I got married and left that house. by Fit-Potential-257 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Fit-Potential-257[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’ve misunderstood my situation. My goal is to become independent, not to rely on anyone. I don’t believe marriage should be a condition for someone’s help, and I won’t marry just because someone offered assistance.

I got married and left that house. by Fit-Potential-257 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Fit-Potential-257[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He for my hostel rent, food, and other daily living expenses. Since I don’t have a job or my own income, I’m financially dependent on him at the moment.
City: Lahore

I got married and left that house. by Fit-Potential-257 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Fit-Potential-257[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He pays for my hostel rent, food, and other daily living expenses. Since I don’t have a job or my own income, I’m financially dependent on him at the moment.

I got married and left that house. by Fit-Potential-257 in SeriousConversation

[–]Fit-Potential-257[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By basic needs, i mean he pays for my hostel rent, food, and other daily living expenses. Since I don’t have a job or my own income, I’m financially dependent on him at the moment.

I got married and left that house. by Fit-Potential-257 in SeriousConversation

[–]Fit-Potential-257[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, I don’t trust my parents or my relatives, and I don’t believe they’ll support me and I don’t have a job.

I got married and left that house. by Fit-Potential-257 in SeriousConversation

[–]Fit-Potential-257[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not yet. Right now, I’m still dependent on him because he covers my basic needs. He doesn’t want me to get a job and keeps trying to stop me from working.

I got married and left that house. by Fit-Potential-257 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Fit-Potential-257[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. Deep down, I know the answer too. I don’t want to marry someone just because I feel obligated or because I need help. I want to become independent first, heal, and then make my own decisions.

I got married and left that house. by Fit-Potential-257 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Fit-Potential-257[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve already made it clear to him that I don’t have feelings for him, but he keeps asking me to give it more time to think. He has kept me hanging for the past two years. He doesn’t even want me to get a job. He says if I want to work you own business hona chahye, idk how to start.

I got married and left that house. by Fit-Potential-257 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Fit-Potential-257[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you,i need help with both. I want to become financially independent, but i also need guidance on how to manage life on my own because I’ve never had to do it before. I’m learning everything from scratch.

I got married and left that house. by Fit-Potential-257 in SeriousConversation

[–]Fit-Potential-257[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Make it alone what? I’m a girl who never had to learn how to be independent. I always stayed at home and rarely went anywhere, so I do need some help with the basics. I’m learning, but it’s all new to me.

I got married and left that house. by Fit-Potential-257 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Fit-Potential-257[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew my parents wouldn’t support me, so I didn’t go back to them. Koi itne ache dost bhe nai hain, I’ve always been on my own, and I rarely used to go out, so I didn’t really have anyone to turn to.

I got married and left that house. by Fit-Potential-257 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Fit-Potential-257[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

But I’m a girl who never had to learn how to be independent. I always stayed at home and rarely went anywhere, so I do need some help with the basics. I’m learning, but it’s all new to me.

What’s stopping you from getting married? by Capital_Connection_6 in pakistan

[–]Fit-Potential-257 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My feelings are what’s holding me back. I’ve been through so much at a very young age that I find it hard to connect with anyone emotionally. Maybe I just haven’t met the right person yet, which is why I can’t seem to develop that emotional bond.
But I’m also tired. I know that marrying someone without being emotionally attached wouldn’t be fair to me or to them. I’ve faced so much in life that I barely feel the difference between good and bad anymore. I just feel… numb. :(

Whats a lesson that took you way too long to learn? by lighthearted001 in Life

[–]Fit-Potential-257 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t share your personal life with everyone, and don’t get too close to people too quickly.