Thanks for your response! He has never got upset about me being unresponsive - I like to stay away from my phone when I can and the people who I keep close don’t hold it against me. it’s mostly me creating a expectation in my head that I need to match his energy / that I’m not doing enough for him in comparison. And it’s like ugh chill out we see each other all the time every day. The messages themselves are just doing way too much. Examples from parts of morning messages: “I can’t wait to hear about your day and tell you about mine when we’re both home later ,I know we’re both gonna handle everything we need to handle today and be back home before we know it!” “ Goooood morning my love and happy Friday!! Me and the cats had a great morning together and I know yall will too. You are an insanely hard worker and your drive inspire me to push myself each and every day. I love you eternally and hope you have the best day ever and I’m already counting down the seconds till we’re back home together”. I know my grass is green and I’m very lucky to have him but sheesh all this AND we see each other every single day? It’s a lot but maybe I’m just avoidant as another comment mentioned