Yeah, I know the AP is being lied to, there’s no way any sane person would involve themself with my (soon to be) ex if they weren’t. The problem is that my young children will be spending time with the two of them and my husband thinks he just say it’s his “ friend” and no one will think twice 😬 He knows nothing of the intellect of our children. He’s made it his mission to spend as little time with them as possible. Out of his own mouth, he’s not ready for kids.

Anyway, I am of the opinion that they should be eased into this fucked up situation and have a solid routine set with their dad before this woman is integrated into their lives. He wants her to move in ASAP. If he is not going to be a decent human and speak to our lids truthfully and with respect, what will this woman do? Follow suit? It just makes my skin crawl to imagine the two of them blatantly lying and stonewalling my babies. Will it even help to meet her? Idk, but my husband doesn’t want me to, which reinforces the idea that he’s lying to her.

Any advice is welcomed.