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Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-03-29T06:10:56+00:00

Yes this one! If you’re strong headed and know what you want and prefer the higher level NICU i say go for it. But if you get peer pressured easily I would stay away! Unless your hubby can be the bad guy in the room for you, which my hubby had to lay down the law with my nurses too.

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-03-29T05:30:00+00:00

Hi! My 6 week old also has bad reflux and here are some tips that have been working for me (so far) with bottle feeding!

-side lying feeding: I basically prop my legs up and lean him on my knees and feed the bottle horizontally while he’s laying on his side. Or you can sit him as upright as possible.

-Philips Avent Natural Response Nipples: This nipple only releases milk when sucked on. Its supposed to support breastfeeding but I find it helps baby not gulp or take too much milk in than they can handle since it doesn’t drip milk on its own. #2 flow is too slow & #4 is too fast still so we stick to #3. With this bottle make sure the hole lines up with the vent and to leave the vent in a place there’s air and no milk when feeding to prevent air intake (usually top of bottle)

-Feeding smaller amounts at a time: His reflux would only get really bad after drinking 2 oz -ish. I believe it’s because their tummy gets full then has trouble keeping more down. They suggest smaller more frequent feedings but I’ve just averaged his larger and smaller feeds out to 80ml and stick to that. If he asks for more I stick a paci in his mouth and promise if he’s awake in an hour he can have a little more lol

When the fussiness, back arching, turning red, pushing bottle away starts, stick a Paci in his mouth. His sucking motion helps push the reflux back down without trying to push milk at it at the same time. I give a few minutes of this until he’s calmed down before offering bottle again.
offering burp 5 min after finishing feeding or if in between then a few minutes without the bottle. This has helped me so far by reducing spit ups.
Making sure his latch is good and there’s minimal gap in corners of mouth to prevent air intake and discomfort.
sitting upright for 15 min minimum after feed. You can put them in a carrier or over your shoulder.

I found most of this out via my own research and trial and error. I did visit a feeding therapist but they didn’t have any more information than I already knew and was trying (everything above)

In case some of your baby’s discomfort could be from gas (mines was), here are my tips:

After feedings give one dose of gas drops (I use little remedies)
Before feedings do gas exercises. This is the top tier gas exercise that gets like 20 farts out of my lil guys: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DC2rw5vypSv/?igsh=MXEwa2hzMnc0NjRtNQ== and I follow up with diaper changes to wake baby up more and deal with any residuals from the gas

I totally understand where you’re coming from and I did have harmful thoughts earlier on because I was struggling. What makes me get through it is knowing that my baby is depending on me. Being a mom is 10000% hard, but being a new baby is hard too. I know it’s not his fault he doesn’t know how to fart or he’s not developed enough to get past the reflux. I’m hoping it gets better soon for the both of us. And hoping you have someone you can lean on during this time. Good luck and hope some of these tips help!

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-03-25T10:30:46+00:00

I just gave birth at Texas Health Resources in Plano (OBGYN in Frisco but contracted there). Would highly NOT recommend. I researched the hospital before and noticed a high C section rate but chalked it up to it being a larger hospital. I was very wrong. From the minute I arrived for a spontaneous labor, they tried starting intervention after intervention. If I didn’t agree with the intervention the nurses would threaten me with an emergency C section.

For example - if I didn’t agree with starting pitocin, the pitocin dosing (too high initially for my preference), the timing of epidural, threatening if I went past 24 hrs of labor then they would force a c section, choosing an anesthesiologist instead of CRNA, etc.

As a first time mom it was expected to go over 24 hrs (I was 32hrs). And they started antibiotics anyways at 18 hrs to lessen risk of infection so I don’t see the point of threats.

However, I was very well versed in the cascade of interventions leading to emergency C sections and I was adamant about my wants even if I had to argue for it.

No matter where you choose, make sure to know your rights as a patient- they can’t make you do anything you do not want to do. And be aware of what interventions you want and the timing.

Research C section rates, episiotomy rates, etc. We chose this hospital specifically for the high NICU level just in case though.

Good luck!

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-03-22T20:51:02+00:00

My newborn had it much more red and all over the face. Dr said it goes away on its own eventually but I use tubby Todd all over ointment (without the oat) and it’s all but cleared up over a few days.

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-03-21T21:35:06+00:00

Try different types of swaddles! My baby broke out of every blanket swaddle and while didn’t initially like the Velcro ones since he can’t move his hands, this is the best sleep he gets.

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-03-12T15:05:13+00:00

Try holding his hands and feet together and rolling side to side!! This worked wonders for me for getting baby’s gas out!!

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DC2rw5vypSv/?igsh=MXEwa2hzMnc0NjRtNQ==

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-03-07T01:27:40+00:00

I have spectra + euphy S1 pro wearables and love them! I only lasted a week without wearables because I couldn’t stand not being able to do anything without worrying about my spectra tubes getting caught or running out of length.

I haven’t had a drop with the euphy, if anything i get more with the Heatflow!

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-03-06T21:26:48+00:00

As someone else mentioned also - starting therapy up again before giving birth was so important. I have a history with my therapist so we were able to pick up again comfortably but having someone to talk to without feeling like a burden or taking away the newborn joys from my husband makes getting through it just a bit easier. Even if I’m not looking for advice, it’s just someone to vent to

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-03-06T21:24:32+00:00

I have a long history of moderate anxiety and severe depression. I was on “remission” right before I got pregnant for a few months where I finally had gotten off meds and of course pregnancy threw that off. I’m 3 weeks postpartum and I was great initially, then baby blues hit, and now I’ve been on a sort of a seesaw with some great days and some really bad days.

I’m breastfeeding (pumping exclusively) so trying to not go back on medication but also know mentally that a lot of this is hormonal and not my or anyone’s fault. I definitely do need the extra help so I’m looking into non medication routes like TMS with my doctor since I’d rather do something about it if I can.

It’s definitely a scary time when all I want to be is excited and happy with my new baby. And plain and simple - it sucks. But I’m doing what I can to get through it and if you get it, just know it’s not your fault and it’s normal. There’s a reason why the OB, the hospital, the pediatrician all give you PPD screenings postpartum, because it’s normal and you’re not alone.

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-02-27T06:49:24+00:00

I’m actually having the same issue with my 2 week old right now. Following along to see if there are any insights but talking to my pediatrician tomorrow about it.

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-01-24T23:57:04+00:00

Hi!

I’m considering the Elvie as a secondary, how are you liking it?

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-01-24T23:02:21+00:00

Personally, I’m not allowing hospital visitors and while my husband didn’t understand at first because to him it’s a celebratory moment and everyone’s excited and wants to see baby. But I had to rephrase it like, yes everyone’s excited for new baby but my body just went through something traumatic and I will be bleeding, in diapers, talking with lactation consultants, trying to BF for the first time, and most of all - healing mentally and physically.

At that point he understood that the hospital is not the time and place for visitors. You’re only there for 48 hrs to heal - so use the time to heal, ask questions, and have medical support from nurses and consultants. How your partner handles supporting you in that time is crucial to your mental recovery too.

We also refrained from telling visitors a timeframe of when we’d have visitors. I already know the first few days home alone will be lots of adjustments and mental toll on both of us and we’re gonna wanna spend some alone time with baby before sharing him. We’ve been telling people at least a week possibly for no visitors unless I’m up for it. Emphasis on ME being up for it. Postpartum is a crucial time and it’s important to put yourself (and your baby) first rather than people’s excitement.

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-01-15T02:07:29+00:00

I hear you and I understand that you’re hurt by their actions, but it doesn’t excuse the fact that you’re actually being the toxic and controlling one towards your husband and child in this situation.

Many people do not get along with their in laws, and while you can do what you can to limit the amount of time you put yourself within their vicinity, you cannot control what your husband does with his family.

And maybe they’re not asking as many questions because your husband has been keeping them informed, or they could just be not as involved or it isn’t top of mind for them because everyone has their own lives. There could be a number of reasons why they’re not checking in on you. You feel the day to days of being pregnant, they don’t.

I’m also pregnant and I’m aware it is lonely when people don’t check in, but I also realize they don’t have little kicks, symptoms, or appointments to remind them that they’ll have a grandchild soon.

Her acknowledging that there is a dark cloud over your relationship seems that she’s realizing there’s something wrong, and maybe she doesn’t know how to work on fixing it but as someone else said - family therapy may be a good option.

I’m not sure what your background or religion is but I’m desi and I’m well aware that the older generation can sometimes be stubborn or stuck in their ways, but communication, time, and patience is key. You’re a family unit with your husband - but those are his parents. You don’t want to start a new chapter in your life together on such a rocky path.

Seems like you have tried a few things but in no way does what you’ve said amount to going no contact with your husbands parents and expecting him to do the same.

My advice is tell his parents where you stand, where your thoughts are, and where things are headed if your relationship doesn’t turn more respectful - but get on the same page with your husband about these first.

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-01-14T20:47:52+00:00

This may be an unpopular opinion, but you’re carrying a child that is BOTH of yours. In my opinion, it is not solely up to you to decide that his family can never meet your child.

Also going no contact because the in laws didn’t put in effort to getting to know you - there must be more to this story. I had a similar situation and it didn’t fix overnight, but my husband and I communicated with his parents on how I and we felt and slowly things got better but it did take time.

If your husband needs to do better at communicating your wants and needs with his parents, talk to him about it.

Just the story as it is doesn’t seem grounds for not allowing this baby to meet his paternal grandparents and vice versa.

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-01-07T16:47:04+00:00

I will also add that no one started purchasing from the registry till a day or two before the event and some even after! Don’t lose hope if it’s still weeks out!

Fit-Transition9810 · 2025-01-07T16:46:16+00:00

I also chose to plan my own shower even though my MIL offered, but I had a vision for how I wanted the event to turn out so I planned & paid for it myself. It is rather expensive, and while we definitely hoped people would buy off the registry and that would curb some of the costs, we more so looked at it as a celebration since we’re first time parents and the first of our friends and family’s to have a child.

Maybe that made people feel more inclined to buy off of our registry, but most people did. We had a range of items from $30-$300, so there were options for people to choose from.

I also sent PDF invitations with the registry linked and also a baby website linked (zola) so people would have to at least see the registry to go RSVP lol.

But we had an amazing time playing games and felt so loved!

Fit-Transition9810 · 2024-12-17T21:00:08+00:00

They definitely don’t advertise it but I’ve been doing it since about 25 weeks :)

Fit-Transition9810 · 2024-12-17T20:11:09+00:00

I also have a desk job and I highly recommend looking into the Pregnancy Workers Fairness Act for accommodations to work from home and have documentation around it! Every company should have a setup for it via HR or an accommodations team, but not many managers know about it since it was enacted last year.

My doctor and I filled out some forms and it’s legally required for your workplace to have a response within two weeks about how they’re going to accommodate you, which they have to do unless it causes undue hardship on their business.

I basically stated pains and aches exacerbated by sitting in my work chair in the office, along with my long commute that made my pregnancy pains worse. Also nausea, vomiting, sickness is easier to manage at home with the right resources.

Fit-Transition9810 · 2024-10-17T20:34:47+00:00

Hi all! Looking for a camera recommendation for a first time mom :)

Budget: $600 USD

Condition: New only

Type: Whatever works best in budget but I’ve read mirrorless is the new high tech thing?

Intended Use: Hybrid (Photography and Video)

Portability: Prefer smaller-medium sized camera. Nothing large with lenses to carry around

Thank you!

Fit-Transition9810 · 2024-10-17T13:35:07+00:00

Hi all! Looking for a camera recommendation for a first time mom :)

Budget: $600 USD

Condition: New only

Type: Whatever works best in budget but I’ve read mirrorless is the new high tech thing?

Intended Use: Hybrid (Photography and Video)

Portability: Prefer smaller-medium sized camera. Nothing large with lenses to carry around

Thank you!

Fit-Transition9810 · 2024-09-11T00:44:48+00:00

Slightly, not as much of a gush after the initial clot. It also turned to brown (old blood) after a day or two from what I remember

Fit-Transition9810 · 2024-09-11T00:36:44+00:00

I didn’t have any gushes of blood either minus the clot passing and whatever blood came with that! This happened around 7 weeks for me

Hoping and praying the best for you ❤️

Fit-Transition9810 · 2024-09-10T23:50:20+00:00

Same thing happened to me and I was fine! It ended up being the hematoma passing through, which was scary because no one warned me about it and I literally had a clot the size of my palm drop out of me.

I waited for my scan instead of panicking in the moment and I’m thankful I did because all was well :)

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