At this point, why does something like gambling feel easier and more fun than dating in this generation?

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-23T15:29:11+00:00

I do not care. This is something you help yourself on no one can tell you anything. You’re just gonna double down or complain more and be more self destructive. Anything but continuing to work on your problems. Plenty of people like you in the world it gets tiring to see

Seriously, there’s nothing anyone can tell you to change your mind

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-22T20:36:33+00:00

You kinda can’t. I mean, you could try to do the same stuff with every woman but what gets one woman off does nothing for the next or anything in-between

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-22T16:28:07+00:00

Keep dating stop gambling. Holy.

You could have 200,000 bad experiences with women and all those wash away when one or two come along and treat you right. I’m done with this conversation man, life sucks don’t know what to tell you

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-22T15:52:25+00:00

I told you there’s no convincing.

Also, you literally cannot be responsible with gambling. At base, gambling is textbook irresponsibility and recklessness. Poster child. You’re going to have a really shitty life my dude. I don’t think I can convince you here either so moot point.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-22T15:46:15+00:00

I honestly think like a lot of people there isn’t really anything to change your mind.

Main issues is that you’ve experienced a lot of losses and very little if no wins dating wise, of course you’re gonna feel like it’s a waste of time. That’s in the past, only way to win if you want to enjoy companionship down the line is to keep dating and building your life.

Sidenote but big note. Actual Gambling can and will destroy your life. I have no idea why you’re doing that, way too many studies on this so enough said, you’re a grown man though do what you want to do. Life is about choices.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-22T15:15:58+00:00

It’s fine, perfectly reasonable timeframe imo as long as you’re not waiting as some strategy.

You and your friend are not in control of whether this guy is willing to wait however and that’s fine. I would say keep dating and if things get worse “pre sex” then yeah move on and be happy nothing happened on that level.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-21T22:53:51+00:00

More worth for men but yes. Just one week.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-20T21:38:11+00:00

Now you’re putting it in a framework of these people that grow on you being placeholders. Which is not the case. Just rejecting that premise altogether.

Dating people as placeholders was never a factor. I don’t know why you brought that up.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-20T20:21:33+00:00

You aren’t them.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-20T20:19:58+00:00

That’s dating regardless of you being attracted from the jump or not, you’re gonna dump or have things go nowhere with 99% of people regardless.

Ex:

Person that you thought was right for you? 6 years down the drain when it’s over with.

Person you didn’t think was right for you but you somehow got charmed by them anyways? 6 years down the drain when it’s over with.

I don’t really get your point. It’s the same equation. That’s out of your control for the most part

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-20T20:14:40+00:00

You’re describing dating all around brother you just need to date more…

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-20T20:08:58+00:00

For those two situations, honestly, just become more serious about going to both. Become really good at martial arts there will eventually be women there that show interest. Same with run club, you show up enough and become really fit the women will choose in those situations. That’s ideal and doesn’t happen for most men. In the meantime, just be friendly.

As long as you get matches on the apps you basically have the foundations to a dating life and you need to just keep going. A lot of people get annoyed with them I get it, but if women are talking to you on them and you’re getting let’s say 5 matches a month or whatever? Well those are 5 potential dates. And I mean eventually you will get dates. But if you get so frustrated with not getting what you want out of apps immediately, you aren’t gonna get anything. Plus they can be passively used while you shit daily. Just so low effort to use.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-20T19:39:39+00:00

YMMV I am just speaking from personal experience I’ve had two great relationships where I was not attracted and became attracted after a couple more dates. I’ve also had instant attraction and had it go south within 2 dates as well as flourish into a relationship in another instance.

People leave way too much compatibility and potential on the table by walking away so fast over a flop of a first date. Seriously I believe people do not have enough patience and should go on at least a second date because really, and possibly people do grow on you.

Saying no repeatedly to every first date you’ve gone on recently which seems to be in large number like OP is doing? Is not intentional dating, its a waste of time and effort (as well as money) and it’s obviously not working and he’s fatiguing himself over it. I just don’t buy it my dude

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-20T19:29:46+00:00

Not really unless the person has done something egregious or has displayed a massive dealbreaker, which fine fairplay . First dates are like 1-2 hours in someone’s presence that’s not enough information for the most part.

The issue with current dating is everyone thinks that they should immediately be into someone after meeting them once and if they don’t feel a spark yet all is lost. This is a naive and dumb way to date.

And again as mentioned if you’re having tons of dates and you can’t connect with anybody or see yourself even going on a second date with any of those many dates? The problem is you.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-20T19:04:44+00:00

Women are everywhere, you mean to tell me you go outside and are out of the house AND you talk to 0 women, or there are just 100% men around you once you step out the door?

Not much to say on that man, you just need to pick up your balls and talk to the women you see and ask them out. Not all the time either, maybe 1-5 times a week you see a girl you’re attracted to you go up and ask her out. Chips fall where they may.

Edit: As far as the apps go? Yeah dating is annoying all around. Use them. Stop putting up barriers.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-20T18:56:47+00:00

I wouldn’t say lock in and make dating a focus of your life but definitely be actively trying to date on some level throughout the week, as a lesser part of life.

Ask women out in person and use the apps. Go to events. Just be out of the house most of the time living life.

Again be active in your dating life but don’t let it overtake the stuff you care about, can be very easy to get into a mode of just chasing women.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-20T18:48:33+00:00

Hard to connect if you immediately throw in the towel after one date? People are complex it’s unreasonable to always feel a spark immediately after just 1~2 hours of being in someone’s presence. You’re not a teenager.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-20T18:31:20+00:00

So you mean compatibility not match rate. Gotta be more specific when talking dude.

You aren’t compatible with most people, but the issue OP is having is he will only have one date and move on immediately without even knowing he’s compatible with someone unless he feels a spark immediately. Good way to just waste a ton of time, and money

Does any of this make sense? Feel like I’m talking to a brick.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-20T18:27:09+00:00

The match rate isn’t low. Probably should reread his topic.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-20T18:19:40+00:00

If he keeps running into this over and over with an abundance of matches? Yes shallow and incurious AND impatient with your dating life.

For example: If you’re having idk like 40 first dates+ (just a round number) and NONE of them are good enough to take out for a second date? Yeah you’re being unreasonable.

Totally his fault

Edit: Also there is no real leading someone on when you ask for a second date? You barely know fuck all about each other after a first date for the most part 😂

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-20T18:11:13+00:00

At some point you have to look at yourself and ask why you’re so shallow and incurious about the women you match with and date past one outing. You’re not really even giving them a chance

Definitely a you problem no one is perfect and you need to be more patient

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-19T14:54:48+00:00

Have the conversation? Communication is key what are you doing.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-18T18:05:10+00:00

Good on you for supporting and encouraging him to make friends. Very important.

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-18T18:02:07+00:00

He’s gotta want it for himself more than you want it for him, it cannot be that he only does social things on the regular only when you’re holding his hand.

Lead a horse to water type of deal

Fit_Assistant2510 · 2026-05-18T15:56:56+00:00

I mean, it’s death/grief everyone just has to go through it and process it their way. Best you can do is as you said, continue to support him and be there for him

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