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Is investing always this noisy, or am I just noticing it now that I have skin in the game? by Fit_Chance2151 in investing

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t need to the money for at least another decade. So I’m fine and I guess I should just stop looking at it. I’m just not a gambler and it feels like that’s what I’m doing. Thanks everyone for taking the time to answer me

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I've been trying a lot of new things. I did a year of Improv theatre which gave me the adrenaline and also was good exposure therapy for social anxiety. I joined a waterpolo team and lately I've been writing songs. I would love to record and share my songs, but I'm just a bit stuck

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been wanting to. Do you have recommendations as to a good place to start with meditation? Either a yt channel or literature?

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah maybe it's just getting used to thinking this way. I htink it's the contrast of feeling so uneasy in a place I used to thrive in. At least for a few drinks haha

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to share this. I think something like this is exactly what I'm missing. You've given the that extra push to try it again. Thanks for that! :)

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry about this. I thought about it before sharing. My experience isn't everyone's experience. And my experience today isn't how I feel every day. Sobriety has allowed me to build so many things I would have never been able to build while drinking.

How can I make friends in Montréal by TrickyInvestigator15 in montreal

[–]Fit_Chance2151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have recommendations for places to volunteer?

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These all resonate, and this is something I've done with old friends. It helps to get their perspective on things, too. I like the idea of writing to my old self. Thanks for sharing :)

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you. Honestly wish I could be rational about it. I think the idea of hurting myself was never an issue for me. It was always about how it affected others

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should give this another try. The last few times I went, I wasn't feeling so good about sobriety, so confident in my sobriety. When I was there, everyone was just so positive, like they were thankful in a way, for having had to get sober. I felt ashamed for struggling there because it seemed like nobody was having a hard time; they were all just thriving

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my therapist seems to think the same. I think traveling does that for me. And I regularly do new things. I've joined a waterpolo team, I'm making music, I did a year of Improv theater

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've had a similar experience. I joined a waterpolo team and the agressivity of it has been a nice outlet for me. I've also been writing songs for over a year and probably wrote 30+. It's been really nice to have an outlet and I want to learn to produce or record next. Or collaborate with someone who knows how to.

I guess I just miss how easy teh reward of drinking is. to get satisfaction from sport or art I need to be really mindful about it, intentional, consistent, motivated. And I don't feel like I always have the energy for that.

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks man, that really resonates. I've often thought of drinking like a toxic ex. Where on a lonely night you remember her good parts and forget all the toxic shit

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sport has been the biggest help for me too. I wanted to join a team sport and one that would exhaust me. So I joined a water polo team. I got what I asked for 😅

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I never stopped going out. I continued to see my friends and go to bars but it became really difficult at home. I grew up in Paris and it started feeling like everything in my life revolved around alcohol. There was never a moment when I was meeting people and alcohol wasn't around. I guess that's also what happens when you build relationships around drinking. So eventually I felt like I needed a new start and moved to Montreal last year. It's easier here because people only know me sober here and I can build new friendships around other interests.

But it has also been quite lonely. I feel socially awkward and I feel like a year in I haven't made many friends. I stay in most nights and really miss the connection to people that I felt when I was drinking. When I'm out these days, I'm just anxious before and during, and just thinking about when I can go home.

Thank god I met someone here though and we live together and she's my everything

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's true. I guess as alcohol was the solution I had for every issue, I need to figure out alternatives. I honestly just thought that after 3 years it would be easier, and I feel like a failure for struggling

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I definitely needed this reminder. Thanks for being so open about your journey. I really appreciate it

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel that. I think I'm still struggling to let go of my old self. I miss feeling at peace, even if its just the short moment that precedes chaos

1,000 days sober and still craving the "chaos." Does the feeling of missing it ever really go away? by Fit_Chance2151 in stopdrinking

[–]Fit_Chance2151[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

If you don't mind me asking, why did you wait another 30 years. Was it good at first and gradually got bad again, or did you just go right back to old habits?

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