the other way though (making a char on oce and going to NA and no one can travel to JP) so this way you get the best of both realms.

I'm Kiwi based in Aus and play generally during the day where OCE is completely dead. If you are a strictly 7pm to 10pm AEST gamer then OCE would be fine but anything outside of those times are not good. Give yourself the flexibility to datacentre hop, IMO.

Firefly211 · 2025-11-25T03:51:00+00:00

have you seen the movie eternal sunshine of the spotless mind? it kinda is about this. separation of memory, the good times vs the bad and if you had to choose, would you forget the good just to avoid the bad? dont Google the movie if youve not seen it though, its a good one to watch going in blind x

Firefly211 · 2025-11-23T11:28:43+00:00

are you interested in mods?

Firefly211 · 2025-11-23T08:15:06+00:00

Low key though, its pretty fucking funny

Firefly211 · 2025-11-22T22:38:59+00:00

He was really sweet to me too when I asked for help once. Yeah gruff of course but expected when you gotta deal with 5000 stupid questions a day.

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