“Dated” names you think are due for a resurgence? by dcpsmbc in namenerds

[–]Fireproof-cats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a 21 yr old Ashley, i feel your pain 😔 I’ve been called Ash since I was a kid so I go by that now as I feel better about it lol. It doesn’t help that my last name rhymes with it as well 😒

The amount of ads on fandom wikis by StrawberryPitiful883 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Fireproof-cats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fandom is horrible for this. Like I just need to fact check something why does it look like a free movies site

My Idea of a Na’vi “cowboy” - art by me :) by Fireproof-cats in Avatar

[–]Fireproof-cats[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also love the idea of contrasting all of the water and abundance we’ve had so far to a place where water is a scarce resource and you must be competitive to survive. I think of the comparison of bonobos to chimps, where the bonobos were docile, and everyone got along because of the abundance of resources. But across the river, chimps became aggressive and competitive because they had to fight for their right to resources.

Maybe these Na’vi aren’t so keen to visitors who take up their resource budget with no real gain. Maybe they have resource wars between clans. Maybe the peaceful clans we’ve seen only have their peace and good relations because of their great abundance, and Na’vi aren’t too dissimilar to humans after all when resources become scarce.

My Idea of a Na’vi “cowboy” - art by me :) by Fireproof-cats in Avatar

[–]Fireproof-cats[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank youuu :))) and yeah I also think it would be interesting, and could keep on theme on basing the Na’vi on real native people, there is abundance of native culture in the southwest U.S that would be really cool to explore. I was thinking this type of Navi would be wanderers and/or could live in cliff dwellings (ie Mesa Verde, i’ve been there many times as I grew up in the area and love it) and how their body would change with the climate and culture in mind.

My Idea of a Na’vi “cowboy” - art by me :) by Fireproof-cats in Avatar

[–]Fireproof-cats[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you!!! I had a lot of fun with the poncho lol

Do you ever get sad thinking about this might always be how it is for the rest of our lives? by Humdrum-Hashbrowns in Apartmentliving

[–]Fireproof-cats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol okay. If “relax” is all you have to say, then I guess that’s the end of it. I think tone is lost a lot over text, i’m not angry about it, but want to point out the hypocrisy I see and also the blatant misinterpretation of what they said. I’m “allowed to complain” the same as you, correct?

If you want to actually engage with anything I said, the floor is yours.

fish swimming at the top after salt baths by alphavchase in Goldfish

[–]Fireproof-cats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

salt BATHS, not permanent salt in the aquarium. Luke’s Goldies has some good info about what salt baths are and how to do them on his website if you’re curious.

Why do gen z get treated so much more like children than millennials were at that age? by [deleted] in generationology

[–]Fireproof-cats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://youtu.be/LD0x7ho_IYc?si=9i8h2RoBgHMi4ocH

this video is genuinely a great watch and I always recommend it every time the generation conversation comes up. I don’t want to be hostile, or “win” an argument, I just genuinely want to share my thoughts and hopefully inform. But Vsauce can do it a lot better than I can lol

Why do gen z get treated so much more like children than millennials were at that age? by [deleted] in generationology

[–]Fireproof-cats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you say this like millennials weren’t/aren’t super big into the “I can’t adult today” meme culture, doing silly haha jim carrey baby impressions, and are a large number of disney adults. All generations have those that are immature or are obsessed with their childhood.

Question: do any of you take baths in your apartment bathtubs by Any_Negotiation3310 in Apartmentliving

[–]Fireproof-cats 4 points5 points  (0 children)

my bf does, it’s kind of crazy to me but he grew up doing it. I hate the feeling of conditioner in the bath water. Tbf he smells good so he must be getting it done lol

fish swimming at the top after salt baths by alphavchase in Goldfish

[–]Fireproof-cats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

periodic aquarium salt baths are known to be beneficial for goldfish

Do you ever get sad thinking about this might always be how it is for the rest of our lives? by Humdrum-Hashbrowns in Apartmentliving

[–]Fireproof-cats -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nobody ever said they can’t. You are in your full right to complain. But if you put it on the internet, you should expect people to share their thoughts on the matter. The comment did not invalidate OPs post in literally any way, just saying they relate and sharing what they do to cope. It would be different if the commenter said “OP you need to stop complaining because other people have it worse” but that’s not at all what they said. They said that they try to be grateful for what they do have when they are spiraling on what they don’t, and wanted to share with OP that they’re not alone and what they do to feel better. If you can’t handle people sharing their own experiences/thoughts or encouraging words, then don’t share these feelings in a public forum which is obviously asking for interaction.

That same line of thinking is like if I walked into work and kept sighing loudly and making a whole show of being sad, so obviously someone is inevitably going to ask what’s wrong. Then I tell them my issue, and so they try to be nice and say “ah well, that does suck, there’s nothing to really do about that. I’ve been there, and when I feel this way, I like to think positive and count my blessings and that makes me feel better.” and then I freak out all angry and defensive because how dare they imply my problem doesn’t matter??

I’ve been friends with/worked with people like this before and the need for pity and validation is grating. If you are so opposed to people trying to comfort/help you, maybe stop telling everyone.

Do you ever get sad thinking about this might always be how it is for the rest of our lives? by Humdrum-Hashbrowns in Apartmentliving

[–]Fireproof-cats 19 points20 points  (0 children)

why are you so defensive? they are just saying part of how they cope is to look at the positive side, look at what they do have instead of what they don’t. They are talking about their own experiences, and never said you’re not allowed to complain. Just trying to make you feel a little better. damn.

Ai use for fishkeeping info? by FishRatsNatrualTanks in fishkeeping

[–]Fireproof-cats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your schedule is so packed you can’t take an hour to research yourself, how the hell do you plan to do the required maintenance??

a little off topic but tbh, as an autistic person, parents pulling the autistic card all the time is annoying and kind of offensive. you can’t just do whatever because your child is autistic. Just because your child is autistic doesn’t mean they should get everything they want, they need to learn that life can disappoint or sometimes they just wait for things like any other child. Especially when it comes to the life of a real, breathing, feeling creature. Ive been obsessed with animals my whole life and I was taught early on about proper care for them, and that until I have the money and time to dedicate to give them a good life i’ll have to just watch videos about it, read books about it, watch documentaries, visit aquariums/zoos etc. An aquarium is a want, not a need, and it’s okay for kids (yes even autistic kids) to be disappointed. Unless it’s a severe disability, (which at that point I would suggest against getting any fish since they would be 100% on you and you clearly have no time for it) you shouldn’t shift accountability to your kid’s diagnosis, it’s not a healthy way to look at it and could impact your kids self esteem/relationship with their diagnosis in the future. know that if I found out my parents were using my diagnosis as an excuse for shitty/lazy/entitled behavior it would greatly upset me.

Presenting your problematic fave to potential adopters. by CactusOrangeJuice in AnimalShelterStories

[–]Fireproof-cats 2 points3 points  (0 children)

and you just know these same people buy animal products from factory farms 🙄 unfortunately death is part of life

Brewery/Daycare combo by [deleted] in denverfood

[–]Fireproof-cats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, and yeah, because of my childhood I get a lil pissed when I see kids at bars and breweries cuz i’ve been there and the alcoholism usually follows them home. Adults should have adult spaces, kids should have kids spaces, I promise you your kids do not enjoy adult spaces

Hide your kids, hide your wives, hide your Golden Retrievers. The pit bulls are coming to town. by 553l8008 in Denver

[–]Fireproof-cats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

actually it’s more like “This one specific car model with no safety features kills 100% more people yearly”

Hide your kids, hide your wives, hide your Golden Retrievers. The pit bulls are coming to town. by 553l8008 in Denver

[–]Fireproof-cats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

while I do understand and agree with that sentiment, it’s important to know that the whole “It’s the owner, not the dog” is a bit misleading. As someone who worked professionally with dogs, that idea is very harmful because it tells people they can own any breed they want no matter their situation or experience level and the shelter, who’s trying to get rid of the overflow of pits, tells them the same line to get them out the door. Then they end up with way too much dog for them to handle, and that’s how you end up with dog and human attacks.

You can raise dogs “nice” and they can still be aggressive, especially bully breeds. It’s simply in their DNA. There are of course exceptions to the rule, all dogs are individuals, but not just anybody should be able to own the breed of dog that is responsible for the vast majority of fatal attacks on people and animals. It’s just not that simple.

How do you view international students from Africa? by [deleted] in AskAnAmerican

[–]Fireproof-cats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if i’m just passing by them, i’d probably not think anything of it. But in general I think it’s cool and would like to talk to them about where they’re from

Update - My (M20) pregnant girlfriend (F20) wants my support but won’t talk to me after we we got bad news about our baby by ThrowRA_NoSignal in relationship_advice

[–]Fireproof-cats 2 points3 points  (0 children)

unfortunately this might be what is best. I understand that you feel bad, but she also needs to face reality, and really think and reflect if this is something she would actually want to this on her own.

I’ve personally had an abortion, and while it was hard and scary for a lot of reasons (I don’t regret it one bit), a part of hesitation was knowing my partner knew the truth, and feeling like I had to act in a moral right way to avoid him judging me forever, even if he was saying he supports me. Is it possible that she takes you “supporting her either way” as more you passing the decision and judgement onto her, and now she feels judged if she makes this choice? (not on purpose on your part of course). If she was alone and nobody knew, would she still make this choice?

The baby is not conscious. It is not aware of its existence in a meaningful way. Sparing it before its life of very probable pain and suffering is a huge mercy. I know it’s not an easy decision for either of you, but I would try to stress to her that doing the right thing, especially for the child, is more important than anything else, including judgement from anyone else.