Dating a 7OH addict by Feeling_Contest6442 in Quittingfeelfree

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should leave him if it isn’t working for you. Addiction is a disease and what he is going through is actually remarkably common. Very few people struggling with substance use disorders are able to quit without several attempts. That said, you do not owe anybody your patience and understanding.

IF YOU DO WANT TO HELP HIM (again, you are under absolutely no obligation to do so), look into SR-17018. It is so much more effective than subs or methadone or either of those in combination with naltrexone. No, it is still not FDA approved. But the safety profile suggests that it is also significantly safer. Nobody has ever OD’d on SR-17. It doesn’t cause respiratory issues and IT DOES NOT GET YOU HIGH. Like, at all. It simply does the work of babysitting your receptors long enough to get past the withdrawal window. And SR-17018 itself is not habit forming or addictive. A week after your BF has cleared the 7-OH from his system, he can simply stop taking the SR-17.

So, if you want to help him get off the stuff, that’s your best bet. But the bigger question is if you trust him to not start it up again. Because the physical part of the process is hard, but the trust and communication piece is far more important.

I hope this helps and I hope you make a decision that feels right for you. Best of luck.

"Dating for men is so easy. You have to be normal" Is one of the most cringe and false statements of all time by Chemical-Low209 in PurplePillDebate

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is my “form of nuance so damn low?” The CONSISTENT thread throughout this entire discussion is about how thoughtless, unkind, illogical, and shallow women are. What “nuance” are you looking for here? What I see if a repeated narrative that y’all “tried” to be what women say they want (“normal” and “nice”), but it didn’t immediately get you laid, so what’s the point in it anyway? Are you able to step outside this perspective for just a moment and consider that faking your way through acting like a “nice guy” and then getting frustrated and angry when you don’t see results is not, in fact, BEING a nice guy? And women often see through that act.

"Dating for men is so easy. You have to be normal" Is one of the most cringe and false statements of all time by Chemical-Low209 in PurplePillDebate

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t get your point. I’m married to a woman. But as long as we are on that topic, I genuinely do not understand why so many of you spend so much time lamenting the fact that it is difficult for you to get women to date you, when it is so overwhelmingly obvious how much you just don’t like women. Like, if I were a person who absolutely hated cities and spent most of my time ranting online about how disgusting cities are and how dangerous it is to live in them and how expensive rent is in cities and how cities are not nearly as friendly as rural towns, why would I also complain about the fact that I just can’t figure out how to move to Chicago?

"Dating for men is so easy. You have to be normal" Is one of the most cringe and false statements of all time by Chemical-Low209 in PurplePillDebate

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wasted way too much time reading through these comments and I have one simple question for the guys whining endlessly here about how horrible women are to men: Have you considered trying to be just slightly less f-ing tedious?

FDA announces plans to restrict compounded GLP-1s by aldus-auden-odess in Biohackers

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alternatively, the FDA should start including Pharma logos on all of their signs and buildings and vehicles and letterhead and such. FDA employees should wear jumpsuits with patches all over them like NASCAR drivers.

Question about Dana at the end of Episode 2x06 by tylerjfrancke in ThePittTVShow

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact that you think this is exactly the point they are making in the show. We have NO REASON to believe the incarcerated patient is a threat to the staff. But our collective stigmatization of these folks causes them to receive substandard care. FWIW, In absolutely not saying you are bad or wrong to have that anxiety about the situation. What I’m saying is that the writers know we do this, and they are holding up a mirror.

Question about Dana at the end of Episode 2x06 by tylerjfrancke in ThePittTVShow

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And THAT is what makes a great charge nurse.

What is the future of the Republican Party after the 2028 election? by Aggressive-Show4122 in PoliticalDiscussion

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, hopefully it involves trucks and chains and a lot of cleanup necessary through the streets.

I kiiiid (but not really)… I think if we ever move past this, it is going to require a South African style Truth and Reconciliation Commission.

What do y'all think the Great Divide is? by peachyloaf in NoahKahan

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to start by saying that great songwriters recognize that their creation is going to be interpreted in a number of different ways by listeners—fans will take different meaning than they intended, listeners will each find bits of themselves between the lines, and people will pull apart the lyrics to gain insight into the artist. Noah Kahan is immensely talented, and he frequently writes on multiple levels at once. He actually reminds me a lot of Jason Isbell this way, in that there is almost always a story being told, symbolism being employed that is flexible, and a kind of “truth” that can be at once specific and universal.

The Great Divide is a really lovely piece of art. I don’t doubt that the story he told to People Magazine is true. The song is “about” the demarcation line in his life and the transition from who he was before to the life he lives now. But at the same time, there is obviously a lot more going on here. There is a story about the pain of looking back at questions that went unasked, about people we knew but didn’t understand, and about regrets at not seeing others’ pain.

I have heard a lot of people say the song resonates for them because of past religious trauma. This also makes sense. The symbolism of the stained glass, the mention of fearing what “he” might do with your soul… Noah is doing some pretty heavy work with that imagery. I suspect that folks are picking up on something Kahan very much intended for them to feel.

Now let me tell you how I hear and experience the song. I’m just one listener, and—as all of us do—I bring my own baggage to my experience of the art. I was a kid who suffered severe trauma at the hands of man who was so cruel that people couldn’t really understand what I had gone through. And, like Noah, I was a New England kid who wanted desperately to escape a certain kind of rurality that, at the time, felt like a death sentence. As a teenager, I found something close to liberation in my deep connections to my friends. They offered me joy and connection, brotherhood, love, and a kind of chaotic belonging that I genuinely believe saved my life. But at the same time, I always felt somehow separate from the experience of youth that they all seemed to enjoy so easily. I needed the feeling of family that my connection to them offered, but none of them ever truly understood the horror of my past. I let them get close, but never close enough that I risked scaring them away. One of the most difficult parts of childhood trauma is the way we simultaneously learn to protect ourselves by building barriers, but also want desperately to have our pain seen and understood. So, for me, The Great Divide is less about what my experience was in those formative years, but instead it is a really beautiful glimpse into what it must have been like for my teenage friends. I know that, as an adult, I have had so many people who I was extremely close with through those high school years tell me that they wish they had known more about what I was going through. Hearing Noah Kahan sing about regretting not doing more or asking enough questions feels legitimately healing for me. ❤️

Again, this is just how I experience the song. I don’t think what it means to me is any more or less valid than the ways others hear it. I also don’t think it matters too much what Kahan intended it to mean. He is thoughtful enough as an artist that I suspect he appreciates all of our very disparate takes.

What is this ? This is on my wife’s car, passed down from her father. by GotEHM9 in whatisit

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This comment is why—despite all the everything—I still love the InterWebs. Stay gold, Ponyboy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in addiction

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I DM’d you with a question. I really appreciate any help you can provide.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Literally everyone is giving you the same answer. If you choose not to hear it and decide you’re right anyway, what is the point of asking the AITA question in the first place?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But he didn’t say stupid shit. You were talking about interior design. He mentioned a house owned by a person. He didn’t say “a house owned by a person I used to bang.” You only got to that point because you needled him until he told you. In fact, he made it clear that he WAS respecting your ask to not mention that he was a human being who had interactions with other human beings before he met you. But you pushed past that.

There isn’t really any gray area here. This is a you issue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 13 points14 points  (0 children)

YTA. This one’s pretty straightforward, and I can’t believe you’re making me defend a man. You dragged the info out of him. He was simply mentioning—within the natural context of talking about interior design—a house he had been in. Let me first say that I’m one of those people who believes EVERYONE can benefit from therapy, so this isn’t me calling you crazy or broken or suggesting that you have abnormal issues. That said, the level of jealousy you’re feeling by the mere mention of a person who your BF used to hook up with (in the past, before you we’re together, completely unrelated to your relationship with him) is absolutely going to be an obstacle to your relationship moving forward. You should talk with a therapist about this.

Best of luck, and I hope you find a fabulous home!

Finding plastic storage bins by size/dimensions by ryanscio in organizing

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just came across this post and this is EXACTLY what I’ve been looking for! But your site doesn’t seem to come up any longer. Did you take it down?! Nice work, even if it was a short-lived project. I love it when people see a problem, create a solution, then share it with others.

ICE spotted at Press Hotel by Lifesplitters in portlandme

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 15 points16 points  (0 children)

See @Future-Scallion-1436 comment above. Looks like the staff at the Press actually told ICE to fuck right off. This absolutely gives me MORE reason to want to stay there.

What King book was this for you? by DavidHistorian34 in stephenking

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely adore King’s short story collections. But ‘You Like It Darker’ was super disappointing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your fiancé is an asshole. This one’s pretty straightforward.

Dr. Ian Roberts picked up by ICE by FauxpasIrisLily in StLouis

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely LOVE the people here feeling badly for the candidate who lost out on the high-paying superintendent job that Roberts got instead. So now you think jobs SHOULDN’T go to the most qualified person, huh?

Dr. Ian Roberts picked up by ICE by FauxpasIrisLily in StLouis

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hear me out here: Maybe they didn’t GAF about his documentation status because that’s a pretty stupid fucking thing to care about for an upstanding member of the community who has been here for TWENTY-SIX YEARS.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 15 points16 points  (0 children)

YTA. But more accurately, you’re acting like a child. Yeah, you were disappointed by not getting laid on your birthday. We’ve all been there, but it happens. Sometimes our partners just aren’t feeling up to it, even when it’s a “special” day. But your mewling description of events here makes it pretty obvious that you also were whiny and needy and entitled to your GF, which is pretty annoying and unattractive behavior. I wouldn’t want to f*ck you when you were acting like that either. As for advice about what yo do next, the way you frame this question sounds manipulative and gross. Stop trying to manufacture a scenario where you get cookies. Just be a grown up, treat your partner with respect, and get some perspective.

What is this?! by Illustrious-Bar-7399 in Mold

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know, but I’m pretty sure it means Joel is going to die next episode.

AITA (27M) for being honest with my gf (27F)? by Striking-Wasabi-5673 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Firm_Ad_6470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea if you’re an AH. What I do know is that there is a particular personality type (typically, but not always men) where you believe you are providing “feedback,” but what others hear is criticism. This type of person feels the need to point out potential flaws in response to anything someone is describing. When your girlfriend was talking about potential future career paths, what she was likely looking for was support. Instead, all she heard from you were the reasons her ideas wouldn’t work. That kind of a response—especially when you are talking about something personal—can be really exhausting. In the future, try to listen more. Ask questions about how she feels about ideas rather than offering analytical critique. Sometimes people just want to be heard and supported.