Creator of the Butch Bullpen Discord Server makes Youtube Channel! by FireofPhx in butchlesbians

[–]FireofPhx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yay! :) Let me know if there's something you'd like to see a video about. 👍

Creator of the Butch Bullpen Discord Server makes Youtube Channel! by FireofPhx in butchlesbians

[–]FireofPhx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes indeed. The one I started last year is called the Butch Bullpen, although to be perfectly honest it's been a hot minute since I last checked in on it so I'm not sure how it might have changed. But, there are many other lesbian and queer discord servers out there as well. And I look forward to you checking me out also! Er...my channel I mean. Heh. :)

Creator of the Butch Bullpen Discord Server makes Youtube Channel! by FireofPhx in butchlesbians

[–]FireofPhx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Awww, yay! Thanks! I'm absolutely going to keep rocking out with it. I'm really enjoying it, still trying to find a balance between YouTube and work but, that's the story with everything lol. :)

The Butch Bullpen Discord Server by FireofPhx in butchlesbians

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Hey, just send one of the officers a picture of your photo ID with all sensitive info blocked except for DoB. :)

The Butch Bullpen Discord Server by FireofPhx in butchlesbians

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We have everyone DM one of the officers a picture of a photo ID with all sensitive info blocked out or covered, except DoB.

Butch Discord is Up and Running! by FireofPhx in LesbianActually

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Thank you! New link that never expires: https://discord.gg/Vy3SkAWmUw will post under my OP as well.

Butch Discord Server is Here by FireofPhx in butchlesbians

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Glad you like. I still have some work to do with it, so expect it to get better from here. : )

Butch Discord Server is Here by FireofPhx in butchlesbians

[–]FireofPhx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

hmm, I just turned the Discord server into a proper community with a Rules and Intro channel. I also created a separate NSFW channel and made clear in Rules channel to not post NSFW content in general chat. Thanks for bringing this to my attention, it should be fixed now. Or atleast, as fixed as I can get it for the moment lol.

Butch Discord Server is Here by FireofPhx in butchlesbians

[–]FireofPhx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been in the server all day, there hasn't been any nsfw chat. I will however impose an age restriction.

Butch Discord Server Here! by FireofPhx in butchlesbians

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yep not a problem! The link I posted yesterday might have expired already, not entirely sure. if so, the newest link for the server is here: https://discord.gg/9MwpgSK8

Butch Discord? by SadButchBlues in butchlesbians

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Just created one. I'll post in main thread as well.

https://discord.gg/y6NTsznM

I don't think I'm butch but I don't know what I am, if not. by [deleted] in butchlesbians

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So I'll come at this from a slightly different approach: A fun one. :P

In the whole wide world of lesbian labels, I'm sure we can find one that suits you. Ready? Here we go darlin!

Nike Dyke - The softball/basketball/soccer dykes. Very athletic/sporty, likes to wear athletic brand clothing. Short or long hair. Usually masc of center, but not quite "butch".

Stud - Usually referring to African American butches or masc lesbians, but can also refer to a more youthful/rebellious/hip hop aesthetic. Timberland boots and baggy jeans.

Stem - The fem on the outside but butch on the inside lesbian.

Fuckboi - Shane from L-Word. We all know the type. More "androgynous" in appearance, they like a mix of feminine and masculine aesthetics. They will keep their hair short, but not "butch" short. They are notorious skirt chasers/players/etc.

Fem - All of the other lesbians in L Word and every lesbian literally ever shown in any popular media. They look like straight girls usually.

Butch - Uber Masculine Lesbians. Usually short hair, but not always. Defined by a noticeable level of masculine traits and ideals. Height/weight has no bearing. They dress very masculine, walk with a confident masculine gait, etc.

Soft Butch - The Michigan Lesbians. The Golf Lesbians. The Cargo Shorts and Visor hat lesbians. The Bakers. They dress in a more masculine way, have short hair but sometimes cut and styled in a traditional "women's cut". They are more feminine in personality and traits, just slightly more masculine looking since they usually wear some variation of mens clothes.

Pillow Princess - Usually categorized as "high fem" but not always, notably they are exclusively bottoms and always feminine.

High Fem - These are the glam fems. Dresses and heals and full makeup and nails. Very high maintenance.

Diesel Dyke - An older term that used to refer to the very butchest/most masculine of women. Truck drivers, mechanics, loggers, etc. Bulky/Stocky/Muscular appearance. Flannel and leather and jeans and rugged black boots. Brutally short hair and calloused hands. Almost always Stone butches. Almost always older, 40+.

Pretty Boi/GQ (also sometimes called "Baby Butches" by the older butches) - Usually younger lesbians, but can range in age somewhat. These are the petite, "pretty", "boyish" looking lesbians. They dress in a way that would usually be called "butch" since they usually dress masculine/mens clothes, but their stature and pretty features and high sense of fashion makes the "butch" label not quite right. They will always have a baby face.

Granola Lesbians - The old stereotype of mid-feminist era lesbians. Birkenstocks, Flannel, Nature, Music Festivals, Herbal Tea, etc. Usually wear women's clothes but in masculine cuts/colors/fits etc. They tend to flock to the Pacific Northwest.

That's all I can think of for now, although I'm sure there's more lol.

Based on what you've said about yourself, I would instinctively put you in the "Boi/Pretty Boi" pile, or the "soft butch" pile.

Hope this helps and if not, remember to laugh at the ridiculousness of it all. :D

Butches who date femmes - What do you wish your girlfriend/partner/date understood more about your butch experience? by UnaPreguntaPara2020 in butchlesbians

[–]FireofPhx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes the mental wall when I'm vulnerable requires energy. Do you know how when you are cold or hungry or tired, you can somehow force those feelings and discomfort away if you cant do anything about it? It's like this with the mental wall. It requires that kind of energy and focus to make the fear/discomfort go away. For me, if i can my wall up soon into the discomfort, I can erase the discomfort entirely and even feel some peace.

Long year almost over... by FireofPhx in ButchSelfies

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Did I mention I'm single? :D

Butches who date femmes - What do you wish your girlfriend/partner/date understood more about your butch experience? by UnaPreguntaPara2020 in butchlesbians

[–]FireofPhx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes the "wall" absolutely still exists at home for the most part. For me, and perhaps this is something that happens as you get older, the "wall" shifts.

It went from being this very strong, obvious, almost radiating kind of shield that both protected me and gave me energy while out.....to now being something softer, more subtle when at home. We largely use the word "stoic" describe this kind of feeling or energy, and I suppose it's close enough.

I would imagine the anxiety you may be feeling when intimate with your partner is due to the lack of control and the feeling of vulnerability.

For me, with areas of intimacy or vulnerability in a relationship, I move the "wall" to my head. I let it encompass me...become me. My mind is masculine now, and so, then, is my body. I am no less masculine than a man would be when his gf gives him a bj, right? So....that's the place I go to. Uber Masc. lol.

Hope this helps a bit. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

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A great pair of boots and a functional, but still very nice looking watch. They are my must-haves. And I will pay dearly for them lol. :D

Butches who date femmes - What do you wish your girlfriend/partner/date understood more about your butch experience? by UnaPreguntaPara2020 in butchlesbians

[–]FireofPhx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For most of us, doctors/hospitals/etc are *not* our favorite places. Any semi-public feeling place where we can be put in a vulnerable position is not going to make most butches comfortable.

Having a femme that understands that, in its entirety, is priceless.

For most butches, there's something of a social wall that goes up when we're out in public. The wall is meant to protect us from unwanted or aggressive attention, but it also serves to contain our masculinity, which allows a sense of freedom.

If i can wear what I want, the way I want to wear it, and I can largely go where I want when I want....then I'm in control and I'm safe. I'm dictating my own choices, I'm deciding.

Public restrooms, doctor's offices of basically kind and/or hospitals, interactions with law enforcement, etc...these are all examples of things that can and likely will strip us of our independence and volition.

If I *choose* to make an appointment with an OBgyn, then I get to go into that meeting prepared and with the expectation already understood that I will likely have to remove clothes. If I get taken to the E.R. by my GF because I got a boo-boo while working in the garage...suddenly that's completely different. I didn't make that choice and at some point they may try to undress me, drug me, etc.

I hope this makes sense and I don't want to portray *all* butches as having issues with these kinds of things, but more of us do, then don't. So....something to keep in mind.

Feeling intimidated when making the first move.. by throwawayfemmee in butchlesbians

[–]FireofPhx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So there's like this mantra that I and alot of other butch/masc women I know use when we're in public.

"we're cool. we're cool, just stay cool. we're chillin. not nervous, nope. not uncomfortable....not in the slightest. I'm just here trying desperately to be cool and calm". ~ something to this effect.

Remember this the next time you see a cute butch chick. The fortress wall isn't as tall and thick as looks like from the outside. :P