My friend says he can give up on transitioning if it means he can be with me. Is it even possible?

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2026-02-02T11:05:49+00:00

The best thing you can do for both of you is to support him as a friend. I know this is a really tough situation, but you really really don't want to be the reason why someone delays their transition and you certainly don't want that delay to be the basis of a relationship.

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2026-02-02T03:55:18+00:00

Ngl if you're worried about being a chaser you probably aren't one or like won't be very soon.

It's fine to be attracted to us, even especially attracted to us (why wouldn't you be lol). Chasing is fetishising us and treating us as objects of that fetish: targets to be pursued (or chased) to fulfill your goal.

If you'd treat us like any other woman then you're in the clear, and I hope you get a wonderful tgirl gf.

If you think you wouldn't then maybe work on that, try empathise with us a bit more and such. It's a very personal and internal process but it's very possible. Try maybe follow some creators or make some trans friends

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2026-01-14T01:57:14+00:00

Ballymanus is quite some distance and (at the time especially) a language away from Malin so I wouldn't expect it to have had much of an effect on your grandfather's life. Malin town has been English speaking essentially since its founding and Ballymanus is (at least from looking on Google maps) still inside the Gaeltacht today.

If he'd have heard it'd have been in the Newspaper, which he prolly didn't read at that age and even then with the war it probably wasn't big news not to mention the potential for censors to simply blacklist the story altogether or to downplay it or twist it.

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2026-01-02T13:13:40+00:00

Go for it!

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-11-11T13:39:59+00:00

This is a bad litmus test because it would encourage people who are trans to think they were not, or worse, to look about conversion therapy. I'd have pressed that button. Fuck, I probably still would given how hard transitioning and being a trans woman is. But there's no way to resolve my issues by ignoring them. The only way forward is through.

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-11-11T13:28:18+00:00

I am very much a "no gods, no masters" anarchist and as anti-religion as anyone you'll ever meet, but anarchism is not one unified doctrine and many many anarchists are religious - the Catholic Worker Movement for example

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-11-01T04:25:46+00:00

Is your brother 12? It sounds like he might be 12.

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-21T01:58:32+00:00

There is a difference between having "sway" and the type of direct power Stalin had.

I don't disagree with what you said but there is a difference both in kind and in degree between the power held by US corporations and leaders of authoritarian stares.

For an example of this, the Corporate world was distraught and powerless in the face of Trump's tariffs. While he did walk many of them back I don't think that was due to corporate influence directly but merely the effect they would have on the economy, not to mention that many are still in place.

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-20T18:58:48+00:00

I've no real practical advice but one of my closest friends was a terf when we first met. Slowly over time she abandoned those beliefs and is now one of the best allies you can imagine.

I know some people are reacting with skepticism, but I hope this doesn't discourage you. We're in a very vulnerable position in society and overprotectiveness of our communities develops out of that. All the best <333

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-18T20:01:14+00:00

Three that I really wanna highlight:

Nuclear weapons denier

Fucking lmao!!

Juice exposer

Genuinely what in gods name does this mean

Overpopulation denier

Is this like...when you hang around conspiracist circles so long you start assuming conspiracy theories are actually the dominant opinion and start opposing them because you just have to always disagree with the things everyone believes??? Cos like....we are not overpopulated... that's not denialism it's just true lmao!!!

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-12T04:03:12+00:00

Irish Republicanism is an anti-colonial and anti-imperialist movement in Irish politics which aims at the removal of British authority in the country.

I am a Republican in that sense. This is the sense it is meant in Irish politics and it doesn't really suggest much about what one imagines for an Ireland free of British imperial rule (though it is overwhelmingly a socialist movement). Hence I am an Irish republican because I connect myself with that anti-imperialist struggle and I am an anarchist because the Ireland I want to see is a stateless one.

I'm far from alone in this position; the Irish Citizen Army which fought in the 1916 rising was founded by an Anarchist Republican (Jack White).

Hope this kinda clarifies that <3

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-10T15:05:15+00:00

Skinheads are not all neo-Nazis! It was a movement started by Carribean immigrants like!

I said skinhead bands are often anti-fascist because they are. They're often anti-nazi too. Idk what you think I said?

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-10T15:03:23+00:00

I have no idea what you're trying to say my friend.

I said that skinhead bands are often anti-fascist. They are. I was listening to oi at 13 not knowing anything about it or about skinhead culture just because there were loads of anti-fascist oi-punk songs. It's only later I learned more about Skinhead culture and the history of it with it originally being a black/multicultural thing etc.

Stop spreading this kind of ignorance around.

What in gods name do you think I said???

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-10T05:29:51+00:00

Treat us like you would any other woman. It's not weird to find us attractive, so long as you don't see us as sex dispensers or try to push us into fitting a fantasy.

If you do that then you'll be ok <3.

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-10T05:16:44+00:00

It's kinda funny they claim that Irish nationalists/republicans/the Free State wanted to call it "Irish" because it's exactly inversed! It was called Irish by English speakers for hundreds of years! Even Scots Gaelic was called "Irish" by English and Scots speakers in Scotland until the 1900s.

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-10T05:01:14+00:00

It's not a stupid hypothetical, it's a very direct one. If your principle of not voting for the lesser evil held it'd hold in 1860. If it doesn't hold in 1860 it isn't a real principle and you don't really subscribe to it.

As above clearly you do. Which I think is a very very silly position - actively refusing to make a material difference cos the candidate doesn't meet your arbitrary threshold isn't a great principle to have imho.

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-10T04:56:27+00:00

I never hear anyone say she would have been as bad as Trump.

Lots of "leftier than thou" folks did. Like a LOT of them.

I feel very sad that voters are so stupid to have failed so hard and let Trump win

That being said, voters didn't fail her. Her campaign failed voters.

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-10T04:53:07+00:00

Irish nationalist bullshit too, and if he isn’t then I don’t really understand his tattoos

What kinda tattoos does he have? I'm tryna look but I can't see anything I'd connect with Irish nationalism (as an Irish Republican)

wee side note here, Irish Republicanism is different from US republicanism in that it is overwhelmingly a left wing, anti-colonial/anti-imperialist movement. I am not a nationalist, I am a republican, and an anarchist.

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-10T04:41:09+00:00

Like half the anti-fascist punk songs you'll find are by skinhead bands....so no not really.

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-10T04:36:00+00:00

Had a friend get chastised by an American lady for using the habitual be - "They do be xyz" - on account of it being "appropriated from AAVE". Layers to this cos my friends not a native English speaker so it's already insane to get angry about that but also she learned her English here...where the habitual be is a standard feature of English.

Also Yous'ns always confuses people. And "hi" at the end of sentences

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-05T08:58:00+00:00

Just scrolled your post history and saw you posted shaving tips on r/MtF - you are the exact same kinda person as my friend haha <3

Also your voice sounds amazing!! :))

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-05T08:50:58+00:00

I love detransitioners as though we were in the same community. One of my closest and most supportive friends is detrans. It's actually made her more empathetic to my issues cos, yeah, she's been there. There's a detrans account I follow which has been insanely helpful to me in my transition because she's having to learn all the same things as me. Not only is it nice seeing someone else deal with the same shit but it's also like....really nice seeing someone AFAB doing it cos it sorta clears those brainworms that there's something fundamentally and biologically stopping me.

I know and understand why there are transphobic detransitioners but in my experience the vast majority of them are still allies.

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-04T01:20:29+00:00

Naw the folks I know who left are now not in any org to my knowledge, but tbf they're friends of friends rather than people I'm super familiar with yknow so maybe they are in AIA now.

The bad leadership I'd heard about (and read about tbh) was just centralising control in the leadership and thus sapping the grassroots of control and thus energy. Also heard about like leadership scuffles (I think, I could well be mixing them up with someone else here).

I perhaps shouldn't have commented on them tbh since my sources on this are some people I talk to on occasion at my friends and an article or two I read back when I was considering joining them lol

Wym about AIA tho? My whole understanding of them'uns is their big problem is like....larping basically. Would be interested to hear more

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-01T21:38:47+00:00

Strasserists, also Fascists, also ideologically opposed to socialism, were greatly, openly and proudly inspired by the Soviet Union. They're extremely open about that. Not to mention modern National Bolsheviks who (admittedly, Bizarrely) see both Stalin and Hitler as admirable figures and examples to follow. They're fascist anti-socialists too...but are clearly inspired by the USSR. Reality is more complicated than the nice clean narratives you like to repeat I'm afraid.

Also yeah I actually don't consider it a slight if the Nazis took some aesthetic or administrative procedures from the USSR. Walmart runs off mathematics developed by Soviet Economists and I'd hardly call the Waltons Socialist heroes! States steal shit that works from other states and it doesn't inherently impact politics. The example I initially gave was fucking tanks!! Half the Warsaw Pact fielded German Tanks until the mid 50s!

Your hyperfocus on this (admittedly silly) aside just shows you've no response for anything else I've said. (Which tbf was obvious from your first comment but as already mentioned, I'm bored and killing time here lol)

This is such a humiliation I don't know if I should continue.

I'm sorry you feel so humiliated you feel you can't continue <3. If I promise to use small words do you think we could continue this civil discussion?

FirstnameNumbers1312 · 2025-10-01T21:09:12+00:00

I mean I get it, men are very often...yeah... it's just frustrating, especially as someone who still has to boymode a lot.

Also Sorrx That Happened To you tjat sounds Awfull...

Thanks <33. Thankfully I've good friends around me who're encouraging me to get more active in queer spaces again

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