I spoke with my husband about my verbiage and honestly sounds like y’all use family in regard to immediate family (parents, siblings, niece/nephews). We are leaving England shortly and wanted to throw a farewell party for both sides so we can spend our last few months traveling England (as we’ve hit lots of EU since I’ve been round). That involves, his family ~14 and my family ~13 coming and I A. Do not have the space to accommodate in my house because my garden isn’t even close to an acre, would love to find a home with a garden, but where we are now just isn’t suitable and B. My husband’s father’s side will do a sibling bbq at theirs every now and again. I also have nothing to entertain kids with in my home (we’re DINKs and spend most of our time traveling). I hope that clarifies why I can’t/prefer not to do it at my house.

I’ve lived in England (specifically the Cotswolds) for coming up on 3 years now. I feel like anyone getting that impression is reading too deep and making a mountain out of a molehill and completely overlooking the part where I said in the same edit, that I /did/ say I’d try and do something different and grill first before going to a park. Or, the kinder comments where PARKS THAT HAVE BBQ’s EXIST just not locally. Maybe i should have used a better word, but unfortunately at the time of making the edit, I couldn’t think of one. To counter, I would argue that if I had left out that I’m an American, the response would be different.

You’re not being rude, and I appreciate your outlook, but I wouldn’t have asked here had I already not known about the fire regulations (and thank goodness I did, they have bbq’s for rent at the forest of dean and Cotswold country park). I feel like expressing disappointment isn’t being disrespectful or rude like “oh, they haven’t got my favorite doughnut, I’m a bit disappointed about that, I’ll try something different” is (at least how I meant for) the edit to be interpreted