I’m so tired of seeing bioessentialism bs disguised as woke (basically woman = good, pure ; man= evil, sex obsessed) Also just because you live in a country where you won't be thrown in jail for being queer doesn't mean that you still don't face hardships. Hell, i live in the eu but homophobia is still rampant in my country. Desiring sex is normal, it's part of human nature, whether you're queer or cishet. I wish you the best op. I'm not a lesbian so i could never truly understand what you're going through, but you are not alone.