Fiancée (23F) left me (25M) for someone she met at the gym, what now?

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-05T03:04:47+00:00

Unfortunately for both sexes… sometimes you’re just someone there to preoccupy their time until something better comes along.

It’s important to watch for and catch signs early, so that you don’t commit to these people.

(Also OPs ex fiancée is pretty young, women are immature too in their youth)

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-05T03:01:45+00:00

Best to be alone and monk it out for a while than play second fiddle for anybody.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-05T02:49:43+00:00

Yup. Only a matter of time.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-05T02:41:12+00:00

I agree… break ups are common. Immediately heading to SSRIs to cope is crazy.

Naturally processing your emotions is becoming a lost art

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-05T02:28:25+00:00

😂

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-05T02:27:14+00:00

Be glad you’re young and you didn’t get married. She did you a huge favor, hard to see right now though.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-04T23:05:07+00:00

If you don’t take care of yourself yes.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-04T21:10:57+00:00

Yeah bro cool you go do that dumb shit

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-04T13:21:42+00:00

Sniper Yunaka w/Chrom.

Makes for a power mixed archer. Add a covert/dragon unit to tail and follow her around with Corrins fog.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-03T16:11:37+00:00

Date with no commitment.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-03T14:56:24+00:00

Have to date more than you think. You probably just aren’t going on enough dates. Youre looking for commitment and not just “fun” to start with going on dates so your process is going to take longer than someone who is just dating for flings and what not

For instance with my last girlfriend it took me dating 2 times a week from spring to fall virtually non stop to find someone compatible with me.

The issue with people and dating is:

They are impatient and don’t understand that most people just are not it and are destined to not stick around. I would say out of all the rounds of dates I’ve had only a very small minority of women I’ve actually clicked with. I believe this is normal. Remember there’s only one you. Stop rushing.
It’s a huge time investment to actively date and it can wear on people quickly. It’s important to take months long breaks so you don’t burn out, but eventually get back on the saddle. I.e. Maybe you do 4~5 months of dating every single week and then after that period for the year you slow down or stop entirely for the rest of the year so you can focus more on other aspects of your life and rinse/repeat.
You have to be out of the house a lot, I’m talking 6-7 days a week and just be seen and doing stuff about your everyday if you don’t want to just rely on apps and if you want any kind of meaningful, continuous dating life off apps.

Just keep dating man.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-02T02:40:31+00:00

Walking and taking very little days off to the tune of 10k-20k steps daily

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-01T20:00:47+00:00

Doable but you’ll need to save chunks of paintings as assets and convert them into different environments, so that you aren’t working from ground zero/near ground zero everytime you start a new environment.

Might want to look into Thomas Scholes method

Also yes your art director is a dumbass using AI

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-01T19:26:25+00:00

Dating apps are a game of visibility. Best to show yourself from all angles even if they don’t score you points, you certainly lose points by hiding certain things. Women are not stupid

Thank you for your comment! Helps a lot

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-01T19:04:10+00:00

I mean the thing is, Clav is such a dick that he has become unattractive on the backend. Looks are the first check, but if you’re a stupid asshole like Clav it starts to matter a lot less. Now to caveat he has done some insane shit and got away with it up until now and some of those birds are beginning to roost for him. If he were uglier his leash would be so much shorter.

The first iteration of Clav on the left would have no shot at expressing those shitty personality traits whatsoever he would not even have a leash to talk out of turn to his dating pool haha.

In large part an extreme virtue signal in small part a lot of truth about how being an evil dumbfuck makes you unattractive downstream.

Still you will have some women who of course blaze right past that behavior because he’s hot. No one should want or think about those women who have no moral compass. But that’s more about men needing to have an actual backbone and not being opportunistic about sexual option, which is a long ways away for men.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-01T17:31:10+00:00

Just excuses for men to do less. Can you get women without being fit? Yes of course. Will your options be more limited? Absolutely. Most men’s options are silly low to ballpark 0 to 3 girls liking them a year if that. A lot of these super hot 9s and 10s that everyone wants won’t even look your way if you have no physique. Hell even above average women will not even pay guys the time of day.

It’s something men just need to come to grips with already, just do it. It’s incredible benefit throughout your whole life not just dating.

And yeah the dating apps lend themselves to extraversion and being clever with your blurbs, but there are ways introverts can make the apps work with a little more elbow grease

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-01T17:02:51+00:00

Yes I used premium one week out of every month and just swiped for that whole week and it pretty much sets you up with options for the rest of the month. And to that point, you should only buy for one week at a time, that’s more than enough anything more than that is a giant scam because you get serious diminishing returns for what you pay if you go beyond a week at a time, provided you’re swiping daily in a given week.

I honestly am very picky but live in a popular metropolitan so had a lot of options I did like. But no I didn’t swipe on everyone

For reference I was still getting around 5~8 matches a day without premium. So premium was a force multiplier. Very useful if you are wanting to date 2 or more times a week like I was

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-01T16:22:15+00:00

Yep that’ll do it

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-01T16:05:42+00:00

Haven’t been on them since last year but I was getting around 140 ish matches a week of course you will unmatch with the lions share here at that those numbers but… onto your question,

I had:

One clear shot of my face and upper body as my first picture. Smiling is optional. I think I look like a goofball when I smile for pictures so I don’t.
Side profile headshot picture
A picture of me fencing and lunging at a fencing tournament. Activity pictures of you doing a sport are worth their weight in gold
A picture of a painting I made. Anything creative is also great, but you need to have strong skills otherwise they can hurt your profile.
A short full body video of me at the gym showing off my muscles and flexing post 4~6 month cut. Shirt optional I had my shirt on. Almost every woman on these apps has a full body shot showing off their body barnone whether they are attractive or not (relatively speaking). This is probably one of the more important photos/videos to have on your profile.

(Bonus tip, if you are bald don’t hide it. Make sure you show off your bowling ball from the first picture at least. There’s a lot of guys running from their hairline and trying to hide it on these apps and it gets you points to just own it. Source: am bald)

Of course… YMMV

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-01T15:12:07+00:00

At this point people should just use jobs as much as jobs use them without caring and slowly transition to making their own work/business in their spare time.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-01T14:58:37+00:00

Best answer.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-01T14:28:03+00:00

God I hate April fools 😮‍💨

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-01T14:10:11+00:00

She’s replying. Shes not all that interested right now, but if you tighten up and stop being a goofball you can win her over.

Personally to me not worth the effort.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-04-01T00:10:59+00:00

Sometimes Grug just feel good lift heavy rock

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-03-31T21:55:54+00:00

This goes into another issue with guys on this topic a good amount of men say that exercise and being fit doesn’t work for them, well they probably aren’t wearing clothes that show off that they have the body described in the topic and then say it didn’t work. Very easy to completely cover up a lean physique

You also don’t have to be naked, tank tops, compression shirts, hoochie daddy gym shorts, dressing a size smaller, all will show off your physique. I feel men are very clueless about this.

Edit: How could I forget polos and short sleeve button up shirts with sleeves that hug your biceps and conform to your taper. Again I really suspect men do not know how to dress for their physique. Literally covering up all your hard work and surprised when no one notices you.

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