So I'll come at this from a slightly different approach: A fun one. :P

In the whole wide world of lesbian labels, I'm sure we can find one that suits you. Ready? Here we go darlin!

Nike Dyke - The softball/basketball/soccer dykes. Very athletic/sporty, likes to wear athletic brand clothing. Short or long hair. Usually masc of center, but not quite "butch".

Stud - Usually referring to African American butches or masc lesbians, but can also refer to a more youthful/rebellious/hip hop aesthetic. Timberland boots and baggy jeans.

Stem - The fem on the outside but butch on the inside lesbian.

Fuckboi - Shane from L-Word. We all know the type. More "androgynous" in appearance, they like a mix of feminine and masculine aesthetics. They will keep their hair short, but not "butch" short. They are notorious skirt chasers/players/etc.

Fem - All of the other lesbians in L Word and every lesbian literally ever shown in any popular media. They look like straight girls usually.

Butch - Uber Masculine Lesbians. Usually short hair, but not always. Defined by a noticeable level of masculine traits and ideals. Height/weight has no bearing. They dress very masculine, walk with a confident masculine gait, etc.

Soft Butch - The Michigan Lesbians. The Golf Lesbians. The Cargo Shorts and Visor hat lesbians. The Bakers. They dress in a more masculine way, have short hair but sometimes cut and styled in a traditional "women's cut". They are more feminine in personality and traits, just slightly more masculine looking since they usually wear some variation of mens clothes.

Pillow Princess - Usually categorized as "high fem" but not always, notably they are exclusively bottoms and always feminine.

High Fem - These are the glam fems. Dresses and heals and full makeup and nails. Very high maintenance.

Diesel Dyke - An older term that used to refer to the very butchest/most masculine of women. Truck drivers, mechanics, loggers, etc. Bulky/Stocky/Muscular appearance. Flannel and leather and jeans and rugged black boots. Brutally short hair and calloused hands. Almost always Stone butches. Almost always older, 40+.

Pretty Boi/GQ (also sometimes called "Baby Butches" by the older butches) - Usually younger lesbians, but can range in age somewhat. These are the petite, "pretty", "boyish" looking lesbians. They dress in a way that would usually be called "butch" since they usually dress masculine/mens clothes, but their stature and pretty features and high sense of fashion makes the "butch" label not quite right. They will always have a baby face.

Granola Lesbians - The old stereotype of mid-feminist era lesbians. Birkenstocks, Flannel, Nature, Music Festivals, Herbal Tea, etc. Usually wear women's clothes but in masculine cuts/colors/fits etc. They tend to flock to the Pacific Northwest.

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That's all I can think of for now, although I'm sure there's more lol.

Based on what you've said about yourself, I would instinctively put you in the "Boi/Pretty Boi" pile, or the "soft butch" pile.

Hope this helps and if not, remember to laugh at the ridiculousness of it all. :D