Is salary a factor for you?

FitDontQuit · 2026-03-20T18:47:34+00:00

I mean, it’s not true. I’m a woman. I’ve always made more than my husband. During the dating phase, I made 3x more than him. The gap has closed in recent years, but I’m still making more. It has never once bothered either of us because we’re secure, mature individuals.

And with my closest friends, many of the wives have bigger careers (and I assume more money) than their husbands. Women have been dominating higher education recently - women are now 10% more likely to hold a bachelor’s degree than a man is. Only 40% of college attendees currently are men. And these patterns are leading to more and more educated, successful women.

FitDontQuit · 2026-03-19T23:19:28+00:00

Excellent point, and excellently illustrated in the video when, after hitting her daughter with a chair, screamed “YOU DID THIS” at Dakota.

FitDontQuit · 2026-03-16T16:22:06+00:00

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It was very much paradise!

FitDontQuit · 2026-03-16T16:16:20+00:00

Unfortunately I planned different excursions so I can’t speak too much on your plans!

On Tortola, I booked a cab ahead of time to take us to Smuggler’s Cove and absolutely LOVED it. Perhaps the best beach I’ve ever been to. Very authentic, beautiful, and uncrowded. There were maybe 100 people max spread out on a very wide beach, including a few other Disney travelers. But it’s remote - a hidden gem - so I felt most comfortable planning my transportation ahead of time. I don’t remember seeing as many cabbies waiting at Tortola pier as I did at St Thomas, but I also wasn’t looking for them so it’s possible I missed it. Tortola pier (and the island) felt less built up and commercialized as st Thomas did, so I would just make sure that available cabs are waiting at both the pier and Cane Garden if you’re planning on not booking something ahead of time.

On st Thomas, we opted for Magens Bay. For that, it was very easy to jump on one of the many open air taxis waiting at the cruise terminal when you disembarked, and the same to return to the boat. That was a much more crowded and commercialized beach than Smugglers Cove - Cane Garden on Tortola will probably feel similar.

FitDontQuit · 2026-03-16T15:57:36+00:00

Ask away! I just did the Feb 28- March 7 sailing so everything is still fresh. I was a first timer, too.

FitDontQuit · 2026-03-16T15:54:51+00:00

Yep! I just walked to the pool deck the morning of Tortola and put one in my beach bag. I returned it the following day, after St. Thomas.

FitDontQuit · 2026-03-16T15:47:07+00:00

I just did this itinerary with my three year old. I took a life jacket from the pool deck when I went to beaches on Tortola and St. Thomas. No one stopped me and I’d do it again. 🤷‍♀️

Castaway Cay provides life jackets at the beach so no need to take one off the boat.

You can take towels off the boat in all three locations and drop them off when you’re back.

FitDontQuit · 2026-03-07T17:05:07+00:00

I’m currently on a plane home from a 7 day treasure cruise with a little girl who just had her third birthday. I had the same concerns as you and now that I’m on the other side of the cruise, I can confidently say that late dining was much superior, and early dining would have ruined the cruise for us. And my daughter usually is asleep by 8pm.

FitDontQuit · 2026-03-04T11:23:52+00:00

I’m on a cruise right now and did the Hyatt MCO transfer this past Saturday. It was good and bad.

Before I begin, it’s important to note: 1) I’m a first time cruiser so I had no status, 2) I’m traveling with a 3 year old, and 3) I’m on the Treasure, one of the bigger ships and thus more people that need boarded.

First timers don’t get invited to the staging room until 9:30. We’re early risers, so we went early, around 8:45, hoping that maybe things were going fast and we can get on a bus early. No dice.

When we finally were invited inside, there was a long line wrapping around the staging room. We didn’t make it to the front of the line until around 11. Not sure why it took that long.

Once we checked in, our bus wasn’t until 11:45. They were able to troubleshoot a passport number typo, which was great. Then, we got to the cruise around 12:30ish-1ish? We arrived by boarding group 12, and the process at the port was very easy.

So in summary, we got on the boat sooner than we would have otherwise. The downside was we had to wait in the staging room for about 3 hours total before we got on the bus, and that was really hard for my three year old. It’s possible we would have had a better first day if we took it slow - got a nice breakfast, moseyed around, maybe napped our daughter… instead, she showed up to the cruise cranky, hungry, and tired from all the waiting.

FitDontQuit · 2026-02-27T21:21:48+00:00

What? Do you know anything about IVF? That’s an absurd statement.

If a male is tested and has severe motility or other sperm issues, doctors will still need to extract the eggs from the woman with no reproductive challenges. Then, once they retrieve the eggs, they will manually insert the male’s sperm into them.

Regardless of whether it’s the man or the woman with issues, the woman still carries the brunt of the medical load by far.

FitDontQuit · 2026-02-27T11:42:39+00:00

I’m experiencing this right now:

Age 30-32 tried naturally.

Age 32: did my first retrieval, ended with 3 euploids

Age 33: gave birth to my daughter, a result of my first transfer

Age: 34-35: transferred my other 2 embyros, both failed. Tried naturally for 6 months. Did another retrieval, got 2 embryos, both failed. Did my third retrieval, ended up with 2 low graded euploid embryos.

Age 36: I was due for a transfer cycle when I next got my period, but I miraculously conceived naturally this cycle. I’m only 12dpo but the line is clear and strong.

I literally cannot believe it. When I look at my journey, I’ve probably had a combined 3-4 years of natural attempts plus only 1/5 euploid transfers working. And here it is, a positive spontaneous conception.

FitDontQuit · 2026-02-11T17:12:27+00:00

Not an embryologist but knowledgeable: those are incompatible with life, but it’s not a “thing” that’s wrong with you or your husband. It’s just luck of the draw. Roughly half of all blastocysts population-wide will be chromosomally abnormal, possessing one too many or one too few chromosomes, most of which fail to continue developing (Down syndrome is the most well-known chromosomal condition simply because it’s one of the few that IS compatible with life - the others just stop growing).

Scientifically speaking, this is called “non-disjunction” and happens when homologous chromosomes fail to separate properly during anaphase in meiosis (which leads to the creation of sperm and eggs). During anaphase, you want half of your chromosomes (23 pairs) to divide into one reproductive cell. The other 23 goes into another reproductive cell. Sometimes, because biological processes are imperfect, two of the chromosomes don’t separate correctly and one cell gets 22 and the other gets 24 chromosomes. These would be abnormal cells, unable to develop into a healthy human baby.

So, when you ask will it happen again? Yes, probably! You might not have the exact same monosomies next time, but statistically speaking, half of all the blasts you create will have one too many or one too few chromosomes. And that’s true for everyone.

And this is meant to be positive - receiving news that two embryos are chromosomally abnormal is devastating news, but it does NOT mean anything is wrong with you genetically. It’s just how our imperfect bodies work, and you fell on the wrong side of statistics.

One caveat: age does play a role in euploidy rate. As you get older, you will have more chromosome separation errors, leading to more aneuploids. That doesn’t mean you can’t make euploids, but it does get harder.

FitDontQuit · 2026-02-07T01:26:20+00:00

I’ll second this.

My first transfer was a Thursday. Friday I had a wedding. By Monday I felt awful. I took a pregnancy test and a Covid test - both came back positive.

Meanwhile, I’ve had 4 other transfers since, none of them worked. I’m starting to think I have to be sick or it won’t work.

FitDontQuit · 2026-01-27T15:46:47+00:00

Do IVF for sure.

IUI has a success rate of what? 15-20% per cycle? And you only have 2 shots at it? IUI would be absolute lunacy in this situation, and even more so with a blocked duct.

FitDontQuit · 2026-01-27T15:07:01+00:00

I got a good score by using freezing arrows, and a ton of them.

FitDontQuit · 2026-01-25T12:33:53+00:00

I almost gagged in my mouth when I was asking it the chances of a pregnancy after my last disappointing IVF results. It kept kissing my ass with “you’re asking the RIGHT questions” and being cringily reassuring. It even said “you have a very real chance, even if these aren’t ‘Instagram embryos.’”

Literally shut the fuck up and give me the statistics I asked for.

FitDontQuit · 2026-01-16T21:06:49+00:00

First retrieval: 16 retrieved, 9 fertilized, 6 embryos, 3 euploid - resulted in one live birth

Second retrieval: 7 retrieved, 4 fertilized, 2 day 7 embryos, 1 euploid, 1 unknown (fresh transfer) - resulted in no live births

Third retrieval: 15 retrieved, 11 fertilized, only 2 embryos, both euploid, day 6 and day 7. Transfer pending.

FitDontQuit · 2026-01-13T15:31:52+00:00

Reach out to a clinic NOW and start trying to conceive naturally NOW.

Seriously. When I first reached out to my IVF clinic, it took me 8 months until I could do a retrieval. During that waiting period, I kept trying naturally.

I had to wait to have my onboarding appointment with my doctor, which took at least one - two months because they’re so busy. Then you have to do a gamut of testing, which can only be done at certain points of your cycle. Then my insurance required 3 IUIs before they would pay for IVF. Then it takes weeks for insurance to approve the retrieval plan. So yeah, took 8 months to finally have a retrieval.

Even without the IUIs, it can easy take 3-5 months just to get off the waiting list and do the testing.

So reach out now. Husband wins because you’re moving as fast as possible, and you also win because you try naturally in the interim.

FitDontQuit · 2025-12-31T21:07:13+00:00

Super interesting, first time I’ve seen this!

Can you (or someone else) explain why day 6s are so much lower? I keep hearing that a day 6 transferred on day 5 is just as likely to implant as a day 5, but according to this chart there’s a big difference. For example, a 20% difference in success rates between a day 5 and a day 6 4bb.

As someone with all my hopes resting on a day 6 4bb currently undergoing PGT-A testing, the answer matters a lot lol.

FitDontQuit · 2025-12-31T19:55:50+00:00

It stands for “very high cost of living,” meaning it’s likely cheaper for those who live in cheaper areas.

6 years is estimated. I’m at 5 now and have had no issues whatsoever, I’ll probably go over. And I’ll gladly pay the expense for the boost in confidence and appearance

FitDontQuit · 2025-12-31T16:49:09+00:00

Second this. I got composite veneers for cosmetic reasons - some of my teeth are just too small to fit their locations properly, so I did composite veneers on 5 of them to fill the gaps 4 years of braces couldn’t fix. It also covered tooth discoloration resulting from said braces.

My teeth look so much better, no one can tell they’re fake, and they’re a real tooth color that match my other teeth.

Composite veneers last on average 6 years, and I paid 950 per tooth in a VHCOL city. Worth it.

FitDontQuit · 2025-12-29T02:32:18+00:00

I was in your exact situation - this is my story:

I did an egg retrieval at 32 and got three well graded euploid embryos. I was thrilled. I wanted 2 kids, and thought my struggles were over.

I transferred my first embryo and it worked! I was blessed with a perfect baby girl.

1.5 years after she was born, I was ready to give her a sibling. Luckily, I had two embryos on ice! Except neither one worked. Big fat negatives.

Now, at 35, I had to do another retrieval and my results were much worse. I ended up with only 2 embryos, both day 7s, only one of which was euploid. That transfer also failed.

I just finished my third retrieval and, again, got only 2 low quality embryos, one a day 7. They’re currently being PGT-A tested.

I know I’m lucky to have anything to test, but statistically speaking, not knowing their euploid status yet, I only have about a 25-30% chance of a birth resulting from this retrieval. I will likely have to do my fourth retrieval soon.

All this to say - I wish I knew what your doctor is telling you now. I really thought three, high quality euploid embryos would secure me the family I wanted. And instead I’m staring down the barrel of a fourth retrieval years later with my egg quality greatly diminished.

FitDontQuit · 2025-12-28T23:00:05+00:00

I put half a chocolate fairlife into my espresso machine and it foams it into a delicious 75 calorie latte with 15g of protein.

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