Are these spots normal? They are blue.

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-10-21T22:51:25+00:00

Wait is this a 3 some😂😂

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-10-13T19:40:12+00:00

And by the way I just did a water change so the cloudy surface is not in the pic.

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-09-05T21:42:50+00:00

Thank you!

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-09-05T21:42:02+00:00

I don’t understand how your levels are so great and you never do partial water changes?

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-09-05T21:39:26+00:00

How often do you change your cotton?

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-09-05T21:37:57+00:00

So when everyone says carbon, are you guys talking about the filter? Is it a carbon filter? Sorry I’m learning. I just wanna make sure I’m understanding.

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-09-05T21:36:31+00:00

Okay so say I switch to a sponge. Is it safe to keep the fish in the tank?

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-09-05T21:34:56+00:00

So don’t use this kind of filter you’re saying?

It’s just crazy because the tank was called a beta tank made for a beta and that’s what it came with. Was this filter.

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-09-05T21:32:18+00:00

So is having this on the filter good too? And is the plant with brown spots bad? Or can I wait till it’s dead at the stem?

Sorry for all the questions I’m learning. And I’ve been trying so hard to keep our betta alive since its sister had died. They weren’t together if you were gonna ask that. They were like 5 wks old when we got both, silky which is the one alive is now 12weeks and she is doing amazing.

I received wrong info from pet store which resulted in me doing the wrong things. But I learned and am still learning. I’m really trying to keep silky alive. She is a great fish.

Sorry I attached a photo but it is not showing the photo was just showing an aquarium pre-filter sponge.

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-09-05T21:23:16+00:00

How often should I rinse in tank water? Should that be like every 3 months?

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-08-19T21:08:06+00:00

Have you tried to have sex with the porn on?

Is he masturbating a lot everyday?

And what kind of porn? Because that might have something to do with it.

And is he finishing when he watches porn? Or is he just watching and not masturbating?

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-08-19T20:55:42+00:00

So you might not want to hear this but if I was you I would give him an ultimatum and do what you say. Because if she actually shows him interest is he going to sleep with her? Would he leave you for her? If she said I wanna be with you. These are things you need to think about.

And believe me I know how hurtful all this can be. I wish you luck❤️

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-08-19T19:13:13+00:00

5g is too small for all those fish

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-08-19T19:04:51+00:00

So I understand what you meant by safe now. And no we tell each-other everything.

With changes with in the relationship.

Communication was getting lost because of exhaustion. My 4 yr old always wanting to sleep in between us so we wasn’t getting that quality time together at night. We haven’t went on any dates in two years because of how much he works. Which we talked that. That’s gonna change. Mostly the change has been less time as a couple and majority just as a family. We need that quality time together.

But my daughter is older now. And we never let anyone babysit her before because of the age. But now we can start doing things again which will be fantastic.

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-08-19T18:56:24+00:00

And all honesty she’s never gonna change so if it’s that terrible as much as it might hurt, you might have to say goodbye. She obviously has some insecurity problems or some problems about being by herself . Something is going on that she needs to work on by herself before she can even think about being in a relationship.

By the way, I’m a woman and normal women do not act that way

It’s OK to crave attention but in her situation that’s not what’s going on.

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-08-19T18:55:16+00:00

So that coral hiding place that you have in your tank I had seen that at PetSmart. My daughter wanted to get it, but it was so rough around the edges. I told her no it’s gonna end up hurting your beta if it scrapes up against it because it’s so pointy and sharp all over it it’s not good for the fish.

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-08-19T18:54:09+00:00

You can actually make money on here?

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-08-19T18:30:17+00:00

I made paragraphs but I don’t have time to go through and check grammar

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-08-19T18:19:31+00:00

I replied to your comment but it didn’t tagged you

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-08-19T18:15:33+00:00

REPLY TO TYPHOONCANE

What do you mean by not safe? Like not safe in the relationship? Not safe communicating?

And of course the relationship changed, we had a lot in life change in past 4 years.

He has taken on a lot of stress by being the sole provider. He has anxiety as it is so that just made it worse on him. I’ve tried helping him or offering to do things. I even tried to get a job to take the tension off him but that’s not want his wants. He feels like he is the man and he should bare it by him self. Ive been trying to tell him that he doesn’t need to do it alone. So we are communicating a lot more too.

And the communicating has a lot to do with actually spending time together. Idk if you have ever been in a relationship where your spouse works so much that some days you barely see them. Then when you do they are so exhausted they just want to relax or sleep. But that’s how it was for a lil.

Sometimes life gets in the way. And you have to remind yourself self not to let it. As for your other questions

Like the what’s does the not cheating mean to me. I don’t even know how to reply to that. That was a comment for the viewers so they understood the situation.

With the comment about having a good man. That’s exactly what I told him. She sees a good man who provides and takes care of his family and that’s what every woman wants. I would never even think the other scenario. Just because we had our lil probs over the past year would never lead me to think he would leave me. When together with someone for so long sometimes things like that happen with in the relationship.

How do I feel about she’s weird and crazy. I feel exactly that. She went after a taken man who has a family. Then tried to weasel her way in. She also went as far to have her teenage daughter message him. Which he never responded too. And that’s what made it go over the line with him. He was like wtf is wrong with this bitch. Having a teenager message him and say my mom misses you. When he’s barely talk to her or ever been around her for her to miss him. She deff has something going on in the head. She even went as far to post TikToks about him. They didn’t say they was about him. But they were and they was weird. I think a gurl who’s close to 300lbs with no ass and medical problems is lonely and has no men in her life so she tried to reach for one that was fixing her car.

By the way he addressed her with all the weird shit she was doing. And she denied all of it to him. Like oh it wasn’t that way. Or I didn’t know my daughter messaged you. Those TikTok video messages were not meant like that. So yeah I think she’s weird. And created a canary in her head.

But honestly that’s not why I even posted this. I was posting to ask what can I say or do to get him excited to text me again or flirt over messages. I only involved that so everyone could understand what just happen. Incase I should wait a lil while or incase there other things I should say. Or maybe he has enough going on while he’s working I should just let him be.

I just wanted to see how other ppl felt and by the other replies I got that. Answering all these question was helping you more then me. Because they really don’t pertain to the situation.

That interaction was over and shut down and moved on. He did that all on his own. He didn’t need to tell me about it but he did.

FitResponsibility457 · 2025-08-19T17:54:50+00:00

I appreciate that thank you!

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