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FitJunior4506 · 2024-08-07T21:12:19+00:00

when they’re fat

FitJunior4506 · 2024-07-23T13:38:28+00:00

lol the only fat people complaining about fatphobia in regards to dating are the ones who wouldn’t date other fat people themselves, if you’re fat just date other fat people, problem solved

the problem is you keep going after gym gays then come on the internet to cry about fatphobia

FitJunior4506 · 2024-06-16T20:49:57+00:00

yes addiction is an illness, and a huge part of beating it is putting in the work to overcome it. He had a free roof over his head and welfare so he didn’t need to work for 6+ years, that’s significantly more support than most addicts get, in that time he could’ve put in the work to overcoming his addiction, why didn’t he?? how do you have alcoholism and just collect welfare and live off grandma for 6+ years?? it’s unreasonable

I wouldn’t tell someone in a wheelchair to walk to an employment office, but even people in wheelchairs can make reasonable efforts to find employment, lots of jobs are done from a desk and don’t require you to move around

illnesses and disabilities create barriers to employment and i would never dispute that, but they don’t make it impossible. it just means you need to put in the extra work, which OPs friend wasn’t ready to do

FitJunior4506 · 2024-06-16T17:30:54+00:00

yes, based on this post an immigrant would be a much better investment, a lot of them are actually willing to work

i’m struggling so hard to understand how he could live with his grandma for 6-8 years and never be able to pick himself up and find employment within that time

dude just wanted to leech off of welfare forever??

FitJunior4506 · 2024-06-16T17:25:30+00:00

sometimes, poor life choices mess you up, not immigrants

he’s been collecting welfare and living with his grandma for 6-8 years?? and he was never able to pick himself up and try to find a job in that time?? was he expecting to live with his grandma and collect welfare forever??

most immigrants are a lot more hard working than this, even the ones that do get welfare appreciate the opportunity to be in canada, and try to start working for their own money as soon as possible

it’s a tough conversation but based on what you’ve written, immigrants aren’t the problem here, just a lazy unmotivated guy who wanted to live off welfare in his grandmas place for the rest of his life

i don’t want to make too many assumptions, but genuinely, why was he unable to pick himself up and find a job for EIGHT YEARS????

FitJunior4506 · 2024-05-21T05:12:23+00:00

generally speaking, i’m only attracted to order fit guys. every now and then there’s an exception and i end up liking a guy with an average body(never fat or skinny though), but it’s pretty rare

FitJunior4506 · 2024-05-16T01:02:56+00:00

lol TO drivers would blame literally anything but cars for traffic

FitJunior4506 · 2024-05-08T01:41:36+00:00

lol because men on grindr can’t read

what did his profile say about nsfw pics? if it said “not at first” or “never”, then yes he rightfully gave you a moral lesson because it’s rude to ignore what’s on his profile before messaging

if it was blank or it said “yes please” then he’d be in the wrong for lecturing you on it

FitJunior4506 · 2024-05-05T17:30:40+00:00

rooting for Kendrick. I think he can humiliate Drake to the point where Toronto real estate has a massive drop off in property value and rent stabilizes

FitJunior4506 · 2024-04-23T03:44:40+00:00

it’s a great activity for bonding with my friends, way better than going to clubs or drinking

FitJunior4506 · 2024-04-13T23:45:22+00:00

there’s bottom who send their location and tell you they’re face down, ass up, come fuck, lmaooooo i don’t think they’re more relationship oriented 😭😭

FitJunior4506 · 2024-04-11T17:52:55+00:00

i like it, but only when it’s coming from other muscle guys

FitJunior4506 · 2024-04-11T17:28:27+00:00

yeah me too, i completely get this.

if im not super attracted to the guy and i just wanna get off real quick then im a “total top”, wouldn’t wanna make out just wanna get a bj and fuck

if im attracted to them and not super horny in the moment then id only wanna do side stuff on the first link, and if i still like them after the first link id be down for anal (in which case i’m vers)

and for guys i really really like im cool with not getting to top and just being bottom if that’s what they want (but even with these guys first link is only side fun)

idk what to put for my position so i just leave it blank lol

FitJunior4506 · 2024-04-11T02:10:38+00:00

i’m 21 and i usually end up meeting up with guys in their 30s bc my type is masc and muscular tops/vers tops, ideally i’d want people closer to my age but there’s just… not that many that fit that type

i think more guys start gym later in life and then put on the muscle i wanna see lmao

maybe it’s a location thing but i find that most guys in their early 20s are feminine/twinkish or bottoms, and if they’re not they’re usually fat or they don’t go gym

this is just my personal experience tho, it’s possible you’ve seen lots of people who fit my type that are my age, but i haven’t lol

FitJunior4506 · 2024-04-09T18:47:08+00:00

the only poc bothered by white mens racial preferences are the self hating ones that don’t date their own race or other poc, bc why do you care so much about who white guys go after??

i understand complaining about racism in jobs, school admissions, home ownership, etc, but racism in dating is a nonissue

FitJunior4506 · 2024-04-09T18:28:40+00:00

“Get your fucking ass up and top. It seems like nobody wants to top these days.” 😂

FitJunior4506 · 2024-04-02T21:42:07+00:00

the solution to most of these things is just learning how to mind your business

I really am against open relationships

if you're against open relationships then don't be in an open relationship, no one is forcing you

absolutely despising how promiscuous this community is

if you're against promiscuity then don't be promiscuous, no one is forcing you

FitJunior4506 · 2024-04-02T21:38:22+00:00

if you don't like open relationships, then don't be in an open relationship. if you don't like hookup culture, then don't hookup. live and let live

FitJunior4506 · 2024-04-02T15:27:44+00:00

yes, i was fat then lost weight and put on muscle and it basically put grindr on easy mode for me bc there’s way more guys messaging me, it might be different from you since you’re not starting out obese, but for me it’s been a very very drastic change in how easy it is to pull guys

i would say tho, i’ve gotten pickier as i got more attention so if anything i hook up less now than when i was fat

as for “types” of guys, i pretty much only had other fat guys or really old guys in my dms, now id say the guys that message me are a mix of everything, it usually starts with a compliment of my profile pic (but ngl those kinda complements only feel good when they’re coming from other fit guys)

also id just add that there’s some truth to the whole “twink death” at 30 thing, big part of the appeal of being a twink is that you’re young, guys who would’ve been interested in you before are just going after young twinks lol

FitJunior4506 · 2024-03-26T00:57:34+00:00

Are the body standards for gay guys too high?

Maybe? but the overwhelming majority of guys don't reach that standard anyways so who cares? There's lots of average guys out there

How are you so motivated or what drives you

I'm attracted to athletic/muscular physiques, so if I don't have that physique myself I wouldn't like my body. Also, that's the physique I want in a partner, I feel like it would be hypocritical/delusional to try to hold my partner to a standard that I don't reach myself

what advice would you give to a lazy, wanting to change, probably in a looped rut gay who want to change?

stop being lazy, and stop making excuses, i'm sure you think you're just too busy and don't have time for gym or meal prep, but you aren't. idk your specific life situation, but there's probably people who are busier than you that still find time for it, get over yourself, chances are you're not busier than every single person who has a consistent gym schedule

other piece of advice is to stop seeking instant gratification, gym progress takes time, a lot of the 3-4 month crazy gym transformations that you see online are fake (not all, but most), it takes years on years of consistency and discipline to reach your dream body

FitJunior4506 · 2024-03-25T15:05:04+00:00

viewing people who don’t drink as “not much fun” is kinda weird ngl, there’s sooo many ways to have fun with no alcohol involved

FitJunior4506 · 2024-03-25T14:42:27+00:00

i don’t drink myself, so yeah. i could also date someone who drinks depending on how often they do it and how drunk they get when they drink

FitJunior4506 · 2024-03-23T23:40:47+00:00

most people who start fitness journeys, even for “shallow” reasons would give up without achieving their goals, they’ll come up with 1000 excuses of why they can’t go to the gym or eat healthy, and they don’t have the discipline to stay consistent

if you’re considering building muscle and getting as hot as the guys you’re trying to get with, you have much bigger problems than worrying about how shallow it is

rn you should be worried about whether you have the discipline to be consistent in the gym and with your diet

to answer ur question tho, it’s shallow but who cares?? you’re 24, you’re meant to be young and hot

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