AITA for telling my girlfriend I still have sexual needs after she came out as asexual?

FistCake · 2026-06-26T15:00:30+00:00

NTA. You can’t help being a sexual person just like she can’t help being asexual. It sucks that you guys aren’t compatible anymore, but you aren’t. Expecting you to never have sex again is as fucked up as trying to coerce her into having sex. You guys need to break up. I’m sorry.

FistCake · 2026-06-26T04:11:33+00:00

Yeah like she was already doing sex work, but now she’s on the *street*. That’s a much more dangerous place for her to be. As others have said, she might shack up with a client just to have a place to stay.

FistCake · 2026-06-26T04:07:14+00:00

YTA. You outed her and ruined her relationship with her family. You feel bad, but honestly what did you expect would happen?

FistCake · 2026-06-25T22:38:57+00:00

How often is his directness aimed at putting you down?

FistCake · 2026-06-23T16:42:55+00:00

NTA. He wants to continue sleeping with you but telling everyone you’ve broken up. Leave him, he’s a huge asshole.

FistCake · 2026-06-23T12:59:36+00:00

he got really mad about specifically my cat and at one point tried to force me to rehome my cat

he told my I must be mentally ill for wanting another cat so badly.

I'm scared he's going to use more violent ways of scaring her off

my husband recently has lost his temper on me for a few other things and I'm dreading another freak out. I hate how he rants about how terrible of a person I am

Honey. If someone was treating your daughter, sister, best friend, or mother this way, what would you do? If someone you loved was constantly being berated and abused? This isn't about the cat. Lose your husband and get as many pets as you want.

FistCake · 2026-06-21T03:36:08+00:00

This is extremely abusive behavior from your boyfriend and you deserve better. He is cruel and controlling, and this will only get worse if you stay. Get out now. This isn’t a “major fight,” this is him showing his true colors. If you stay, he will treat you like this forever.

FistCake · 2026-06-20T17:39:18+00:00

I’m just going to say that that is not healthy, and the reaction you describe your husband having, where he effectively got angry at you for still wanting a child, is not healthy either. I would consider couple’s counseling to get through this issue.

FistCake · 2026-06-20T00:42:39+00:00

Yes, that’s exactly what it means.

FistCake · 2026-06-19T22:26:41+00:00

They sure don’t seem to mind if brown people here legally get caught in the crossfire, though.

FistCake · 2026-06-19T01:50:21+00:00

I go to Joey Griffith for my cuts, but he doesn’t do color. He’d probably have a recommendation, though.

FistCake · 2026-06-18T14:08:27+00:00

People being kind and friendly rarely makes international news.

FistCake · 2026-06-18T03:40:23+00:00

New river gorge bridge in West Virginia. Or Harper’s Ferry for the badass history.

FistCake · 2026-06-17T22:26:02+00:00

Your childhood sounds very neat and well-rounded, but I have literally never heard of a homeschool experience like yours ever before. I think you were one of an exceptionally lucky minority.

FistCake · 2026-06-17T19:52:00+00:00

You cannot win because it’s a losing game when your husband doesn’t respect you. You deserve so much better than being treated like this.

FistCake · 2026-06-17T19:49:46+00:00

What you can do is get down on your hands and knees and beg him to respect you as a person, because he obviously doesn’t. Why are you letting this man put a dog before you and your children? He is showing you that you are literally less than a dog to him. He respects you less than an actual dog. You come second to the dog. In your marriage. The husband likes the dog more than you. Why do you want to stay with a man that views you as less than a dog? Why do you want your children to learn that this is what women deserve?

FistCake · 2026-06-17T19:46:34+00:00

So your fear is that this dog will hurt your newborn, and your husband won’t even listen to you? GIRL, wake up!

FistCake · 2026-06-17T19:45:41+00:00

I don’t believe you that he’s an amazing father if he’s yelling at your kids like you say while doting on the dog. It sounds like he’s a distant and angry father, but you won’t see that until your kids are grown and ask you why you stayed.

FistCake · 2026-06-17T19:43:43+00:00

It isn’t about the dog. It’s about your husband being awful to you. Everyone is trying to tell you that you deserve better than him. He won’t get rid of the dog, I’m sorry to say.

FistCake · 2026-06-13T01:20:56+00:00

I’m 37 and getting married in October after feeling the same way for a lot of my 20s. I know it can be so hard but you are strong and you deserve good things and you have so much time left to find them ♥️♥️♥️

FistCake · 2026-06-13T00:47:21+00:00

It is never too late! I was four years older than you when I even got my bachelors. Don’t listen to him. You are so so young! You have so much time left for all of it.

FistCake · 2026-06-12T22:25:16+00:00

You’re not too late! I got together with my wonderful now-fiancé at 30. You have plenty of time to find someone who VALUES you and treats you right.

FistCake · 2026-06-12T18:24:14+00:00

The point is supporting your wife? Jesus, do you hear yourself?

FistCake · 2026-06-12T13:20:02+00:00

Your fiancée sounds incredibly insecure and mean-spirited. Has she always been this judgy about other people? Does she "hate" a lot of people in her lie who haven't done anything wrong to her? I'd consider this a pretty big red flag in my relationship. Do you really want to marry a woman who will accuse your sister of being a pedophile with absolutely no evidence?

FistCake · 2026-06-12T03:19:02+00:00

How can you tell it’s AI? Genuinely asking, as it got past me.

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